Family style hidden in parents' words and deeds

Speaking of family style, I can't help thinking of my parents. They are all farmers to the core. They have been dealing with land all their lives, and they have never left the countryside, whether it is collective production labor or contracting to households. Their life is arranged according to seasons and farming, planting in spring and harvesting in autumn and storing in winter, and living a hard and simple rural life. Parents have no so-called family style in our education, but influence us by words and deeds, asking us to grow up with us. These should be our family style.

No matter how difficult it is, you should study. When my eldest brother went to school, he was catching up with the "Cultural Revolution". Instead of studying, students took part in the critical movement and agricultural production. Back in those days, my grandparents were thrifty, so they bought more acres of land, and were designated as "rich peasants" during the land reform. During the Cultural Revolution, this "rich peasant" hat was inherited and put on parents' heads, and our heads became the object of criticism at villagers' meetings and the object that villagers could spurn and humiliate. Under such circumstances, our parents have been asking us to study hard. Brother's grades are excellent in the class, but he didn't even qualify for the college entrance examination after graduating from high school, but his parents still insisted that all four of us should study, and they would be happy as long as we got good grades. Later, the entrance examination system was restored, and I was admitted to the normal school. My parents are even happier than me. Faced with the low tuition fees that our family can't afford, they firmly said that even if I sold the iron, I would still have to pay for my school. Later, my brother was admitted to the Teachers College. When he graduated, his parents in their sixties borrowed more than 6000 yuan to train him. Faced with the heavy economic pressure, I once asked my mother why she didn't give up studying because her family was so poor, and let us work to earn points, or work to earn money to support our family. She said we couldn't live like them all our lives. Only by studying can there be a way out and hope. It is precisely because our parents adhere to such a simple belief that we wait until spring blossoms, settle down with our careers and have the opportunity to realize our ideals in life.

No matter how poor you are, you have to study art. Eldest brother is not qualified to take the college entrance examination, let alone join the army. In order to find a way for the child, his parents didn't leave him to work at home. After careful consideration, they finally decided to send him to learn carpentry and his 18-year-old brother to his mother's cousin 30 miles away to learn crafts. On the day I sent my eldest brother away, my mother repeatedly told me that I must be diligent and not lazy. I only listened to my master's words, and my eldest brother agreed to them one by one. Then I put my father on my back with a bike and took a gift to learn from the teacher. A study lasted for three years. In three years, the master took his eldest brother to walk in cities and rural areas, making furniture for others and teaching him crafts, while his eldest brother paid manual labor for free. After coming back, my parents arranged for my eldest brother to learn carpentry from my eldest brother. Eldest brother became a famous carpenter in the countryside. A young man and a big girl are going to get married, and their eldest brother will be asked to make wedding furniture. With the development of urban real estate, eldest brother has also become a member of migrant workers, making wooden models on the construction site. Because he has a high school education and can read drawings, he became a technician on the construction site. Although he works hard, his income is still considerable. Now big brother has trained all the children with his own skills. Daughter's medical undergraduate course and son's normal undergraduate course all have their favorite jobs! Eldest brother himself settled down in the city and lived a rich life. Warring States policy? Touching Ji Long told Empress Dowager Zhao that Touching Ji Long advised the Empress Dowager: "Parents' love for their sons is far-reaching. "My parents haven't read the Warring States Policy, but the plan they make for their children is a long-term plan!

Be kind to others, and it is a blessing to suffer. In the village, parents have no rights and status, but their popularity is good. My father is ingenious and decent in everything, weaving baskets and seats, building walls and houses, cooking stoves and repairing cars, and everything is fine. As long as anyone in the village needs it, as long as he gives the order, my father will immediately put down his work to help others. My mother is also a warm-hearted, and she never argues with others. She always makes way for conflicts of interest, never fights or scolds others, and we are not allowed to fight or swear. Parents always tell us, don't be afraid to pay, don't save energy if you don't use it, and you will have it again if you use it; Don't be afraid of losing money in life, losing money is a blessing, and you are steadfast in your heart. Now, the land has been subcontracted to others for farming. My mother is over eighty years old, but she won't leave her hometown in the countryside. Besides taking care of her own vegetable garden, she also helps others. Anyone in the village who needs help, as long as she can, her mother will take the initiative to help for free. There is a shortage of labor in the village, mostly left-behind children and empty nesters. These are the things that mother is most worried about. When she saw that her peers could not take care of themselves, she would take the initiative to help; When she sees the difficulties of the left-behind children, she will give generously and not tell others. Whenever I go home, the villagers I meet always praise my mother, whose behavior is well known in the village. Confucius said, "His body is upright, but he does not obey orders, while his body is not upright, although he does not obey orders." Our brother and sister can grow up to be moral and ethical people, which is inseparable from their parents' words and deeds.

Family style is an important part of China traditional culture, a way for ancestors to educate their descendants, an interpretation of family survival wisdom, an important role in personal cultivation and family harmony, and a cornerstone of the national building. The inheritance of family style depends not on wealth, but on virtue. Although my grandparents didn't write their family style clearly, they practiced it by example and virtue, educated future generations and became inexhaustible spiritual strength in our hearts.