Dink was happy for a while, but Dink was always happy. Is dink free or irresponsible?

The pressure of social life is increasing. Many times, people can't support themselves even if they can't make ends meet, so there is no need to raise another child. Moreover, raising children is not a one-off event. For some people with ideals and ambitions, having a child is likely to completely disrupt their life rhythm and life planning, which is the most unacceptable thing for them, so a word called "double income no kids" appeared accordingly.

The Dink family is roughly explained by the fact that married couples do not have children and have been living alone, and even put forward the slogan "Dink is cool for a while, Dink is always cool".

However, the Dinks are also called irresponsible by many people. After all, having children and prolonging life is the most important mission that nature has entrusted to mankind. If you only think for yourself, it is selfish, so choosing double income no kids husband and wife on your own initiative will often be criticized by others.

Famous Dinks, such as Carina Lau in Tony Leung Chiu Wai and Chen Huilian in Chow Yun Fat, have a successful career, but they have no children and have been criticized by the outside world.

However, are the Dinks free or irresponsible?

A while ago, my cousin and my cousin suddenly divorced, which surprised me. After all, their relationship has always been very good. I didn't know until I asked the reason. Before they got married, my cousin even verbally promised my cousin not to have children and stayed alone.

Cousin does not want to have children, which is related to her family factors. My cousin's mother died in childbirth, and my cousin's own sister actually died in childbirth. This has a lot to do with cousin's poor medical conditions in rural areas, but it has left a great psychological shadow on cousin, thinking that she is not suitable for having children, so one of the conditions for getting married is not having children. At that time, my cousin agreed as soon as her brain was hot, and she didn't tell her parents.

Up to now, after five years of marriage, my cousin is still unwilling to change. My cousin is in his thirties and is very anxious. So are my cousin's parents. If they can't see it, they will force my cousin to divorce.

I never thought there would be Mr. and Mrs. Dinks around me before, so I was still very emotional after knowing it.

To be honest, I understand my cousin, but I also understand my cousin. The incident itself can't tell anyone's fault. It can only be said that it was a prank, which led to the divorce and made me pay more attention to the Dinks.

Through private letters from netizens, I also met some Dinks and suddenly found different people. Dink's results are really great.

First, CoCo Lee and his wife: Dink and their husbands.

CoCo Lee is an architectural designer with her own design team. She is very proud of her work, which she will never give up.

My husband used to be the editor-in-chief of a newspaper. After marriage, he left his job voluntarily and chose to take care of his family. He has many hobbies, such as collecting, painting, reading, cooking, pottery, music and so on. These are not familiar to CoCo Lee, but he can find that her husband likes them very much.

In the first few years, I didn't have children because I was busy with work, but when I got used to this life, I didn't want to have children because there were many women around CoCo Lee. After giving birth to the child, she had to leave her job or give up her present job to concentrate on taking care of the child. For CoCo Lee, she cares more about her career.

Her husband also respects her idea. After 30 years, the relationship between husband and wife has not been unfamiliar because they have no children. On the contrary, it has become profound in simplicity, mutual understanding and support, frequent travel and frequent eating, and the quality of life is getting higher and higher.

Second, Mr. and Mrs. Peach: I can't have children.

Peaches can't have children. If you want to have a baby, you must do a test tube, but the family economy does not allow it.

The husband has a mother with mental illness. Before marriage, the husband had taken care of his mother for more than ten years. After marriage, Tao Zi and she have taken care of her husband and mother for seven years now.

It's really tiring to take care of others. Sometimes I want to adopt one, but I feel tired if I think too much. Taking care of my husband and mother has exhausted all the energy of the Taozi couple. I don't want it.

For example, my cousin Xiao Na and his wife, Dink, regretted it for seven years.

Lao Li and his wife, Xiao Na, agreed not to have children before they got married. The middle-aged Lao Li regretted it more and more, but Xiao Na still didn't want to have children, and finally divorced.

At the time of divorce, Lao Li was 4 1 year old. Now he has remarried and has children of his own. He works hard for the children every day. Xiao Na still chooses Dink, who lives alone in a house of nearly 200 square meters, has time to cook by himself, and goes to Xiaozi when he has no time. He has a boyfriend, but the condition of communication is still not to have children.

There are also many girlfriends around, but they are basically mothers who are busy with their children all day. They all say they envy Xiao Na. Although they don't know whether this is true or not, Xiao Na doesn't care. She only knows that life is her own. She has a strong heart and can live better without children.

Old people always say, "It's too early to have a baby, and it's too late to regret it."

In fact, for double income no kids's criticism, double income no kids has to bear the following pressure:

First, parents and traditional pressure.

Whether or not to have children seems to be personal freedom, but in fact, individuals also live in a big circle, in which there are parents, relatives and friends.

Especially for parents, the old saying goes: there are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no big one. In the eyes of traditional parents, double income no kids is the biggest unfilial. For example, my cousin's parents forced her cousin to divorce, and many old parents threatened their children with death.

Second, social pressure.

A doctor friend told me that the vast majority of people in double income no kids are infertile, which is also a common understanding of society.

Regardless of whether the husband and wife are fertile or not, once Dink is chosen, they will think that the husband and wife are infertile. This kind of whispering behind your back sometimes kills people like a sharp knife, which causes great pressure on both husband and wife.

Third, the pain of old age.

Most people still think that their old age will be very painful after they have no children. After all, the old saying goes well: "Raising children to prevent old age" and "Daughters are parents' intimate little cotton-padded jackets".

However, countless facts have proved that a person's later life has little to do with his children. Children should also have children's lives, and basically will not live with their parents. On the contrary, parents will continue to work hard and pay for their children and grandchildren. To tell the truth, this tiring heart is really suffering.

Having said that, I don't think it's that important to ask whether Dink is free or irresponsible.

Xi Murong, a writer, once said in Monologue: "It takes half a lifetime for people to suddenly realize that I have been trying to win praise and smiles from others, and I have long been blurred and can't find myself."

People live a lifetime, but they are only a hundred years old. Living your own life is the most important thing. Couples who are fertile and choose Dink have enough courage and psychological endurance. Secondly, they really understand that life is for themselves, not for others.

In fact, if you don't want to have children, you should have more. After all, most people want to have children. Nature and society will not change at all because of a small number of Dink families.

Life, how to be happy, everyone has the right to choose, there is no need to control his mouth and criticize Dink.

Dink is just one of many ways in the world. He was born a man, so don't be sorry. Please be kind. After all, children and grandchildren are full, and there are many helpless people in their later years. It's not surprising that everyone has seen more.