The ambiguous relationship between men and women in the world

The ambiguous relationship between men and women in the world

Boyfriend or girlfriend? It is hard to say; Lover comrade? Yes, but no; Brothers and sisters? You can also say that.

In fact, even they don't know much about their relationship. It seems that he can't live without her and she can't live without him, but in fact, they each have their own sunshine, air and humidity.

Cities that have been subverting traditions with diverse values are constantly metabolizing, and the relationship between men and women is becoming more and more diversified. The relationship between him and her, from emotion to body, is becoming more and more ambiguous.

One of the ambiguous relationships: brother and sister (sister)

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Signboard slogan: "So-and-so is my brother, and we are relatives."

"She is younger than me 10 years old, little sister."

Classic lens:

1. Every noon, a young woman will appear at the front desk of his company, smiling and carrying several lunch boxes and saying, "Brother, how about trying the fried rice with eggs I made today?" Then watch him eat happily, and then help him clean up, and don't forget to wipe the rice grains on his chin carefully. He said sadly, "I really don't know what's going on in your little head!" " "

At the party, he was surrounded by beautiful women, and his partners teased each other. It is not surprising that he eats tofu. However, someone told her a dirty joke, which made her blush. He immediately stood on his head and taught her, "Don't bully her, she is my sister."

She wears fashionable clothes, but a young man often appears around her and calls her sister affectionately. Actually, there is no blood relationship at all. When crossing the road, she will hold his hand tightly, and when eating, she will specially give him a chopstick dish. Many men who pursue her are easily looked down upon by her. It's just that this little "brother" sometimes protects "sister" like an adult, and sometimes becomes a naughty boy who makes "sister" laugh and cry.

Relationship dialysis:

For "brother", the significance of little sister's existence is that it makes him want to protect her. When the heroism in a man's heart needs to be confided, when he feels helpless and lonely, the cleverness and weakness of "Little Sister" often make him feel more comfortable than the general gentleness and thoughtfulness, and her worship of him makes him feel particularly confident, which just satisfies a certain spiritual conquest desire of a man. For "Sister", what she wants is simple: to be loved and protected.

For "Sister", before her perfect boyfriend, "Brother" was a very close little follower. He has the double benefits of a man and a boy, and he won't deliberately embarrass her. When she is in trouble, he will not betray his oath, but when her maternal instinct is revealed, he becomes a lovely and naive "little thing". For "younger brother", "elder sister" is often a trustworthy woman full of feminine charm.

Potential crisis:

In real life, most "kinship relationships" are often difficult to evolve into real love relationships. In this relationship between men and women, there are many elements of pity and love. They seldom have the same language, let alone the same experience, and the feelings of "brothers and sisters" are often more complicated and easy to fall into it. Once "ambiguity" is excessive, once "brothers and sisters" have lovers, "brothers and sisters" will inevitably become a stumbling block.

The second kind of ambiguous relationship: beauty blue.

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Signboard slogan: "A woman's heart and body can be separated, and there is only one word between us."

"There is no pure friendship between men and women? I only blame you for not finding a confidante. "

"He is my soul friend. We know each other, but we never had it."

Classic lens:

1. Every time he quarrels with his wife, he runs out of the door and cries at her house. After that, he will say, "Why don't I love you? Why can't my wife be as understanding as you? " She replied, "If your wife can do what I do, she is not your wife."

After being criticized by the boss, she couldn't figure it out. Her girlfriend refused to let her go shopping. She had to call him and complain bitterly. He gave her an analysis of the case and the truth of life until she was cheerful again. When she meets some important choices, she will also discuss with him, and she feels the same way. She said: "My boyfriend knows my body best, and you are my confidant who knows my heart best."

Relationship dialysis:

When they are depressed and encounter various life problems, they will become "fish that care about each other". Once the sea is at high tide, they swim separately. Even if both sides have their own lovers, some private words and confidences only tell "beauty is blue." To some extent, this relationship between men and women is mostly a kind of spiritual love. It can also be said that compared with the relationship between lovers, they only lack physical communication.

Potential crisis:

Even the most innocent confidante, once one lover is not sensible enough, it is easy to be misunderstood as a third party; Secondly, after all, it is a man and a woman. Once "wine meets a thousand cups of friends", it is inevitable to "take off your clothes" if you invest too much. Once the last line of defense is broken, this "bosom friend" relationship will be difficult to continue.

The third kind of ambiguous relationship: online dating

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The signboard slogan: "I love you, even if I never see you." I can feel everything about you, but I can't see you. This is not a problem. "

"We love each other in the world of bits, and this kind of love can't survive without the internet."

Classic lens:

1, he goes home to eat his wife's cooking every day, and then when she is washing in the kitchen, she hears the sound of tapping the keyboard in the room. This woman who doesn't have to take care of life and everything for him is sharing her husband's feelings at the other end of the network. And she is still silently guarding the soulless body of the man she married.

2. "Dear, send you 999 roses."

"Really?"

An email with a picture of a rose swooshed into her mailbox.

"Let me kiss you."

"Well, I feel it, your soft and moist lips."

"Well, I brushed your teeth specially."

Relationship dialysis:

On the Internet, they "fell in love" and even held a wedding. They are two strangers who have never met before. Word games are a source of interdependence and interest. They are addicted to it, and the Internet makes them look "perfect".

Unlike ordinary online dating, most of these online lovers don't meet each other, but rely on their imagination to create various romantic atmosphere and assumptions.

Unlike love in real life, online lovers pay a very low cost and do not need to bear moral pressure.

Potential crisis:

Because our love is just a maze made by our own imagination and words. So in case, in case it happens, the consequences are unimaginable. Forget the beautiful dinosaurs. If it turns out that the other person is of the same sex, Platonic extramarital affairs are good for married men and women, but if the computer is "poorly kept", it will also hurt the feelings in real life.

The fourth kind of ambiguous relationship: heterosexual sharing.

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Signboard slogan: "It's too heavy to live alone. I'm afraid of the dark. It's good to take care of a boy. "

"Her significance lies in not knowing what to eat except instant noodles every month."

"His significance is reflected in every time the fuse is blown and the gas tank is out of gas."

Classic lens:

1. He called his room a boys' dormitory and she called her room a girls' dormitory. Everything else is public. The sewer is broken, even if he is addicted to video games, he will appear as soon as he calls. It's raining hard outside, so I can't go out to eat. I coaxed her, promised to have money to invite her to a big meal, and guaranteed that two dishes and one soup would be delivered hot later.

There will be a party in the evening. She discussed with him: "Maybe there are more friends. There are not so many people in my room. Can you make room for me? " He agreed and said, "Just cook for me next time. I will disappear automatically on the day of the party. Send me a message after the meeting. "

Relationship dialysis:

Compared with lesbian sharing, co-sharing brings more happiness, trust and relaxation. Just like the meaning of "men and women are United and happy" in the office, this new tenant relationship is full of a different sense of interest. According to the survey, most roommates of the opposite sex think that men don't haggle with women, and they don't care about details such as the size and orientation of the room and who uses the bathroom. The situation between women is much more complicated, and even leads to discord and friends turning against each other. Real men and women who live in the same room respect each other, keep their distance and help each other. For both sides, they not only experienced most of the advantages of the opposite sex, but also avoided the troubles of mutual suspicion, monopoly and haggle over every ounce.

Potential crisis:

The house itself is very ambiguous. Single men and women live in the same room. Even if they are not in the same room, they are very, very close. People who go home usually return to their nature. Casual, free, sloppy and even ugly life details are exposed to each other. Although some people develop into love because their lifestyles are very close, they are still a man and a woman with a distance. The opposite sex sharing a house can easily develop into a couple, and from sharing to cohabitation. However, if you seek common life because of temporary blindness or the mentality of solving personal problems, you may be used by people with ulterior motives, hurting your feelings and disturbing your life.

The fifth kind of ambiguous relationship: sexual partner

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Signboard slogan: "You just need company, not love."

"There are many solutions to the emptiness of the mind, but the hunger and thirst of the body is helpless, so I need a sexual partner."

Classic lens:

When she got off work on Friday, her cell phone rang and his voice rang: "Is this weekend convenient for you?" She thought for a moment: "Let me think. Oh, no, I have a friend coming to see me from Guangzhou. I'm afraid it's inconvenient for you to come. "

He just smiled and said, "Well, have a nice weekend and call me if you miss me."

2. Every fixed time, he will come as scheduled, pick her up for dinner after work, then go to his apartment or her dormitory, spend the night in spring night, and then say goodbye. She doesn't even know anything about his work. The only certainty is that he is a good sexual partner.

Relationship dialysis:

In Entanglement, White Mills said: "One of the characteristics of modern people is their desire for unknown intimacy, which will appear and stop at the right time, just like looking for wealth."

Nowadays, in the sense of sexual partner, in addition to solving physical problems, it is more about self-comfort and escape from reality. After all, they are all people who are afraid of loneliness and even more afraid that others will know that they are lonely. We need love, and we can't live without sex. Many times, sex and love are equally important. With a personal partner, at least with the warmth of the body, you can temporarily forget the loneliness of the soul.

Potential crisis:

Russell has hit the nail on the head and pointed out: "Love can renew our whole life, just as showers after drought are to plants. Sex without love has no such power at all. After a moment of joy, what remains is fatigue, disgust and emptiness in life. "

The sixth kind of ambiguous relationship: part-time parents (drivers, bodyguards, nannies)

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Signboard slogan: "Anyway, he has a car and just dropped me off."

"It is always normal for men to invite women to dinner. He is willing to invite, I am willing to eat, and others are watching! "

Classic lens:

He has an Audi. He holds a high position in a big company: he has a loving girlfriend. I don't remember how I met him. In a word, it seems to have become his habit to pick her up every day since he took the initiative to send her home one night and knew that each other's companies were on the same line.

2. Every time after work, if her boyfriend is not available, she will shout loudly in the office: "Who invited me to dinner today!" Then I pointed my finger at one of my male colleagues and coaxed him to shake his shoulder: "You'd better invite me, ok?"

Relationship dialysis:

Most of their relations developed from the aspect of work cooperation. Many times, women take it for granted that they are taken care of by men, and men's "hero" mentality makes them feel honored most of the time. In this relationship, many components are often used.

Potential crisis:

Because such a relationship is based on simple "mutual care and mutual use", both men and women often lack the same language. Once the care is not thorough, or the "service" is not thoughtful, it will easily lead to the deterioration of the relationship. In addition, there have been some scandals around such "part-time parents". Maybe you are just hitchhiking, but how do others know where the bus will end?

Ambiguous relationship 7: date

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Signboard slogan: "What's the fun of playing alone? I just found myself a playmate. "

"He knows where there is the best food, the latest and strangest things to play, and he can smell the" excitement "of the city. Instead of looking for someone to accompany me casually, he might as well find someone who can play. "

Classic lens:

1. Every time the cinema announces a new blockbuster broadcast cycle, she will call him immediately and ask him to prepare popcorn and coke to accompany her to the movies. She doesn't mind whether she buys the ticket or he treats, and she doesn't mind studying the feedback all night. She feels that no one is more suitable to be a confidant in this field except him.

Every time he gets together with a group of friends on the forum, he will invite her. Although she never goes to this forum, she lacks interest in the so-called cultural topics they talk about. He just likes to invite her to guess boxing and drink with him. When he was talking and laughing at the dinner table, it seemed that her duty was to eat and drink and get back the capital.

Relationship dialysis:

They are not lovers, but they often date, travel, drink and watch movies. They are fixed dates. Generally speaking, it can also be understood as "fair-weather friends". They often have the same interest in a hobby or a behavior habit, and they can come and go happily every date. It also belongs to the fishing mode that Jiang Taigong wants to accompany and is willing to accompany.

The relationship between new and new men and women seems to be divided more and more finely, which needs to be divided according to responsibilities, hobbies, specific functions and so on. The subtlety of this is that birds of a feather flock together.

Potential crisis:

If the relationship between dating objects is stable and certain enough and based on the same interests, it can be called like-minded. If only one party is lonely and needs recreation, and the other party belongs to pure "N company", then such a relationship has indescribable suspicion. Or the person you want to accompany secretly loves the person you want to accompany, which is undoubtedly hurting your feelings and wasting each other's time.