Is it "natural" for men to treat on their first date? what do you think?

In many people's subconscious thoughts, men and women know each other from the beginning, then two people communicate to determine the relationship of love, and then move from love to marriage.

In the process of getting along with men and women, men should take the initiative, and women should not be too active; This subconscious is just like many people think that when boys and girls date together, it is a matter of course for men to pay for a treat.

In fact, the first date, the first time you invite a girl to dinner, it's nothing for a boy to take the initiative; But if we get along with each other for a long time, no matter what two people spend, it will definitely bring some psychological imbalance to boys.

So, for women, what do they think of the view that it is natural for men to be kind to you?

I talked to some female netizens about this problem, and here are their real thoughts.

1, @ Ms. Dong, 24, single.

"Boys want to chase me and are not willing to spend money. Why should I give him a chance?"

I think it is a waste of time to talk about love purely now, whether it is love or marriage. Most people actually want to find a better condition.

You think, there are so many high-quality resources, not to mention that many people may grab this high-quality resource at the same time; As a rich boy, and a boy who has no money but is kind to me, I would rather choose bread.

I think that only after you get enough material life can you have more time to enrich your heart and deepen the feelings between two people.

Everyone is an adult. If a boy just wants to give you love, but even the most basic life is hard to guarantee, then why stay with him?

If a boy wants to invite me to dinner, is it the most basic courtesy for him to invite me to dinner? Is it also the most basic for girls to find the right restaurant and their favorite restaurant?

Before marriage, I thought it was natural for men to treat and spend money.

2.@ Ms. Zhu, aged 25, is engaged.

"If I like him very much, it doesn't matter who spends money; If I have no feelings for him, then I don't want to spend other people's money. "

When I was first with my fiance, he pursued me. Actually, I had no feelings for him at that time. After all, I know nothing about it. He took the initiative to add my contact information.

I remember very clearly that in previous dates, we were all AA. He insisted on treating me, but I refused. Later, when we were together, whoever had money would be treated when he was paid.

To tell the truth, I don't want to owe others feelings; The debt of gratitude is the hardest to pay off.

When two people are not familiar with each other and have not yet determined their love relationship, I think it is best to adopt AA system. Women also have hands and feet, and have their own brains and thoughts. Why do they depend on men for everything?

Of course, after you two establish a relationship, it is no problem for you to depend on each other.

After all, they are lovers. No matter who spends money, it belongs to his family.

3.@ Ms. Sun, 26 years old, single.

"It is appropriate to invite boys to dinner on the first date, which is a means to observe whether boys are reliable."

A few days ago, my best friend sent me a message saying that a Phoenix man was chasing her. She was really a stingy Phoenix man.

Two people had a blind date for dinner for the first time. As a result, the man took her to the night market to eat a stall, and then they spent 30 yuan on it. One of the girlfriends only drank a glass of water and didn't eat anything.

At that time, I felt that such a man deserved to be single.

I think it's right for boys to invite you on their first date. See how much he is willing to spend for you, and see if he takes your taste into account when eating.

I have my own income, with a monthly salary of 6-7K yuan, which can completely support myself.