I really don’t blame you for having weak willpower.

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The difference between us and successful people is not a lack of strength or knowledge, but a lack of will. – Vince Lombardi

I went through a period of overestimating my willpower.

For example, I will develop many hobbies at the same time, thinking that I can hold them all.

I learned to skateboard in the summer and swung for more than ten days. I gave up before I could learn how to take off with the board.

When I was teaching, I learned to paint, but I put it aside as soon as I mastered the composition. There were a lot of reasons.

"Three-minute heat" is a label I am extremely reluctant to give myself. I tried making some changes, but the results were never satisfactory. Why can't I always follow through? I was a little discouraged and angry with myself.

Sometimes I also learn to comfort myself. People’s willpower may be inherently different. Some people are born with stronger willpower than others. And I am the one with the most ordinary qualifications.

It was not until I re-thought about willpower and consulted the classic book "Willpower" that I discovered that I had been deceived by the word willpower for many years.

In fact, willpower is not entirely dependent on subjective control. What truly leads you to a strong willpower are the conditions and appropriate methods you create for yourself. I really don’t blame you for your weak willpower, you just haven’t found the right method.

I used to be very superstitious about willpower, but later I gradually realized that willpower is a limited resource and should be used sparingly.

You have the most energy and the greatest reserves of willpower when you get up every morning, but as you deal with more and more things throughout the day, your willpower will be slowly depleted. So we should allocate our willpower to the things that matter most.

Artists are sloppy when they create behind closed doors, not for the sake of fashion, but because they use all their willpower on creations that require huge amounts of energy.

Why Han Hong doesn’t lose weight and why Jack Ma doesn’t dress up are all for the same reason. Their willpower is used in their own professional fields. This is the optimal configuration.

On the contrary, if you use the most precious time in the morning to play games, after the golden time is over, when you want to use your willpower to achieve your goals, you will no longer be able to do it.

Remember, use prime time to do important things.

Is it true that Libras with "difficulty in choosing" are more prone to willpower fatigue? Can making choices also affect willpower?

It's true. The more goals you have, the more decisions you need to make. The more entangled you are, the less action you will take. Constant worrying is really draining your willpower.

For example, last year I planned to buy a house. Should I buy a property in the city center with convenient transportation, or should I buy a property in the suburbs and enjoy a good environment? Should I buy from a big developer and enjoy good properties, or should I buy from a small developer for cost-effectiveness? Do you consider more for self-occupation or more for appreciation in value? These are not enough, house type, orientation, floor... I only know that I feel exhausted by the end of the selection, and I don't even want to buy it. Many of them are hastily done.

Entrepreneurs usually need more willpower than office workers. It's because they need to make decisions for every choice and arrangement they make, and bear the consequences of the response.

Remember: In order to avoid decision fatigue, please sort things by priority, and then cross out everything after "3". Only reasonable goal management can help you make good use of your willpower.

What? Willpower also needs to be recharged? I know you're probably confused.

If willpower consumes energy, what exactly is this energy?

Think about it, do you have more energy in the first two classes in the morning than in the last two classes? Is it easier to stay awake when drinking functional drinks while driving for a long time?

Glucose and willpower are indeed positively correlated. If you want to quickly improve your willpower, you can try "chocolate". For long-term improvement, you can try supplementing with high-quality protein.

Of course, positive actions and positive words will also "recharge" your willpower and help you do things better.

I once had a friend who had inspirational slogans posted everywhere on the walls and desk at home when he was starting a business. There is even a picture of a BMW stuck on the back of the door. Whenever he goes out, he tells himself: "I am going to earn back the BMW tires today!"

You will also find that, with sales Related industries are usually inseparable from morning meetings, regular meetings and large-scale meetings. The atmosphere in the venue is warm and exciting. You may get goosebumps, but it’s a great way to replenish your willpower energy. The more challenging the job, the more willpower is required.

Don’t think that this chicken blood is useless. Visualize your goals and increase your willpower “energy” in minutes. There are too many temptations on the way to achieve your goals. The moment you see a wall full of goals, you are likely to re-engage in conscious struggle due to a brief sense of shame.

Can incentives also be outsourced? Maybe you're in it yourself.

After you can post your step count on WeChat, you will walk more without realizing it; if you set a flag about weight loss or exercise in your circle of friends, you will stick to it better.

You can even pay 100 yuan to join the early-rising check-in community to motivate yourself, or pay to join the Ant Private School to force your growth.

For the sake of money and face, we are forced to continue.

But remember, this is not the end goal. You will find that people who are used to running can easily run 10 kilometers every day; people who are used to getting up early will no longer feel pain when they get up from a cold bed. From setting a bottom line, using willpower to persevere, perseverance, and finally, a good habit is developed. Once good habits are developed, willpower is no longer needed to maintain them.

Using willpower to develop good habits is the most effective means of self-control, bar none. Because habit is often stronger than reason, and habit hardly consumes willpower.

Willpower is actually a denial of the status quo. It is a long-term investment, and its significance is based on good expectations.

For example, losing weight, controlling your diet, and resisting the temptation of high-calorie foods are essentially about expecting yourself to have a good figure. Without a good expectation, and without feeling that this matter is necessary, there is no talk of willpower. And this ability to see far is our cognition.

A narrow, concrete, immediate focus is not conducive to self-control, while a broad, abstract, long-term focus is conducive to self-control.

A person's willpower is often related to a person's level of thinking. It is always difficult for short-sighted people to persist in the long term.

No matter what, let’s start by raising your cognitive level. (I can send you the pdf version of "Cognitive Breakthrough" for free)

I know you have been thinking about this.

For example, my dad set a goal of "quit drinking", which was very difficult for him. When he says drink "in moderation," rest assured, he will most likely drink too much. Because there is no such thing as "appropriate amount" in this world. If you don't want to fail, you can only say I won't touch a drop today, or one cup is one cup. This is the bright line.

So what should you do every time like this?

I suggest stopping and giving yourself 2 minutes to hesitate before making a decision. Don't think to the contrary, "I must hold back! I must!".

You need to recall your goal and mentally repeat what you want to do. Switch your mindset.

"I want to have a healthy body!" "I want to put my daughter at ease!" When you think about this, you don't want to drink so much.

If after 2 minutes, you still want to drink.

Okay, then remember the clear line you made, I will only drink one drink.

Of course, at the end of the day, we must know the limits of our willpower.

I am one of those people who always overestimates myself. Whenever I make New Year's resolutions, there is always a long row. The column for hobbies is filled with "guitar, cycling, and skateboarding." By the end of the year, nothing is often done. Because my upper limit of willpower does not allow me to restrain so many desires at the same time.

In fact, it takes at least a year and a half to develop a good habit. If I can develop a good habit in a year and a half, and the good habit does not require my willpower, then this is really an amazing progress!