It’s better to do well than say yes! When a child asks “can I play with my mobile phone?”, parents please answer this way

"Is it okay if I want to play with my mobile phone?"

When children ask this question

How do parents and friends respond

A

"Let's play for a while."

B

"Shall we go out and play?"

When faced with children’s requests to play with mobile phones

Different responses given by different parents

may have consequences for children’s behavior and habits

A completely different impact

A

"Then play for a while."

Many parents have no time to spend with their children because they need to work, and they are not accompanied by their parents. , mobile phones have become children’s spiritual sustenance.

Electronic products such as mobile phones contain radiation, and long-term use can cause harm to the human body, especially the eyes. Once a child uses a mobile phone for more than an hour a day, the risk of myopia will increase. Not only that, if children develop the habit of playing with mobile phones at home during holidays, it will be difficult to focus on studying.

Therefore, if parents are soft-hearted in the face of their children's request to play with mobile phones and agree without restraint, it will not only easily cause the child to suffer from myopia, but also cause the child's performance to decline and affect the future.

B

"Shall we go out and play?"

Parents' timely response, keeping children away from mobile phones, and taking children out for a walk can not only prevent children from Being addicted to playing with mobile phones can also make children more knowledgeable. Children who grow up in such an environment will have a broader horizon.

So what should parents do

to let their children use mobile phones rationally

In fact, blindly blocking is not enough

Becoming blocked Sparing is the best policy

Parents may wish to try the following 4 tips

1. Add "negative effects" to mobile phones

What if mobile phones are not so fun? What if playing with mobile phones becomes a kind of homework? When children psychologically believe that "playing with mobile phones = doing homework", they will naturally not find playing with mobile phones interesting.

2 Use it with your children

Some studies have pointed out that when using electronic products, parents’ high-quality companionship and communication, coupled with proper time management, can effectively prevent children from Electronic gadget addiction. Therefore, parents and friends can play their role and choose games or programs for their children with beautiful pictures, healthy plots, and preferably containing life or scientific knowledge. Watch, discuss with your children, and guide them to think divergently.

3 Make a three-part agreement with your children

Practice has proven that an agreement in advance is more effective and easier to implement than punishment afterwards. Parents and friends can make a three-part agreement with their children: playing games is okay, but Time and rules must be agreed upon. Once violated, one must bear liability for breach of contract. After making an agreement, parents need to do the following:

Clearly point out the behavior of the child that needs improvement

The goals should be specific, clear, and easy to measure, such as "No more than one child can play with a mobile phone a day. When children are young, playing with mobile phones must be done after completing homework." It is necessary to clearly explain what children can gain by completing the agreement and what they will lose if they do not complete the agreement. In this process, say less "no" and more "yes", such as "If you complete the agreement, you can go to a movie."

The agreement should be written down and posted in a conspicuous place at home

When the child completes the agreement, even if it is a phased agreement, encouragement should be given in time; If the agreement is not fulfilled, the liability for breach of contract must also be borne. If the liability for breach of contract is not pursued, the agreement will not be binding at all.

Pay attention to the word "promise"

In the process of reaching an agreement, try to absorb the opinions of the children, and never turn the "promise" into a unidirectional "command" from the parents . At any time, if family education wants to achieve real achievements, it must be based on unconditional love, respect and trust in children.

4. Enrich children’s holiday life

Parents should try their best to spend time with their children, reading, doing handicrafts or playing sports together. On weekends, take your children to play in the countryside, get close to nature, and replace electronic products with parent-child activities.

If it is not convenient to accompany your child during working hours, you can also prepare some toys for your child that can be played together, and encourage him to invite other children to play together. This can not only dilute the child's dependence on electronic products, but also exercise social interaction ability and cultivate a sense of cooperation.

Regarding the issue of addiction to mobile phones

A 12-year-old child designed an “anti-addiction to mobile phone” plan through mind mapping

Parents and friends can recommend it to their children

Work with your children to develop a suitable plan

In fact, in this semester that has ended, in order to actively promote the "double reduction" work and protect To improve students' vision, we must fully implement the spirit of the "Notice on Strengthening the Management of Mobile Phones for Primary and Secondary School Students" issued by the General Office of the Ministry of Education. Many schools have carried out specific publicity, education and electronic product management work based on the actual situation——

No. 101 Middle School

The student dormitory building is equipped with mobile phone storage boxes and charging boxes. At night, the storage boxes are filled with various mobile phones, while the owners of the mobile phones are quiet in the room. Study quietly.

In addition, the dormitory teacher has also formulated a "point deduction" system. If any student behaves like talking or playing with mobile phones during evening self-study time, he will receive a "point deduction" penalty.

Beijing Medical University Affiliated Primary School

The school has formulated the "Instructions on the Management and Preservation of Student Electronic Products on Campus", calling on students not to bring electronic products such as mobile phones, phone watches, tablet computers, etc. If you really need to bring mobile phones, phones, watches and other electronic products into the campus, you must obtain parental consent, submit a written application, explain the situation, and keep them in custody after entering the school. It is strictly enforced that students' mobile phones and other electronic products are not allowed to be brought into class.

In order to ensure the implementation of mobile phone management, the school has established a unified campus custody system for student mobile phones. In case of emergency, students and parents can contact the class teacher or the school office phone. The two campuses of the school have special "electronic equipment safe deposit boxes" where students can set their own passwords and store them when they enter the school and unlock and take them out when they are out of school. This ensures that no teachers or students are allowed to touch or turn over electronic products while they are in school, and they are well protected. Student privacy.

Promote the dangers of excessive use of electronic products by students through campus broadcasts and display boards, and promote slogans prohibiting students from bringing mobile phones into school through electronic screens to create a good public opinion atmosphere on campus.

Northern New District Experimental School

The school psychology teacher led the students to analyze the psychological needs met by relying on mobile phones, the functions, advantages and disadvantages of mobile phones, the adverse consequences of relying on mobile phones, and summarized How to manage mobile phones well——

Psychological needs met by relying on mobile phones

1. Gain a sense of accomplishment and value

2. Gain a sense of autonomy and control

3. Maintain interpersonal relationships

4. Obtain psychological nutrition

5. Gain the courage to face setbacks

6. Vent emotions Channels

Advantages and Disadvantages of Mobile Phones

Advantages: Bring convenience to study and life; promote social progress and development; rich information materials, multiple access channels, wide coverage; enrich entertainment and Leisure life.

Disadvantages: The quality of the information covered varies from good to bad; it is easy to make people dependent; improper use will reduce the quality of learning and life and be harmful to physical and mental health.

Adverse consequences of relying on mobile phones

1. Distraction

2. Influence on sleep, memory and concentration decreased

3. Delay learning progress and efficiency

4. Reduce the ability of real social interpersonal communication

5. Affect emotional stability and bring mental stress

6 . Affects physical health, such as vision, spine, etc.

How to manage mobile phones

1. Control the time of using entertainment and leisure applications

2. Be discerning Suitable information and channels for you to obtain

3. Purify your online interpersonal space

4. Make reasonable use of mobile applications that improve learning efficiency

5. Improve Self-control and restrain one's own behavior

6. Seek supervision from others, such as parents, teachers, friends, etc.

7. Establish a self-supervision model

I hope this Winter vacation

Parents and friends can spend more time with their children

Help students become the masters of mobile phones

Make reasonable use of the benefits of mobile phones

Establish a self-disciplined behavior pattern

Don’t wear small glasses when school starts

P.S. Finally, a reminder to everyone

Tencent Games announced the 2022 winter vacation

Limited play time for minors during the Spring Festival holiday

Up to 14 hours of play time

Parents and children must agree on a time