What should parents do when children are afraid?

Five points that parents need to know 1. Fear is real. Be considerate of the child, not that he is not brave.

I believe many people have had this experience more or less when they were young. When I was a child, I went home in the dark and felt my heart beat faster when I saw dark Woods and tall buildings.

Some scary legends and stories I saw on weekdays, and even the TV news I heard recently, will suddenly come to my mind.

Because cerebral cortex cells are very active, as long as they are stimulated by the outside world, they will have a direct physiological response. Many teachers and educators like to call this behavior imagination.

This is a normal association of the human brain, which is very common, so parents should not deny the existence of children's fear.

Children don't have much contact with the world, but they often have rich imagination. The world in their minds is rich and colorful. Just like colorful stick figures drawn in art classes, they often present a world that adults can't imagine.

Similarly, children's fear of things comes from various sources. For example, many children are afraid of Japanese dolls. They think Japanese dolls have crystal clear eyes and are too simulated. They even think they can move and talk.

Some children are afraid of the mirror in the bathroom, and always feel that other figures will come out in the mirror, and some children are even afraid of the window.

These are all reflections of children's loneliness. When a child is alone at home, he often becomes attached to his parents, which leads to a series of fantasies.

Everyone has fears. These behaviors do not mean that children are not brave enough, but a necessary stage in their growth. At this time, parents' correct guidance is also needed.

2. Learn to make good use of fear. Cautious fear is better than reckless boldness.

On New Year's Eve, every household will set off fireworks, and timid children will hide aside, behind doors or adults, afraid to get close. Picking up things from other people's fireworks is good for him.

As a result, a fireworks had not been completely detonated at that time, and the child rushed to pick it up by hand, only to explode. The child was also badly burned and was taken to the hospital. Under such circumstances, what about caution compared with boldness and recklessness? Afraid? More important.

Xiaodong's mother was very worried recently and had a big false alarm the other day. When Xiaodong is playing in the yard, he runs too fast, has a lively temper and is not afraid of anything. Playing on the edge of the rockery in the courtyard landscape, other children think that the rockery is too high to climb, and only Xiaodong likes to climb up and down.

However, just a few days ago, Xiaodong accidentally stepped on the air while climbing the mountain, slipped and almost fell. Fortunately, Xiaodong didn't climb high at that time, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable.

Since then, Xiaodong's mother has never said anywhere outside that her son is not afraid of heights and is particularly brave. Children are physically and psychologically fragile, but they still have to be awed by the unknown things outside.

Fear is a kind of thinking about danger when children grow up, and it is also a concern for their own safety. This is a kind of thinking development, which deserves our protection and guidance, rather than sticking to children? Timid and worthless? Label.

Threatening children will only undermine trust and will not make them behave well.

When a child tells his parents that he is afraid, it is actually a need of his parents. If you scold and scare the child at this time, it will have a bad influence on the child's psychology.

Neighbor Xiao Wu's children used to run and jump every time they met, asking adults some questions noisily in the elevator. As soon as the elevator door opened, they were the first to run out and help me push open the unit door, which has always been very popular.

As a result, I met this child two days ago. This time, he quietly hid behind the adult, only nodded and asked him questions, and his eyes stopped looking at me. Silent, completely different.

I was a little worried, so I asked Xiao Wu's mother casually and found that I took my child to the subway a few days ago. On the subway, the children were very excited and ran around. There were several people in the car. His mother was worried that he might get lost or fall, so she warned him loudly. Don't run. If you run again, mom won't want you. Leave yourself in the car to play. ?

As soon as the words were spoken, the child became good at once. Xiao Wu thinks this method is very useful and the effect is obvious, so he often uses it. Keep playing? Mom doesn't want you? On my lips. Such fears will cast a shadow on children's psychology.

On the surface, the child did get better, but his personality also changed. The child doesn't understand that his parents are scaring him and is really afraid of being abandoned by his parents. After all, parents are the trust of children.

4. companionship can make children braver.

A mother took her children to rock climbing. When the child was young, her first reaction was to be afraid of heights and hide behind. Instead of reprimanding the child directly, the parent advised him carefully.

Shall we try it first? You have to believe in yourself. ? After that, she not only helped the children personally, but also reminded them to pay attention to safety from time to time in the process.

Under the guidance of mother and climbing instructor, the child successfully climbed to the top of the mountain, which was praised by both parents and teachers. ? You are so brave, you are great! ? Instead of. Why are you so timid! ?

The child successfully overcame acrophobia and learned to prove himself and conquer difficulties with actions. This is a successful lesson for parents.

5. Let children learn to accept fear.

There is a saying in Nature that children will tremble in the dark and be afraid of everything, just like what we are afraid of in the light.

So, when children say? Afraid? When? Don't just say it. There is nothing to be afraid of. ; Or tell the children? Can't be afraid? This can only play a negative reinforcement role. The more you talk about it, the more you make the child feel that thing is terrible.

In the face of children's fears, we don't have to deliberately amplify their existence. We just need to understand and tell them at the first time that their parents will always protect them and accompany them to overcome their fears. This is often what children need more at this moment.

At the same time, let children truly express what they are afraid of, and let them better understand their inner world, which is helpful for better explanation and response.

Moreover, when the child has outstanding performance, parents should give encouragement and praise in time to enhance his self-confidence, so that the child will truly become brave.