What would you do if you were very tired? These 5 suggestions are given to you, may you smile and move forward with peace of mind

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On May 8, 2020, an employee of the Jiangbei Branch of the Bank of Ningbo jumped off the building due to excessive pressure. Judging from the multiple Weibo posts posted by his wife about the matter, I only thought of one sentence: There is no such thing as easy in the adult world.

The grievances and pressures of work are similar in the workplace. Do we see our own shadow between the lines?

This employee may have lost himself in the workplace PUA (workplace brainwashing) atmosphere for a long time and is no longer able to make objective judgments and have the most basic understanding of himself. He pessimistically believes that he has a low IQ, low EQ, and problems with his abilities. If he resigns, it is unknown whether he will be able to find a better job than now after he loses his job. In addition, the confidence to resign has been ravaged by reality and has been wiped out.

Sometimes, facing the unknown is far more frightening than facing the difficulties before you. He is obviously extremely pessimistic, but to outsiders he seems to be just a superficial worry.

Perhaps in the eyes of friends and family, he is "sane". After all, the unemployment rate, which is increasing year by year, has given countless people a shot in the arm: the head can be cut off and the blood can be shed, but resignation cannot be allowed. After all, there is another saying that is often mentioned: There is no job without grievance.

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On the morning of December 10, 2017, a senior programmer from ZTE received a call from the company leader and learned that he had been included in the layoff list and that his shares would also be laid off. Transferred at a low price. The middle-aged man took the elevator to the 26th floor of ZTE headquarters, pushed open the window in the corridor, jumped vertically, and left this world.

As a master's degree graduate from Beijing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, he is excellent and has always been dedicated to his work. Even if he was laid off, finding a better job was not a problem at all, but in the end, the moment of confusion became his most fatal blow.

Perhaps for him, unemployment is not scary, but the scary thing is that he has no hope. Although, when the sun rises tomorrow, the hope of a new day has already risen.

Psychological research shows that men are most vulnerable when they are 40 years old. I think that men who are in a family with elders and younger children are the most vulnerable.

After all, too many of us are not the second generation with our own brilliance, nor are we Internet celebrities with unlimited traffic. Our goals don’t have poetry or a distant future, but just how to solve the various expenses that come one after another every month.

In the eyes of outsiders, our strength may just be endlessly enduring, carrying, and holding on. Even psychology has proved that men are fragile, but men do not allow the word "fragile" to be in their dictionary.

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Speaking of men’s fragility, how can women be the same?

In the past few years, the female executive of Wanda jumped off a building, which made many people sigh. When faced with public criticism from her leader at the meeting and the announcement that she wanted to be removed from her position, she angrily left the meeting room on the spot: "I won't hold this meeting today, I quit!"

Later, the HR director I met her and asked her to sit in a coffee shop. The HR manager went to buy coffee, but when she came back she disappeared.

An appointment with the HR director may be a decision made by the leader in an executive meeting. From the time the leader revealed at the meeting that he wanted to be removed from his position to the appointment with the HR manager, it only took two hours. The leader was so impatient, how could she not feel chilled.

It only takes a few hours for a person to go from grievance, anger, disappointment, to despair for the world. No one knows what kind of struggle she went through in her heart when she took that step.

In the end, all that was left to the family was a sentence full of self-blame: I’m sorry.

She loves her job and her family, but the only thing she doesn't love is herself. How many people have fallen victim to this?

For such an outstanding woman, even if you are dismissed or leave, you will still be you, you will still encounter more surprises, and your life will still have a million possibilities. The premise is that you have to live.

There are always some people in the workplace who can accept recognition and praise from their leaders, but they cannot accept a word of criticism from their leaders, let alone the fact that their leaders want them to get out. In the end, we still cannot afford to lose.

If you say you can't afford to lose, you have already lost.

For a truly strong person, the leader will not be willing to let you leave. If he lets you leave, you should also be grateful to him for giving you more choices. If it really doesn't work, smiling at him is actually a powerful form of contempt.

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A few days ago, a netizen sent me a private message: This job seems to have made me depressed. Even though I work hard, I still don't get recognition from my boss. I think performance comes first, but I still get isolated from my colleagues. The company is not big to begin with, but there are all kinds of intrigues going on every day. The boss is also doing all kinds of brainwashing. You can talk to him about anything, as long as you don't talk about money.

I want to resign but dare not. I am afraid that I will not be able to find a job after being unemployed for too long, and I am also afraid that I will be looked down upon by others if I am unemployed. Anyway, I feel like I can’t hold on anymore, and I don’t know what the meaning of life is...

After seeing this, I fell into deep thought.

If a job has brought you to the brink of collapse, instead of choosing to struggle and wrong yourself, it is better to let go, free yourself and start again. After all, depression is no small thing.

From the day we join the company, each of us is working hard for a job, and at the same time has high hopes, hoping to be recognized, liked, and promoted, until our hopes are constantly destroyed and attacked by reality. We have no choice but to go back to the original starting point: not to be unemployed.

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What should we do when faced with layoffs, disapproval from leaders, work pressure, and units that want to escape but dare not?

1. Work is important, but life is more important.

I saw a sentence in "Reader" a few days ago: The meaning of life may be to live with your heart, live hard, and live well. One sentence seems to make us suddenly understand life.

Yes, it is living. This is the most solid meaning of life, not success and fame and fortune, which are things that life does not bring and death does not take away.

Not everyone can withstand PUA in the workplace. The atmosphere of some companies and the management style of their leaders are like this: survival of the fittest. If you are really feeling miserable, you might as well take a step back. You are really not the only one among the tens of millions of unemployed people every year.

2. Career or family, which one should you prefer?

A person can be a mountain, half the sky, or the backbone of a family. And in the unit, we are just a screw. If a machine is missing a screw, there will be no obvious impact, but if a family is missing you, it will collapse.

Career is important, but family is also important. If you have to work hard for your family, please don't work too hard. Because the result of hard work may not be what the leader wants. Once the leader gets used to your hard work, the leader will be dissatisfied if you relax even a little bit, and may even think that you "have ideas." This is not the key. The key is that desperate efforts can kill us if we are not careful. Cases of sudden death due to overload or under intense pressure have long been commonplace.

If Wanda’s female executive takes her career lightly and tilts her family a little bit more between her career and family, maybe the outcome of the matter is just her saying to the HR director: “No, everything. It’s just a job, I don’t care about it.”

But there are no ifs in life.

3. Being laid off is not scary, just accept it with a positive attitude.

If being laid off is not your subjective reason, don’t be discouraged, hope is around the next corner; if it is, don’t be discouraged, reflect on yourself, change, improve, and learn. Only in this way will you have more success. With more options, you will be less likely to appear on the layoff list.

Being laid off is not scary. What makes many people easily feel uncomfortable is the unemployment they face after being laid off. Your own ability to find a job is very important, but it is also indispensable for the influence of the overall environment. Facing unemployment can be a bit daunting, especially this year. We have survived this epidemic, what else can stump us? We have no choice but to stand up and push through.

The so-called growth is to bravely accept the facts that scare you but must face it, and be honest in your heart.

In addition, when it comes to being laid off, we must do our best to get the financial compensation we deserve, and we must not be silent lambs.

4. Let exercise heal our fragile hearts.

No matter you are employed or unemployed, thriving in the workplace, or you have shouted in your heart to resign countless times. Go exercise, stick with it, and make it a habit. Because dopamine is a good thing, it can make people feel happy, relieve stress and relieve anxiety. Maybe one day the pleasure and sweat after exercise will wash away the haze in your heart, allowing you to find your future direction again.

Have you ever noticed that people who like sports also like to laugh? They love life, are positive, optimistic, open-minded and brave, which is enough to convince us to exercise.

4. Develop the habit of reading.

There are three reasons for adults to read: first, to learn and recharge. Second, solve the problem. Third, hobbies.

If you are really not interested in reading and learning, you might as well read in two ways, read with your own questions and doubts, and find the answers in the book. Over time, you may fall in love with it. Go to school and read.

There is a Jenny in America﹒ Rosen is a patient with depression. In the process of her tenacious fight against depression, she wrote a book called "Excited to Death", which is a book on how to create happiness. You may wish to take a look. It is said that this book has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly half a year.

5. Find your own side job and let yourself slash to the end.

You can have a main business, but you can’t have less side jobs. Your identity in the future can be very inspiring and interesting: maybe you are the sales manager of an organization, you are also a writer, you are also a self-employed person. Media experts, let yourself slash to the end, this is the trend of the future.

Of course, if your side business is more outstanding than your main business, it is not a bad idea to turn your side business into your main business. If your side job is not outstanding enough, but you have been working hard and can still find the meaning of struggle in your side job, even if you face workplace pressure, workplace PUA, or company layoffs, you will not be willing to wrong yourself, let alone feel The future is slim. After all, you still have a trump card in your hand - a side job.

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At any time, please remember: life is fair. When God closes one door for you, he will definitely open another door for you. It's just that sometimes, you hang your head and miss the door. Please believe that there is another door that is about to appear...

Life is precious and cannot be trampled upon, let alone abandoned. Only by living can a person be strong in his bones. After all, life is given by our parents. In addition to cherishing it, we can only cherish it. This is respect for our parents, respect for life, and respect for ourselves!

Life is too heavy, but I still wish you a happy life and a promising future.