Why is it said that "filial sons are born under sticks" is a kind of corporal punishment education?

Children don't do homework, don't sleep, just want to watch TV. Faced with this situation, parents really have a headache. The child is disobedient and can't hit him. The post-90 s couple came up with such a method of "corporal punishment" for their children. Don't you like watching TV? Then let you see enough at a time, completely satisfy you, don't sleep tonight, just watch it here for one night.

In fact, the purpose of doing this is to let children really remember this lesson. Does it really work? It will definitely have an effect in the short term, and it is very effective. Many netizens agree with this.

This kind of education is actually a kind of punitive education. At present, corporal punishment of students is not advocated. Maybe everyone will say it's not corporal punishment. First, let's understand the definition of corporal punishment:

Of course, the teacher is mentioned here, but in the process of education, no matter what role, children can't be educated by corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment. Therefore, according to the definition of corporal punishment, it is not only physical punishment, but also psychological punishment. This way of "showing you enough at once" has actually caused a great psychological blow to children. If many things are done in this way, it is hard to imagine what kind of personality children will form when they grow up.

There are actually many positive educational methods in children's education:

First of all, parents should not set a negative example for their children.

Parents are the first teachers in their children's lives. Children in childhood have a strong imitation ability and are easily influenced by family environment and parental education methods. In order to reduce children's attacks on others, parents must change their educational methods and resolutely put an end to corporal punishment of children.

Second, communicate with children more.

While busy with work, parents must spend as much time as possible to get to know their children, communicate with them, and try to fully grasp their performance at school and at home. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, parents can understand how to guide the child instead of beating and scolding him to solve the problem. No matter how young the children are, parents should treat them equally. Some rude parents are always used to beating and cursing their children indiscriminately, which can easily make children resent their parents. In this way, children will not be understood by their parents, and the gap between them will become deeper and deeper. Therefore, parents should communicate with their children more and let them know that their parents understand him. In this way, children can also feel the love and care of their parents, so as to actively correct their mistakes.

Third, treat children more reasonably in everything.

When children are disobedient or willful, parents should not only communicate with their children in daily life, but also pay attention to their own educational methods. Parents should reason with their children more, and they can educate sensible children without beating and cursing. Parents should be more reasonable to their children in real life, let them have empathy, let them learn to put themselves in others' shoes and realize their own shortcomings. Facts have proved that children are more likely to accept their parents' opinions spontaneously and the educational effect is more ideal.

Fourth, use appreciation education instead of corporal punishment of children.

Teach children to appreciate, so that children can realize their parents' unconditional love for them. Even if it is difficult for children to change their bad habits, they will gradually restrain their bad behaviors in order to love their parents.