Parents make trouble at school, will it affect their children?

(Female parents who beat the head teacher)

On September 2, 2065438+08, 18, the female parents of the third primary school in dingnan county, Jiangxi Province suspected that the head teacher publicly criticized their children and asked for advice. After communicating with the class teacher, she impulsively slapped the class teacher three times. On that day, the public security organ was administratively detained for five days.

cause

On the afternoon of September 10, the third primary school of the county organized students of grade 5 and 6 to participate in the rehearsal of the opening ceremony of the 12th Baixian Youth Track and Field Games in Jiangxi Province. Parents of students were scheduled to pick up students at school around 19 in the afternoon, which was delayed because the bus had to give priority to picking up students from more remote schools. Three pupils didn't return to school until about 19: 40 in the evening.

During the period, because Lai's mother He Mouhua was in a hurry to go to work in the factory, she informed her husband Lai Moujiang to pick up people at school. The couple didn't connect clearly on the matter of picking up people, so that they couldn't receive the children at the first time. Lai Moujiang is very anxious. After the school leaders and the teachers in charge of the school heard about it, they immediately arranged for the class teacher Ye to take Lai Moujiang to the school security room to find Lai. At that time, Lai Moujiang was very angry and loudly accused the school and the class teacher of improper arrangements at the school gate.

At about 20: 30 that night, He Mouhua called Mr. Ye, the class teacher, to ask if Lai had been picked up, and apologized to her husband Lai Moujiang for accusing the school and the class teacher at the school gate.

conflict

On the morning of September 1 1, the head teacher, Mr. Ye, explained to the whole class that the bus was late, which caused the students to go home late, and asked the students to explain the situation to their parents in order to gain understanding. Lai was very unhappy when he came home. Under He Mouhua's repeated questioning, he told his mother that the teacher said that his father would not pick him up in the future and let his mother pick him up. He Mouhua thinks that Teacher Ye should not criticize Lai in public for this matter, which has caused his son's injustice.

12 September, around 10, He Mouhua went to the third primary school in the county to talk to teacher Ye, the head teacher. At that time, there were two teachers working in the office. He Mouhua's voice is hoarse and loud. Teacher Ye was afraid of affecting his colleagues' work, so he led He Mouhua to communicate outside. At the corner of the stairs on the first and second floors of the teaching building, He Mouhua asked the teacher if he criticized his son. During this period, there was a dispute between the two sides. He Mouhua slapped the teacher in the face three times, causing injuries to his left cheekbone and right thumb. After identification, Mr. Ye was slightly injured.

"At that time, we heard a lot of noise outside and felt that something was going to happen, so we went out to have a look," said two teachers who were working at school that day. "After we went out, we saw that the parent slapped Teacher Ye, and I said,' How can you hit the teacher!' She asked, "Which eye did you see it?" He also said arrogantly,' hit the teacher!' "

Afterwards, the police of Licheng police station arrived and took control of the scene.

Self-examination/introspection

"This is a conflict that should not have happened, and it deserves reflection from all sides," said Liu, the police officer in charge of the case at Licheng police station. "If parents can find out the situation more rationally and if both sides can control their emotions better, this matter will not escalate."

On September 2, 65438, at about 2: 00/kloc-0: 00, Licheng sent someone to beat others and imposed administrative detention on He Mouhua for 5 days. At about 22: 00 on the same day, He Mouhua was sent to the county detention center for custody.

"I go to school for my children. I did move. I realized that I was wrong! " /kloc-On the afternoon of September, 0/4, He Mouhua said with tears in the county detention center.

In any case, hitting people is wrong. Respecting teachers and attaching importance to teaching is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Parents who beat teachers are not only morally lacking, but also suspected of breaking the law, and will set a negative example for their children.

We need more patience in educating our children. Only when schools, teachers and parents respect, understand and support each other and create a good and harmonious environment for teaching and educating people can children learn happily and grow up healthily.

Another bad incident in which parents beat their teachers, which is completely avoidable. There are contradictions between teachers and students, which should have been solved through normal channels.

Parents have opinions and ideas, they can give feedback to the school, they can rush into the campus at will, and they can even attack innocent teachers unscrupulously, which is evident.

This not only tramples on the most basic spirit of the rule of law in modern society, but also exposes the campus to possible dangers at all times.

On the surface, this is caused by parents' impulse, but it is not impulse in essence, but I really don't take the teacher seriously! In the eyes of some "savage parents", the teacher is a "soft persimmon" that can be held casually.

The educational influence left by the woman's parents He Mouhua is extremely negative, and the consequences can be said to be unimaginable. In the future, it is terrible for children to go to society without courtesy, tolerance, understanding and awe!

Look at the news that parents beat teachers in recent years. Education in China is getting weaker and weaker now. With the connivance of the media and the tolerance of parents, all the responsibilities are placed on the teachers.

The education department is very cautious. Even if there is no problem with teachers, parents and the media will use "children are still young" as an excuse to force teachers to deal with them strictly, so that teachers will be afraid and treading on thin ice in their work for a long time.

Respect for teachers and respect for education have been called for thousands of years. The more fierce the slogan of respecting teachers and attaching importance to teaching is, the higher the danger of teachers' profession. Today, this sentence is becoming a prophecy.

How can a teacher talk about "preaching, teaching and dispelling doubts" if he can't even guarantee his minimum dignity and even life safety?

Look at the news that parents beat teachers in recent years:

Du Mou, the class teacher of Grade 3 in Lezhi Middle School in Ziyang, Sichuan, made the parents angry because he handled a student playing with a mobile phone in class.

On June 8, after Du Mou refused his parents to "make an appointment with wine" several times on the night of the college entrance examination, the parents of the students found two "friends" to beat Du Mou, causing him multiple skin injuries, dizziness and headaches.

He was still holding his 3-year-old daughter. In this incident, he was also seriously frightened. Coincidentally, something happened in Zhumadian, Henan Province.

A fourth-grade class teacher sent the students' dictation scores to the parents' WeChat group. As a result, the parents of poor students were very angry and felt that the teacher's behavior was too humiliating to the parents and damaged the dignity of the children.

So I want to ask her for an explanation and ask her to go home and apologize, or I will go to the county education and sports bureau to sue her.

The teacher was scared to write a resignation letter: "I broke out in a cold sweat." What should I do if the classmate who wrote the wrong word is hurt in his heart and goes home to commit suicide, or commits suicide a few years later, saying that I pointed out his mistake before committing suicide? "

She looks scared. Anyway, she said she was "evil" and decided to resign. This incident ignited online public opinion, and many people supported the teacher.

Some netizens commented: "It is not terrible for teachers to quarrel with children and punish them. The terrible thing is that teachers don't care about children. "

With a meager income of 2,607 yuan per month, this teacher is serious and responsible to her students, hoping that every student can make good progress. Parents can't see the teacher's hard work and difficulty, but they make so many broken things.

Although the follow-up report said that the teacher had continued to attend classes at school. But this news undoubtedly chilled most responsible teachers.

These two incidents also reflect a big problem: it is not easy to be a good teacher, especially in China. Xiong Haizi and unreasonable parents will always make you black and blue.

No matter what the teacher does, it will definitely not work, the children's grades will get worse, and parents will come to school to make trouble; It's no use caring. You hurt our children's self-esteem by criticizing them. You must apologize.

If the students are naughty, you don't blame them, the pot is the teacher's; Blame, punish, students want to die, jump off a building or your teacher's; Even if you don't jump off a building, it's hard for students to stab you and get back at you, or for parents to roll around in school.

If you criticize punishment, students will commit suicide by jumping off a building.

20 14 Jin moumou, a junior high school boy from Yunyang, Hubei province, was called to the office by the head teacher and criticized him for reading novels by himself early and playing chess in physics class.

The teacher didn't say anything radical. Maybe the words "Please come to school" touched Kim. Five minutes later, he walked out of the office and jumped from the classroom on the fourth floor to die.

There must be a teacher involved in the student's suicide, and suddenly he is under great ideological pressure. The local education department is likely to hold him accountable. (Source: Tencent. com)

"Students don't obey discipline and kill teachers."

20 17 1 1, Bao Fang, the head teacher of Class 2, No.3 Middle School in Yuanjiang, Hunan Province, arranged for the whole class to watch an inspirational film, so that everyone could write a review before leaving.

Luo Mojie, the top student in the class, was very dissatisfied and expressed his opposition on the spot. Bao Fang immediately criticized Luo Moujie, not only saying that his attitude that day was incorrect, but also criticizing his recent ups and downs.

Then Luo Moujie went to Bao Fang's office. In Bao Fang's office, when Bao Fang was about to call Luo Mojie's parents, Luo Mojie suddenly took out a switchblade and stabbed Bao Fang.

Teacher Bao was stabbed 26 times and died.

Alas, Bao Fang has always taken good care of Luo Moujie, arranged for him to sit in the front row of the classroom and helped him get a scholarship. But afterwards, Luo Mojie said: "I think the class teacher is not good to me, and I don't know him." (Source: Netease News)

"Teachers discipline students and parents protect their calves."

Also on 20 17, a female teacher surnamed Jiang in Yongzhou, Hunan Province criticized and educated a classmate because he only got 3 points in the Chinese exam.

As a result, the parents of the students refused to accept it and did not discipline their children well. Instead, I thought it was the teacher's fault, so I came over and beat the teacher and sent him to the hospital. (Source: This newspaper)

Even more outrageous things happened in Xinyang. Teacher Li, a Chinese teacher in a local middle school, confiscated Huang's mobile phone according to the school regulations and asked him to write a review, suspend classes and go home to reflect.

As a result, Huang's father came to school drunk, scolded the teacher for making trouble, punched and kicked Mr. Li, knocked out his glasses and hit his eardrum. (Source: China Education News)

China has traditionally paid attention to "respecting teachers and valuing morality", but why is this happening now? The relationship between parents and teachers is like this? If you think about it carefully, it has a lot to do with the changes in the social environment in these decades.

"Parents spoil their children too much"

Now more and more families have only one child. The whole family, old and young, revolved around the child, and six people spoiled one child. Treat this child as a treasure and spoil it more and more.

In the eyes of parents, children can't stand being wronged at home, let alone at school. No matter what your teacher's heart is, you can't criticize the child.

I saw an example on the Internet. Say a primary school teacher, because a student didn't listen carefully in class, after class, called him to the office and criticized him a little.

As a result, the mother of the child went to school the next day and pointed at the teacher's nose and scolded: "It's not your turn to scold the child I gave birth to! What makes you say my child? "

"The authority of teachers is declining."

I have a friend who doesn't like to talk and works as a class teacher in a second-rate high school in the county. Once, she criticized a student in class, and the student stood up and talked back: "I pay money to study, not to be angry with you."

Say that finish, carrying a schoolbag rushed out of the classroom, leaving the whole class dumbfounded.

In the eyes of many people, paying money makes them feel like God. Teachers become service personnel, just like those who serve dishes in hotels and massage shops, and become practitioners of the tertiary industry.

In the eyes of many students and parents, teachers can't teach well and their services are not in place. As for students who don't listen, students who spend money on services certainly have the right not to listen to you.

After all, "the customer is God". As a result, students really regard themselves as gods, teachers lose their dignity as teachers, and students are of course becoming more and more lawless.

"Parents' trust in teachers is declining. "

I saw a story on the Internet.

It is said that a junior high school math teacher found that there was a top student in his class. Recently, his math scores dropped sharply, so he wanted the students to go to his house on weekends. He made up lessons for the children.

As a result, I called the parents of the children. As soon as parents heard that they were going to make up lessons, they said to the teacher strangely, "Your teacher really makes money, and his ability to make money is really amazing."

The teacher looked innocent: "I help my children make up lessons for free and never take money to make up lessons." I don't believe it until my parents say yes. The math teacher was very emotional: "What do parents think of us now!"

It is precisely because parents' trust in teachers has decreased that many educational problems have arisen, which have caused many misunderstandings and brought trouble to teachers' work.

"Parents leave their children alone, but they become the teachers' supervisors."

Or the quiet story of my friend. She told me that it is too difficult to be a teacher now. Many students are disobedient, disobedient, and it is useless to tell their parents. These parents just play mahjong after work all day, regardless of their children's grades.

But if you really don't ask, don't ask, and return it, but parents become the supervisors of teachers. If the teacher doesn't do well here, he will make trouble, and if he doesn't handle it well there, he will make trouble.

Some time ago, there was a new Chinese teacher in the school, who just graduated from college and had little experience. Many parents complained to her that such a teacher would never come to teach my children, forcing the teacher to resign abruptly.

"The cost of parental interference is too low."

I have seen such a news.

It is said that there is a junior high school. Before the summer vacation, the class teacher specially told the students about holiday safety, urged them not to swim in the river without permission, and asked them to take the safety agreement back for their parents to sign.

As a result, during the summer vacation, some students went swimming in the river and drowned. Parents feel that the school is also responsible for asking the school to compensate for the failure. They simply parked the child's coffin at the school gate and held banners to protest that the school had killed his child.

The school had no responsibility, but it couldn't stop the bad influence of parents' quarrel, and it still gave the family of the deceased 200,000 comfort money.

You see, this is obviously irresponsible, because parents make trouble and compromise; If something really happened to the students, wouldn't it be more troublesome? So students are becoming more and more unruly, which has a lot to do with this.

The cost that parents need to pay for unreasonable troubles is too low.

Looking back, let's take a look at the original Zhumadian incident. The truth of this matter is very simple: the teacher did the right thing and the unreasonable parents made the mistake.

First, your child is really not that fragile. A small dictation score, if you fail the exam, you will fail it. You should know what you are doing. I can't take it anymore. I long to live. Why did you go early?

Second, this society is full of competition. Once you lose the dictation, you can feel your self-esteem frustrated. If all kinds of competitions fail afterwards, don't you really want to die? Parents protect calves like this, and children encounter great setbacks when they enter the society. I'm afraid they really want to jump off a building.

Third, the teacher is not a god, he is just an ordinary person. He loves this job and your children, so he will be strict with your children. Parents don't understand the teacher, embarrass the teacher, and only chill the teacher's heart.

Fourth, a teacher is just a job. You can't expect a teacher to be omnipotent. He should do this job well, and even if there are some mishandling, he should not be too hard on the teacher.

Education is a national plan, which is related to whether the future generation can grow up healthily and shoulder the social responsibilities they are bound to bear.

And teachers are the main force of education. If we really drive away all the good teachers, it will be the children who will suffer in the end.

In such an increasingly competitive society, it is absolutely the children themselves who let teachers strictly discipline children, give them authority, and give them respect and benefits.

My college classmate Haitao was born in the countryside and his family was very poor. He was finally admitted to 985 University and walked out of the mountain, which changed his fate. Now starting a business in Guangzhou, doing well and promising.

But he doesn't think all this is his credit. He said: "I sincerely thank my senior high school class teacher, Miss Yuan. Without him, I might not be here today. "

At that time, Mr. Yuan was very strict with him, and he was scolded for knowing how to do the wrong questions. He should be punished for copying the knowledge points he can't remember several times; He failed in the exam, so he should be punished for doing push-ups ...

But he is also very clear: "I am a person with average qualifications, with no talent for reading, and a little lazy." If Teacher Yuan was not strict with me, I wouldn't say 985, that is, I might fail in both books! "

In our neighboring country, South Korea, its Ministry of Education and Human Resources issued regulations several years ago, allowing teachers to punish children within a certain range for students who violate school discipline.

The cases of corporal punishment include: not listening to the teacher's repeated exhortations and guidance, isolating students without reason, having an incorrect learning attitude, exceeding the punishment prescribed by the school, etc.

As soon as this regulation was introduced, many teachers and parents welcomed it, giving teachers confidence in performing their duties, and also letting children know that respecting teachers and paying attention to morality is conducive to children's correction of bad habits and healthy growth.

Looking back, look at our country. Now teachers don't say corporal punishment to students, even if they scold a few words, they may be caught by parents.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, those scum teachers and animal teachers reported in the news are, after all, a minority. Most teachers must want to do their jobs well and educate and train students well.

Students are becoming more and more rebellious, and teachers are subject to more and more unreasonable restrictions. The teacher was exhausted and finally had to leave.

Even if you leave a teacher who is not in charge and kneeling without dignity, you will certainly not teach promising children.

Good teachers are scarce, and parents drive away responsible good teachers. In fact, they create obstacles to the growth of children and destroy them.

If everyone is afraid to teach, then they will not teach. This is really terrible.