A slogan describing a child who doesn't cry after an injection.

Small things are big things, and details determine the future.

As the saying goes, "three years old looks down on old age, seven years old looks down on old age." In today's society, the role of family education cannot be underestimated. The child was born with a blank sheet of paper. As parents, we choose to sketch casually, lightly or carefully. Every stroke determines the future of the child.

Small things are big things, details determine quality, and quality makes the future.

In other words, when parents manage their children, the attitude of dealing with daily chores and details will affect their children's life.

How to deal with the little things and details in life? "A good mother is better than a good teacher" has taught us effective methods.

The author of this book is Yin Jianli, an expert in education. She summed up her experience in educating children in 16 and wrote a book to share with us. She entered the problem as a mother and looked at it from the perspective of a professional worker. She teaches parents to guide their children correctly in small things and details, and puts forward correct educational methods and relaxed learning methods for us to understand and apply.

Yin Jianli educated her daughter Yuan Yuan to be a top student with excellent academic performance. Yuan Yuan has twice advanced placement experience. She is a top three student in Beijing. She 16 years old took the college entrance examination, and her score was 22 points higher than that of Tsinghua.

Since its publication, this book has won more than 20 book awards, sold 7 million copies by word of mouth, and been translated and promoted to many countries and regions. It is an educational classic suitable for parents and teachers to read.

Giving children an injection is a trivial matter, but how to treat it correctly is not a trivial matter that can be completely ignored. We usually think that all we have to do is coax children into receiving injections. In fact, it is better to find ways to let children receive injections calmly and cultivate their courage to endure pain. It is mentioned in the book that a boy of six or seven years old desperately resisted the injection and cried hysterically. It can be seen that playing against him is a very horrible thing.

Yuan Yuan couldn't speak when she was vaccinated for the first time. After being pricked, she cried in pain. Yin Jianli told her to divert her attention from the kitten on the glass and endure the pain.

Yuanyuan suffered from acute pneumonia for one week and eight months. She has some resistance to injections, and she is even more afraid. Yin Jianli communicated with the child in advance, telling her that the injection can make her recover faster, and also telling her that the injection actually doesn't hurt as much as she thought, just like accidentally falling on a fart pier. If you don't cry when you throw the small pier, then you must not cry when you have an injection. She really held back from crying and the nurse praised her.

It can be seen from the small matter of injection that children are very malleable and need our correct guidance at any time.

Also be careful not to play tricks on children. Sometimes children's childish or fearful behavior will make adults laugh. When Yuan Yuan went to kindergarten, she followed her father to work. Two colleagues have a good relationship with Yuan Yuan's father and like talking with Yuan Yuan very much. But they didn't communicate with the child normally, but teased her like a small animal. Or pretend to hug Yuan Yuan fiercely, or coax Yuan Yuan to call them "Grandpa", which made Yuan Yuan feel at a loss.

After that, Yin Jianli no longer asked his lover to bring Yuanyuan to work. We can like children, but sometimes some adults intentionally, unintentionally or on impulse play some tricks that they think are unimportant, but they do harm to their self-esteem.

In daily life, we should not play jokes on children at will. For example, after a mother gives birth to a second child, some people will say to Dabao, "Your parents don't want you." Some people even joked with their children: "You are a gift from mom and dad." These are easy to mislead children.

Children don't like eating, which is also one of the biggest headaches for many parents. When Yuan Yuan was hospitalized for eight months every week because of pneumonia, a boy didn't eat well in his ward. His mother, father and grandmother changed to eat every day, coaxed and cheated, or promised to buy something and tried their best to get the children to eat. It took more than an hour for a meal.

If children want to have a normal appetite, they should let nature take its course. For children with anorexia, parents should be calm and patient; It doesn't matter if children eat more and eat less, and they don't force children to eat; Parents should control the nutrition of their children's diet; Let children learn to eat by themselves, don't feed them; If you don't talk about eating with your children, it may be effective for a while, but in the long run, it will lead children to threaten their parents and make unreasonable demands on them. It is very important to grasp these.

Therefore, we should pay attention to the little things in children's lives, handle them well, improve the quality of love and prevent them from affecting their healthy growth.

Second, start from grasping the details and cultivate children's good character.

We should cultivate children's good character, and it is very important to grasp the details, which determine the future.

Children should be taught kindness.

Every child has a slight bump when he is a child. Yin Jianli teaches children to be kind to each other. If the bench touches her, don't hit the bench, but clean it. Let her realize that collision is a matter for both sides, and we should be considerate of each other instead of opposing each other.

Good people are also tolerant. A child who can rub a small bench will have more understanding and love for others, and will not only consider his own interests when encountering problems.

Allow mistakes and encourage them when appropriate.

When Yuanyuan was four or five years old, she went back to her grandmother's house in Inner Mongolia. At that time, there was a large water tank for storing daily water in the yard, and a small water ladle was placed next to the water tank to scoop water. Yuanyuan didn't know how to use a small spoon when she wanted to wash her hands, so she directly used some dirty washbasins outside to scoop them into the water tank, and the water in the water tank was polluted.

Yin Jianli and her mother-in-law didn't complain or blame, but smiled and instructed Yuanyuan how to use the water in the water tank. No matter whether a child makes a small mistake or a big mistake, active guidance and active management are necessary. This is conducive to the growth of children.

Children also need appreciation and affirmation. When Yuan Yuan was eighteen, Yin Jianli wrote a letter to her daughter. In the letter, she first expressed her appreciation for Yuan Yuan, and then praised her for being smart, sensible, peaceful and modest, hoping that she would be as responsible and mature as an adult. This makes children more confident, self-respecting and self-loving.

Insist on seeking truth from facts.

Yin Jianli thinks seeking truth from facts is more important than gold. She taught Yuanyuan to look at people and things around her realistically. When choosing three good students, Yuan Yuan thought he was qualified to vote for himself. When choosing a class cadre, she can vote for a classmate who doesn't like it at ordinary times but has strong working ability. This spirit is very valuable.

Seeking truth from facts can help children avoid bad habits such as impetuousness, vanity, paranoia and jealousy. Only by seeking truth from facts can we be honest and correctly understand the essence of things.

Cultivate interest and study easily.

Take Chinese as an example. From literacy to writing, if children are interested in learning, they can relax and have no pressure.

Reading is not difficult for children. On the one hand, I want to read it to her, and if I don't understand it, I have to read it again and again. On the other hand, it is necessary to learn new words in life, such as advertisements, slogans and signs in public places. So that children will know more and more words.

Yin Jianli suggested that children should not indulge in Chinese textbooks, increase extracurricular reading and broaden their knowledge, which is also good for writing. "Reading is like breaking thousands of volumes, and writing is like a god." When you read more books, you will naturally write easily.

We should have a correct attitude towards homework.

Parents should not accompany their children to do homework, but do their own homework, which will not only cultivate their initiative, but also let them enjoy a sense of accomplishment.

You can't punish homework.

Teachers and parents are used to punishing homework, which will make children feel annoyed with homework. If you make a mistake and are punished for rewriting, the more you write, the more annoying it will be, which will lead to a stronger rebellious attitude of children.

Don't just study hard, but learn to pay attention to the key points in stages.

The primary school stage is mainly to cultivate interest in learning, the junior high school stage should pay attention to learning methods, and the senior high school stage mainly depends on diligence.

Third, let parents love selflessly and accompany their children to grow up happily.

Parents' love is companionship first, and then it is to create a loving family environment, understand and respect children, and let reading accompany children all their lives.

Parents who don't take care of their children by themselves are incompetent. The main problem now is that many parents try their best to make money for their children, but they refuse to spend time and energy with them.

Taking care of children by parents can not only avoid the emotional loss between adults and children, but also prevent parents from losing a good opportunity to educate their children. In this regard, we must attract the attention of young parents.

A child with a mother is like a treasure, and a child without a mother is like a grass. Children who are not cared for by their parents are flawed, and some children are even treated as patients.

Yin Jianli treated a boy who lacked the care of his parents. He was diagnosed with ADHD in the second grade.

The boy didn't pay attention in class, but also ran around, attacking his classmates for no reason, and even scratching others. After being forced to transfer to another school, he hasn't changed and needs his grandmother to accompany him every day. The students are very angry with him, and both the teacher and the headmaster are worried. After the class teacher suggested going to the hospital for examination, he was diagnosed as "ADHD". After taking the medicine for three months, it still doesn't get better.

Yin Jianli found that he was not a patient, but a child who lacked family education. The boy's parents lived together unmarried and broke up after he was born. My mother is gone forever, and my father is missing. I see him once or twice a year. Children are brought up by grandparents, and grandpa has a bad temper. If the grandson is naughty, grandpa will scold him if he doesn't fight, and take his resentment against his son out on him.

After finding out the reason, Yin Jianli began to improve his living environment and asked his grandparents to change their attitude towards their children. Find the class teacher again, indicating that the child has no problem. Finally, communicate with children's favorite things as the starting point. Get the boy back to normal after four months.

Create a harmonious family environment.

Yin Jianli said that a happy family is a five-star hotel. The home should not only be clean, tidy, beautiful and comfortable, but also the family members should live in harmony, instead of quarreling and making trouble for a trivial matter. An unharmonious family will bring anxiety to children, and it will also leave a shadow on their growth, and some will even grow up in fear of marriage.

Be good at discovering the beauty of children.

Yin Jianli has a "merit book" at home, but there is no "demerit book". Since Yuan Yuan was four years old, she has kept a small notebook at home to record her good deeds, such as packing toys, throwing garbage, making up stories by herself and learning to cut potatoes. This enhances children's self-confidence and makes it easier to make progress.

You can't beat and scold children.

Beating and cursing is the most undesirable method in education. Beating children is not only a bad habit, but also a kind of violence. It is unscientific to say that filial sons are born under sticks. Beating and scolding children solves a small problem at present, but the scars left by beating and scolding will accompany children all their lives, which will easily make them depressed or even degenerate.

Help children solve problems.

If children encounter problems at school, parents should stand up and help them solve them instead of taking revenge. Loving children is to help her build a harmonious situation, not to create trouble for her.

Let reading accompany children for life.

Guide children to read. Gradually cultivate children's interest in reading, parents should also set an example, put down their mobile phones and read together. Read and recite ancient poems, so that children can slowly appreciate the beauty of Tang poetry and Song poetry. Yin Jianli also suggested reading a lot of other books, which is the best way for us to learn from the experience of our predecessors and grasp life correctly.

Simply put, reading can gain the greatest wealth and benefit children all their lives.

Finally, a brief summary of today's content:

The author says that children are jade in the hands of parents, and the correct education method is a beautiful carving knife. As the saying goes, "A jade must be cut to make a tool."

Facing this jade in our hands, we should pick up the carving knife and act quickly. If we can't carve it carefully, don't let it go to waste. We should work together with our children to create a better future.