When people reach middle age, the other half changes their minds. What kind of treatment is smart?

There is a famous novel called Fortress Besieged. There is a special classic in Fortress Besieged, which says:

"Marriage is like a besieged city. People in the city want to go out and people outside the city want to come in. "

What you can't get is always the best. If you get it, you may not learn to cherish it.

Some men's feelings in life come and go quickly.

So, some women describe men's love like this:

"Men love you very much when they chase you. After they get it, their attitude will change. After they get married, their attitude will get worse and worse. "

Women always want to find a good man to marry before they get married. A woman who finds a good husband is lucky, but not every woman is so lucky.

In love, some men are not single-minded to women. Even if you get married, you will be bored with women because of the dull marriage.

Some men betray women.

Smart women know that everything has a shelf life. When a man betrays you, the most important thing is not that you get back at him, but that you have done something beneficial to yourself.

Calm down and communicate with your husband. Some time ago, on a platform, a lady said this:

"If your husband betrayed you, first of all, you should calm down and communicate with your husband. I have been in love for many years, even if I leave, I must be decent and don't act like a bitch. "

Knowing that a man betrayed himself and made himself look like a bitch may be a state of mind for most women.

Everyone has their own emotions, and women can't accept the fact that men betray themselves, so this is the case. However, at this time, women should be calm.

Many women like to have a cold war with men and don't want to talk to them after learning that men betray themselves. This is not desirable.

It is difficult to face a person who betrayed himself, but even so, women should calm down and communicate with men.

At this time, women should know what boys think and hope that men can tell women whether men want to be with women again.

If a man doesn't want to spend time with a woman, there is no need for a woman to waste time with this man. If you still want to be with a woman, you need to know whether you still want to be with this man at this time.

Women can also know what men really want through communication with men. In this way, even if two people divorce later, women can make preparations early.

Try to improve yourself and impress your husband. A woman should try her best to improve herself and make men sit up and take notice.

In the TV series Ruyi Palace, Yi Ru still insisted on wearing armor every day when she was put in the cold.

Women should refine themselves anyway, so that they can attract others in the future.

In this world, everyone likes beautiful things, everyone likes beautiful women, especially men.

In "Royal Love in Ruyi Palace", when Yi Ru went to hell, she dressed herself very neatly. No, because she entered the cold house, she made herself look sad, and she didn't make herself disheveled because she entered the cold house.

Those who still have hope in disappointment will always see sunshine in the future; Only those who can move towards a better world after being betrayed have a chance to turn over.

Don't be careless when a woman is abandoned. Only when she is getting better and better can she impress the other person.

Women should know that you are getting better and better, not only because of each other, but also because of yourself.

Every setback will make us better and better, and make us stronger and stronger.

I will not be wronged because two people have children. Why do many women compromise in marriage? It is because women pay too much attention to children that they have to compromise for them.

Many women and men have actually lived a husband-and-wife life in name only, but they haven't divorced for more than ten years because of their children.

In the eyes of women, children are very important, because women are emotional animals.

Maybe a woman can give up a marriage, but not a child. Especially when a woman knows that a man has betrayed her, she will fantasize that her child will be raised by her stepmother in the future. This feeling is heartbreaking.

Women must know that children are the children of two people. Sometimes in marriage, you don't compromise for the children. Not that you are selfish, but for the good of your children.

Some women don't divorce for their children, but they have to bear the cold violence of their husbands every day, and sometimes their husbands will beat themselves. What the husband does is in the eyes of the child. Isn't this torture for children! When children see all this, they can't help but be desperate.

When children grow up, they will have a shadow when they think of these things. This kind of shadow may cause children to no longer believe in love, and may also cause children to fear marriage.

Therefore, women should not think that after a man betrays you, you can stay at home for the sake of your children. This compromise will be counterproductive.

Sometimes you hurt the child for the sake of the child, and sometimes in the eyes of the child, maybe it is more appropriate for you to leave.

Don't retaliate, but don't back down. Some women will feel particularly inferior when they know that men have betrayed themselves. This woman with low self-esteem is breathless and has no confidence in doing anything.

Many women will shrink back in front of a man's third party. In fact, doing so will only make your status lower and lower, and will only make others more and more arrogant.

Women must know that when you have done nothing wrong, don't bow to others easily. There is a saying that is particularly good:

"We don't make trouble and are not afraid of things."

Women should know that you can be a gentle person at ordinary times, but you don't need to be weak in the face of a woman who wants to occupy your husband and destroy your marriage.

Women can treat their husbands meekly at ordinary times, but when their husbands treat them badly, women don't have to worry about their feelings.

Be kind to others, but sometimes you need your own principles and bottom line.

Don't retaliate against others, but don't back down when others bully you.

People will encounter many things in my life, just like a slogan of a civil affairs bureau some time ago:

"Being married is not necessarily happy, and being single is not necessarily unhappy."

Fate is predestined, and happiness is your own. When a person is unhappy in marriage, he must know how to create his own happiness.

As a woman, we should believe in love, be kind to others and be self-reliant.