Husband refuses painless delivery: Whether your husband loves you or not, you will know after giving birth!

Text/Lily

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I saw a piece of news on Toutiao the day before yesterday, and I was shocked.

At the Hangzhou Maternity Hospital, 26-year-old Xiao Chen entered the delivery room to wait for delivery. The cervix was only 2 fingers open when Xiao Chen couldn't bear the pain anymore and asked for painless delivery.

But facing his wife who was in agony, the husband shook his head firmly and refused to sign the consent form for painless delivery. He said: "Anesthesia has an impact on children and is not good for adults." No matter how the anesthetist explained, the husband's attitude remained firm.

"I hate you forever!" Xiaochen, who was helpless in pain, cried and shouted to her husband.

We still don’t know what will happen next, but netizens are making a fuss online.

Many netizens left messages saying that such selfish people are not worthy of the next generation and do not have the least compassion. What if a dystocia occurs?

But my opinion is, in The hospital is the most humane place. From a man's attitude towards your delivery, you can tell whether this person is worthy of your trust for life.

At a time when life and death are at stake, we will all feel compassion for a stranger, right? Let alone our own relatives.

Last year, a pregnant woman in Yulin City, Shaanxi Province, could not bear the severe pain of childbirth. She knelt down and begged her husband and mother-in-law many times to no avail. She jumped from the hospital window, killing one person and two others.

Pain can really kill you, not to mention the pain of both the mind and body.

We should be thankful that this pregnant woman in Hangzhou did not jump off the building.

But this incident will become a shadow that will accompany her throughout her life. If she hadn't divorced her husband.

In the eyes of her husband, she is just a production machine. He is worried that anesthesia will be bad for the child and does not care about her life or death. Is it necessary for such a marriage to survive?

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A man who has never tried to give birth to a child will never understand the pain.

The average person’s pain during childbirth reaches at least level 8, especially when the fetus is larger, and the pain is even more severe!

A hospital once conducted an experiment.

Let several boys experience it. Although the pain index is one-tenth that of normal childbirth and the experience time is less than one-eighth of the actual time, they are already so painful that they are deformed...

One can only imagine how much pain a real childbirth has to endure. of pain.

But generally men who have never experienced giving birth say that who doesn’t feel pain when giving birth? Just “bear it”. If they were asked to have children, would they still endure it?

Pregnancy and childbirth can be said to be the death door for a woman. The survey results show that 50% of mothers feel unbearable pain, 44% complain of obvious pain, only 6% complain of mild pain, and more than 90% of mothers suffer from fear-tension-pain syndrome during delivery.

I saw a piece of news on the Internet. A pregnant woman was diagnosed with a dangerous ectopic pregnancy. The pregnant woman herself agreed to the surgical treatment, but her husband did not agree to the surgery and scolded the medical staff present. He shouted loudly: "What are you doing? I don't agree with your treatment! We want to transfer to another hospital and I don't believe you!" and turned off the infusion tube.

Finally, the doctor decisively said to the pregnant woman: "According to your current condition, if you want to transfer to another hospital, time has not allowed it. The most likely possibility is that you will die on the way to the hospital! Life is yours, not yours." Husband, I finally want to listen to your opinion!"

Subsequently, the pregnant woman agreed to undergo the operation and was out of danger.

After this incident, the doctor lamented: If the patient does not make the decision himself, we have no choice but to helplessly watch a young life disappear before our eyes.

Sometimes we don’t need men to make decisions for us. We must learn to make decisions for ourselves and learn to be responsible for our own lives.

It is said that childbirth is a matter of two people, but in fact, the only one who really faces it is women.

In 2017, 1 out of every 5,102 pregnant women in China died.

Therefore, before the delivery bed, men should think more about their perspective. Pregnancy and childbirth are a test of life, and it is not just a matter of "bearing it for a while".

Can you bear it for a while?

When a woman gives birth to a child and finds that her husband does not really love you, at this time she should love herself well and be kind to herself.

Love in marriage is unreliable, and a husband who can be relied on is unreliable. Women can only stop losses in time and treat themselves well.

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When is the best time to show that a man truly loves you? I think it is neither before the flowers and under the moon, nor between you and me, but when you give birth to a child. When you are in excruciating pain.

Also giving birth, a woman named Liu from Zhejiang Provincial People's Hospital received a positive response from her husband for her request for painless delivery.

Originally, Xiao Liu planned to give birth in a hospital near her home, but the pain during delivery was really too much and unbearable. When she went to the obstetrics department and asked, she was told that there was no painless delivery. She cried: "Giving birth is the most painful thing in the world." No, I don’t care, I want to go to another hospital to give birth painlessly! "

Her husband loved her very much and immediately posted on WeChat to ask which hospital offers painless delivery at night?

After learning that the Provincial People's Hospital could perform the procedure at night, they immediately drove an hour and a half to the hospital.

Before arriving at the Provincial People’s Hospital, she had already given birth signs and had severe stomach pain. She rushed from the suburbs to the Provincial People’s Hospital during the evening rush hour in order to have a “painless delivery.”

As the analgesic slowly took effect, Xiao Liu, who was crying and shouting, became quiet.

The baby was born in the early morning of the next day. Xiao Liu recalled the experience of giving birth, " I felt that during the process of giving birth, the most painful thing was when I was driving there in the car, but it was painless when I got there and it was tolerable. "

If a man loves a woman, how can he bear to let her suffer? If a man truly loves this woman, he will respect her choice.

What is human nature? It depends on you When he was most helpless and in need of support, his husband said, "I'm here, don't be afraid!" ”

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On Zhihu, I saw netizens complaining about the best husband in the news incident.

——LIN

When I gave birth to my baby, I called my husband and asked him to use Painless when he was in so much pain in the delivery room. My husband replied that it doesn’t matter, you decide for yourself, and I will sign it if I meet the husband in the article. I will definitely tell him that if one day you go to the operating table, I will never sign the anesthesia bill again

——Nan Xiaobei

Such a husband is extremely irresponsible.

——Pretend to be in New York

Nowadays, mothers should be encouraged to sign by themselves, right? A few years ago, when I was in the city, the doctor said that the mother should just sign and make her own decision. .

—— Xiao Douya

Really, having a child can test the true love between husband and wife.

——Dongdong< /p>

Ignorance is the scariest thing

——Axe Yamaguchi Group

Giving birth is a matter for pregnant women, but everyone has a say in deciding how to give birth. , but there is no part for pregnant women, so strange.

——Yankailin

I remember that when I asked for a caesarean section, I signed all the words. When my son grows up and gets married, and when my wife gives birth to a child, I will do everything according to the situation that is most beneficial to the mother. After all, when a woman gives birth to a child, it is a matter of life and death. A daughter-in-law is also someone else’s treasure. How can you, a husband, decide other people’s choices? Quan? It's easy to say that you hate him for the rest of your life! It's true that you should divorce that bastard as soon as the child is born.

If marriage is a contract, we should really think about our family. In fact, it is about maximizing the interests of the couple, rather than only considering the personal happiness, regardless of the life and death of the other party.

It is not easy for a woman to live and live like a girl before giving birth. , after the second and third pregnancy, her sallow face and criss-crossing folds on her belly.

Like Xia Jinju in "The Child", a 33-year-old high-risk mother who has been lying in the hospital for several months. Premature birth, massive bleeding, hysterectomy, life hanging by a thread, her heart stopped beating twice. At this time, her husband was still doing business in Guangzhou, and it was only a moment before she said goodbye.

Many men don’t understand how difficult it is for women. They are used to the fact that it always hurts for women to give birth to children. This kind of “pain” is normal. Their mother gives birth to seven or eight piglets, no? Is it okay?

Women often have more difficulties than men. When a woman gives birth to a child, it means she has to make a lot of sacrifices. They are not allowed to wear beautiful clothes when they are around the child. The smell of the child's daddy and the face of the child have become their biggest concerns...

If you are a man, you should always accompany your wife when she gives birth. By her side, because her and her children's lives are to maximize the interests of the family, always give her the will to survive and the courage to live. This is what a man should do!

Finally, women are also independent individuals, not parasites who rely on their husbands to survive, so sometimes when men are unreliable, we have to rely on ourselves. Never imitate the Yulin mothers and make your own decisions about your own life!

If you meet a man who doesn't love you, then choose to give up as soon as possible, because living with a cold-blooded beast, it is safe to let go as soon as possible!