Have you ever regretted having only one child?

Do you regret having only one child?

Do you regret having only one child? In many families, children are put first. Parents can encourage them more. Children take the initiative to solve problems and let them learn to be independent. Let me share with you whether you regret having only one child. Do you regret having only one child? 1

1. 30-year-old parents who are under great pressure do not regret it

I only have one child. I am currently in the second grade of junior high school. I have never regretted having only one child. She alone.

I gave birth to a child when I was 30 years old. Before that, I didn’t really want to have a child, but I didn’t want to be a DINK. I just wanted to escape for a few years, because the birth of a child means endless things. After giving birth to her, you will be responsible for her, so you need to be fully mentally prepared.

I have a child whose parents are from the same work unit and live in the same community. Her sister did not go to college. She entered a public institution in our hometown through her parents’ relationship. She got married very early and gave birth to a child. When she gave birth to a child, it was as if the child was born to her parents. She was always taken care of by her parents, and she didn't have to worry about eating, drinking or urinating. There are many people like her in our hometown. In the community where my parents live, there were two little girls who played very well with my children when they were young. They were both raised by their grandparents. One of the little girls did not drink milk powder since she was a child. Her mother did not breastfeed in order to maintain her figure. Her grandparents worked hard to raise her well. Her parents, on the other hand, live their own lives, each has a car, the boy is handsome and the girl is beautiful. The clothes the child wears are bought by her grandma, and she looks like a village girl. But luckily, her father is an only child, and her grandfather Grandma has a retirement salary, so she is still doing well.

Another little girl’s parents also work, but they eat and drink at their grandparents’ house. They both eat and drink for free, not to mention giving money to the old couple. I didn’t even buy a single vegetable. The girl’s mother once met my mother and said that her mother-in-law was stingy and the milk powder she prepared for her daughter was very watery. My mother said, if you buy the milk powder, her grandma will definitely not make it so dilute. The old couple's retirement salary is just that, and they still have to pay for their younger son to go to school. The older son and his wife live on nothing. The money for the child's milk powder is a big expense every month, so the grandmother can only use it sparingly.

Although I am not an all-round nanny like the ones mentioned above, my parents also helped me raise my child until he was three years old, and because my parents insisted on raising the child in my hometown, my child still I have been a left-behind child for more than two years. I go back to see her every weekend, but this cannot make up for the lack of companionship during her early childhood. Before the two-child policy was fully liberalized, my teammates tricked me into having a second child, saying that one child would be too lonely and the other child would be a companion. I would just give birth and he would take care of me after birth. I believe him! I told him that I absolutely didn't want it, and that if he wanted it, he would find a way. Tell me, how many fathers have you seen asking for leave when their children are sick? In the middle of a meeting, because it was time to pick up the kids, you had to ask for leave and leave first, and your boss looked down upon you? You haven’t been on a business trip since you had your children? Only a mother will put her children first in everything. To be honest, my unit is not bad. If I change my unit, people like me won't be able to stay there.

In the current education environment, the most troublesome thing for parents is to help their children with their homework, right? I'm lucky enough that I don't have to worry about my children's studies. I'm mainly responsible for the logistics. My colleagues always say that our children are here to repay a favor and it’s too easy to worry about. How to say something? You have to work your ass off to look effortless. To outsiders, my children seem to be quite worry-free, but I know how much effort I have put into them. If nothing else, let me give you an example. I have insisted on reading to my child every day since she was very young, and I basically did not finish reading to her until she was in the second grade of elementary school. Sometimes I’m very tired from work during the day and really sleepy at night. I can’t even ask for leave for my child because she’s used to listening to me reading at that time every day. I often fall asleep while I’m reading. I don’t know what I’m reading. My child will wake me up. Mom, you read it wrong! I don’t know how many times I have read some books, and my children can memorize them. If I cut corners, she will find out.

The main thing I want to say is that with my ability, I can take care of one child, which is good. If there is another one, I really can’t handle it, so I don’t regret having only one child at all.

2. Parents born in the 1980s regret having a daughter

As a child born in the 1980s, I regretted having only one baby daughter in the first ten years. I always wanted to have another daughter. Now I am lucky to have only one. Listen. My husband's words are not repeated. I am an ordinary person with no great skills. I live hand to mouth and use the efforts of the whole family to raise a child. If I give birth to a second child, the quality of life and education level of the two children will definitely be more or less different. Affected, energy cannot keep up. Especially now, children are under a lot of pressure to go to school. It’s really overwhelming when you think about it, and adults have to worry about it every day.

Now that I see a few videos of children posting to their WeChat Moments every day to check in and learn content, I feel inexplicably anxious for them, and I am worried about them. Fortunately, my girl is relatively good and doesn’t have to worry about her studies and life. She will take the college entrance examination in a year and a half. I hope she can realize her dream of taking the college entrance examination!

3. Realistic conditions do not allow regrets

Definitely regrets! I asked my peers around me, and nine out of ten of them regretted not having one more child! According to the national policy at that time, a couple could only have one child. As citizens, we must abide by it! The two children are so perfect. They can help each other and take care of each other with anything. Even if their parents are gone in the future, they still have brothers and sisters, so they will not be lonely. In the early days of the family planning policy, a couple could only have one child. From the family planning slogans all over the streets, we can see the seriousness of the family planning policy at that time. We also saw that many people traveled far and wide in order to escape the family planning policy. Traveling to a foreign country, the sketch "Supernatural Guerrilla" is a true representation of the illegal life at that time. The policy at that time was that if you gave birth to a second child, you would definitely be fired from the public office. In 2000, I got pregnant unexpectedly. I really wanted to give birth secretly, but my husband and I were both working. If I had a baby, I would definitely be fired from the public office. My husband had to do ideological work for me. If we were fired from the public office, we would have no special skills, let alone do business. There is no land in the countryside, so what are we going to do? How do you feed your two kids? Moreover, in my family’s situation, there was really no one to take care of the birth, and my mother-in-law would not help. Although my mother-in-law was supportive, it was inconvenient to live far away, so in the end the fetus had to endure the pain and be induced!

Nowadays, the two-child policy has been liberalized, which is really great. It’s a pity that I am over childbearing age. If it had been relaxed five years earlier, I would definitely have had a second child, but I couldn’t have one. I often encourage those around me who are still hesitating. Friends of Yu, you have caught up with the good policies and have as many children as you can. Don’t get to my age. If you can’t have children, it will be too late to regret! In recent years, the women of childbearing age around me have all given birth to their second child. Looking at their happy faces, I have also been infected! My cousin also gave birth to her second child last year, which is a good word! The family of four was having a great time, and the elderly on both sides were beaming with joy! I can't help but regret it. I look forward to having more sons in the future to make up for my regret! Do you regret having only one child? 2

1. Regret, but you can only keep it in your heart

An old couple who are both over 55 years old this year, because they followed the Western culture when they were young Thought, never have children in your life. Because the two people have been engaged in high-intensity labor work for a long time, their health is not as good as before. I used to work when I was young, but considering that I didn’t have children, I couldn’t help but work more. But overwork eventually exposes them to diseases. Now that I have no children and my health is deteriorating, my future prospects are really worrying.

2. No regrets, relaxed

This 50-year-old couple adheres to another concept. Without children, it does not mean that you can work unscrupulously. Because they had a lot of time to give birth, they spent it traveling and cultivating hobbies. They have opened several stores, have no expenses for their children's education, and have abundant savings. But that doesn’t mean you have nothing to do. You travel and develop hobbies on weekdays, which makes you busier and more fulfilling than parents with children.

3. I have thought about having a baby, but I have missed the best time.

The 44-year-old couple has had three in vitro fertilization attempts, all of which ended in failure. When I was young, I didn't have children because I pursued my career. When I wanted to have children at the age of 40, I missed the opportunity because of their physical problems. At first, the two did think about DINK, but considering that their assets and pension would have to be inherited by future generations, they considered in vitro fertilization. However, in vitro fertilization is also a matter of luck. Now that it is about to undergo the fourth operation, my wife is already shrinking.