Hulunbeier, Inner Mongolia-Marriage Customs

Mongolian people have two marriage systems, namely, grabbing marriage and hiring marriage. Marriage robbery is a form of marriage in slave society. Before13rd century, most Mongolian society practiced the system of robbing marriage. For example, Genghis Khan's father should marry Artur and Lady Hoelun as soon as possible, which is a form of robbing marriage. Engagement marriage is a form of marriage in feudal society. After13rd century, Mongolians entered the feudal society, that is, the engagement system was generally implemented. But there are still remnants of the marriage robbery system. In the war between tribes, robbery or marriage robbery is still common. Ask relatives. Before young men and women get engaged, the man should propose to the woman. Before the founding of New China, it was usually the parents of the man or the matchmaker entrusted to go to the woman's house to ask for relatives. They can get engaged if the woman agrees. According to the traditional Mongolian marriage custom, the man has to ask for relatives from the woman's family many times before he can get the woman's consent. In the first volume of the Secret History of Mongolia, Artur should lead his son Temujin (Genghis Khan) to find his relatives at Dexue Zen House. De Xuechan said: "It takes several times to give, so that you can get respect;" If you give it a few times less, you will be looked down upon. Later, a Mongolian proverb came into being: "Asking more is expensive, asking less is cheap." "After the relatives and friends reached an agreement, the man took Hada, milk wine and five forks or whole sheep to the woman's house to make a decision. The woman's family invited relatives and friends to accompany the guests to drink, indicating a formal engagement. Bridal gift. After the young men and women are engaged, the gifts given by the man's family to the woman's family are also called bride price. The amount of dowry depends on the economic situation of the man's family. Most agricultural areas use gold and silver jewelry, cabinets and clothes as dowry; Cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock are often used as dowry in pastoral areas. Herdsmen regard "Nine" as an auspicious number, and the bride price begins with "Nine". From "September 19th" to "September 9th", it can't exceed 8 1 head at most, and "September 9th" means longevity. If poor herders don't have a dowry of nine animals, they can also choose an odd number less than nine and use three, five or seven animals as a dowry, but they can't choose the number of spouses. Dowry. The bride's family accompanied her daughter's wedding gift. Mongols are very particular about dowry. How much dowry the man gives, the woman will accompany the corresponding amount of dowry. Usually, the woman marries more things than the man gives to her family. Therefore, there is a Mongolian proverb: "You can afford a daughter-in-law, but you can't afford a girl. "

Mongolian people have two marriage systems, namely, grabbing marriage and hiring marriage. Marriage robbery is a form of marriage in slave society. Before13rd century, most Mongolian society practiced the system of robbing marriage. For example, Genghis Khan's father should marry Artur and Lady Hoelun as soon as possible, which is a form of robbing marriage. Engagement marriage is a form of marriage in feudal society. After13rd century, Mongolians entered the feudal society, that is, the engagement system was generally implemented. But there are still remnants of the marriage robbery system. In the war between tribes, robbery or marriage robbery is still common. Ask relatives. Before young men and women get engaged, the man should propose to the woman. Before the founding of New China, it was usually the parents of the man or the matchmaker entrusted to go to the woman's house to ask for relatives. They can get engaged if the woman agrees. According to the traditional Mongolian marriage custom, the man has to ask for relatives from the woman's family many times before he can get the woman's consent. In the first volume of the Secret History of Mongolia, Artur should lead his son Temujin (Genghis Khan) to find his relatives at Dexue Zen House. De Xuechan said: "It takes several times to give, so that you can get respect;" If you give it a few times less, you will be looked down upon. Later, a Mongolian proverb came into being: "Asking more is expensive, asking less is cheap." "After the relatives and friends reached an agreement, the man took Hada, milk wine and five forks or whole sheep to the woman's house to make a decision. The woman's family invited relatives and friends to accompany the guests to drink, indicating a formal engagement. Bridal gift. After the young men and women are engaged, the gifts given by the man's family to the woman's family are also called bride price. The amount of dowry depends on the economic situation of the man's family. Most agricultural areas use gold and silver jewelry, cabinets and clothes as dowry; Cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock are often used as dowry in pastoral areas. Herdsmen regard "Nine" as an auspicious number, and the bride price begins with "Nine". From "September 19th" to "September 9th", it can't exceed 8 1 head at most, and "September 9th" means longevity. If poor herders don't have a dowry of nine animals, they can also choose an odd number less than nine and use three, five or seven animals as a dowry, but they can't choose the number of spouses. Dowry. The bride's family accompanied her daughter's wedding gift. Mongols are very particular about dowry. How much dowry the man gives, the woman will accompany the corresponding amount of dowry. Usually, the woman marries more things than the man gives to her family. Therefore, there is a Mongolian proverb: "You can afford a daughter-in-law, but you can't afford a girl. "