Children's wrong slogan

0 1 children only? Admit a mistake? , but not? Know the mistake? , meaningless.

Last week, Sister Peng invited her colleagues to eat hot pot at home. When there are many children, it is easy to make noise. Fortunately, Peng Jie's family has a special toy room, and the children have a place to stay.

Sister Peng asked her son Xiaoyu to take care of her younger brother and sister. Xiaoyu promised well at first, but then he forgot after playing for a while.

There are many model cars in the toy room. Boys like to play with them, but Xiaoyu cherishes these toys and generally won't let people touch them. When he sees someone picking up the toy car, he will take it away quickly. Other children find it boring to see toys that they can't play with.

There was a child holding a toy car and wouldn't let go, and Xiaoyu wouldn't give in. The two men fought with each other, and finally Xiaoyu gave the boy a push. The toy car was taken back, but it also made the boy cry When he heard the cry, the adults gathered.

The boy said to his mother, Brother Xiaoyu hit me. ?

Xiaoyu heard that there was some uncertainty here, and quickly said: I didn't hit him. He robbed the toy car first. ?

When Xiaoyu's mother heard about the toy car, she knew that the child had been guilty again and quickly asked Xiaoyu to apologize. Xiaoyu was timid at first and refused to talk to anyone.

Ma Xiaoyu can only threaten him: if you don't apologize, you will confiscate all the toys? .

Xiaoyu knew that her mother could do what she said, so she had to apologize to the boy, and the boy and mother didn't pursue it too much. In fact, although Xiaoyu apologized, he never felt that it was wrong to protect his toy car.

Sister Peng later told the children that they should learn to be generous in the future, and toys are shared and played.

Under the tireless persuasion of his mother, he began to reflect on his behavior and promised his mother that he would try to share it next time.

When a child makes a mistake, he has a chance to correct it. When society is tolerant of children, it is a very good way to give them more time to try and make mistakes.

Since the child was two years old, his self-awareness has gradually emerged. At this time, it is difficult to really listen to the teachings of adults.

If the child makes a mistake, parents simply let him talk? Excuse me. It is inevitable that children may not know where they are wrong and will make the same mistake next time.

What is it for children? Admit a mistake? What is this? Know the mistake? ?

1. Admitting mistakes is just talk? Excuse me. To know what is wrong is to realize what is wrong.

Parents teach their children to apologize for their mistakes, but they don't teach them how to recognize them at all. Maybe everyone forgives children a lot, as long as they say something. Excuse me. You won't pursue it too much.

But when you become an adult, you won't get so much tolerance. If you just apologize, you may not be understood by others. On the contrary, this perfunctory attitude will give people a feeling of insincerity.

Making mistakes is actually a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. For example, in the communication between male and female friends, girls want to eat salad in order to lose weight, while boys want to eat hot pot in order to fill their stomachs. The two disagreed, and the boy planned to eat separately. The girl was very angry about it. The boy thinks that an apology will solve the problem. In fact, the girl was even more angry after hearing the apology.

Regardless of who is at fault in this matter for the time being, the reason for the intensification of contradictions is that the boy simply doesn't know where he is wrong and thinks he is perfunctory. sorry Everything will be fine.

The same is true for children. Apologizing casually does not really solve the problem. It is still necessary for children to recognize the facts before making changes.

It takes courage to admit mistakes, and it takes a process to admit mistakes.

It is not easy for adults to apologize bravely. If the child can do it, it is commendable. Children who are willing to apologize should be fully encouraged, and they should not be too sure. After all, when they admit their mistakes, they know they are wrong.

Many parents ask when their children make mistakes. Do you know this is wrong? ?

The child nodded in bewilderment, and the parents looked at the child sincerely, and the matter was turned over. But is the child really wrong about this? Without the process of understanding and thinking, it is impossible.

Therefore, in this case, parents should not rush to let their children show their attitude, but give them more time to think, so that children can take the initiative to realize their mistakes.

3. Admitting mistakes is for others, while acknowledging mistakes is introspection.

You need to be sorry for others, reflect on yourself and correct your mistakes in order to make people grow up. It can be seen that admitting mistakes is courtesy and respect for others, and recognizing mistakes is a manifestation of being responsible for yourself.

It is a snub to a child who wants to muddle through when he makes a mistake.

Parents, too, only teach their children to apologize to others, but not to be responsible for themselves, which is not conducive to their growth. Everything should be viewed from many aspects in order to get the greatest benefit.

03 society? Know the mistake? What's the point in stopping recidivism?

1. Establish the wrong learning mechanism

Recognizing mistakes is a process of actively recognizing mistakes, and children need to spend time thinking about where the problem lies.

For example, the children messed up their mother's wardrobe because they were playful. The naive children were very happy, but their mother flew into a rage and taught them a lesson. Do children really know what mistakes they have made at this time? He's just fooling around.

Mothers should point out their mistakes to their children, let them think, and establish a learning mechanism from them. Only when they make mistakes again can they take the initiative to seek change.

2. Establish a correct view of right and wrong

Children need education, which not only refers to the knowledge in books, but also includes the correct three views. Many things in the world are not black and white, and it is not easy for adults to make correct judgments.

Only by letting children learn from their mistakes and shaping their consciousness in their own minds can we cultivate a correct view of right and wrong.

Error is an important way of cognition. Instead of adults telling children how to do it directly, it is better to let children sum up their experience in repeated failures, which is a better way to grow up.

3. Learn to apologize sincerely

Apologizing is simple, but few people can learn to apologize sincerely. In order to save face, many adults sometimes even ignore this process.

Adults believe that tacit understanding can solve problems. In fact, this is a very wrong method, and children should never learn it.

Only by bravely recognizing mistakes can we sincerely apologize and treat others sincerely. In interpersonal communication, people are often open and honest, and they are more favored by others.

Admitting mistakes requires children to know their mistakes first, which requires not only children's efforts, but also parents' teaching. Parents should pay attention to anything that will affect their children's growth. Children can't just do wrong things? Admit a mistake? ,? Know the mistake? It is the last word, parents should give more guidance.

For example, bumping into someone while walking, or breaking my mother's cosmetics, these are not small mistakes, but mistakes. When parents teach their children to apologize, they should also teach them why it is wrong to do so. Let children feel the same way and learn to think from the standpoint of others.

Parents' education of their children is not a temporary thing, but a lifelong thing. Don't think that telling children the truth will benefit them for life. In real life, we should always remind children that they must correct their mistakes so that they can keep them in mind.