Older single men and women are looking for wives. Why do men like to find wives more than women?

There is a strange phenomenon among the single old people around us: older men are more willing to find wives than women.

As for single elderly women, after retirement, they have a pension and are no longer dependent on men economically, which lays the foundation for their old-age spouse selection.

Relatively speaking, they live a chic life, without their parents' brief quarrels and trivial daily life, and only have a lot of time, enjoying quiet time and unrestrained freedom.

So they prefer to live alone after being single in their later years.

Men are different. It seems that they are more afraid of loneliness and prefer someone to chat to relieve boredom.

On the surface, it seems so, but there are deeper reasons.

Let's ask three old people who are in it to talk about the deep reasons behind this appearance.

Second, the real case

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Interviewee: Mr. Liu, aged 65, has been widowed for two years.

Single for two years, I miss my wife's kindness more and more. I don't feel this way when I'm together.

When I left, I felt that it was not that she relied on me, but that I relied on her.

Now, I am the only old man in my family. It's deserted here, and it's terribly quiet. The children are too busy at work or at home to talk to me.

I want to find a wife now. I don't want others to wait on me, nor do I want her to cook for me. But that two people are not alone with each other.

In terms of housework, we can do housework together, cook together, buy food together and exercise together to fight against loneliness in the years and warm each other's hearts. This is my idea, simple and clear.

Retired single old people like us are inevitably lonely. If we pin our hopes on our children, we may get more disappointment. They are young people, under great pressure of social competition, and have families and children to support behind them. What they need more is the instinct to make a living than to accompany the elderly.

So, I think it's better to find a wife. The loneliness of two people together is not loneliness, and the loneliness of two people together is not loneliness, which not only eliminates the worries of children, but also enriches their lives. This is the best choice for the elderly.

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Interviewee: Ms. Su, 6 1 year old.

My husband has been dead for ten years. At first, my heart was empty and I felt that I had no backbone, but with the passage of time, I gradually accepted the state of living alone.

After a long time, I found that a person can live a good life, the quality of life will not decline, and there are many trivial quarrels. When you are in a good mood, your body will naturally be better.

In addition, there is a more important point: you don't have to ask your wife for advice, you don't have to wronged yourself for him, you don't have to cook so many dishes on the table, and you don't have to do endless housework. I have to provide food, clothing, housing and transportation for my wife.

When I get old, I don't want to look at other people's faces, and I don't want to serve anyone anymore. I just want to live happily for myself according to my own wishes.

I feel that I am doing very well at present. You can cook when you want to cook, eat out when you don't want to cook, play wherever you want, and you don't have to discuss with others if you want to buy clothes. This is my dream day.

Therefore, I don't want to find a wife. I prefer to enjoy quiet time and live a free and easy life.

Of course, this has something to do with my self-reliance. I don't depend on others, whether economically or in life, I can be independent, I don't need the care of others, and I don't want to take care of others.

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Interviewee: Mr. Song, aged 63.

It's been more than a year since my wife died, and the house is like a pigsty. Let the housekeeper come and clean up once in a while. Two days later, it was chaos again. Well, I'm not good at sorting and tidying.

I do have a daughter, but she is also the mother of two children, and she has to go to work, so no one can do her own thing, let alone help me.

My diet and daily life have been irregular since my wife left. Sometimes I sleep in the middle of the night, sometimes I get up early in the morning, and sometimes I stay at home all day, feeling particularly bored and doing nothing.

After thinking about it, I still want to find a wife. Two people will accompany each other and talk and laugh together. Even if there is a lot of noise, it will be interesting to set off fireworks when time is full. How nice!

I have single women around me, but they don't want to find a wife. It's not good for me to leave hastily, so I told my neighbor Song Ge what I thought. Song Ge is an able person in the community. There is nothing he doesn't know, nothing he is unfamiliar with, and he knows everything at home like the back of his hand.

You AE introduced me to a 57-year-old lady. She came from the country to take care of her children. Now that the children have grown up, she has free time. She is honest and hardworking, and she is good at cooking and housework.

Now, we have a good life, chatting and chatting, and we are no longer bored. More importantly, since I got a wife, I have also eaten delicious food and lived in a clean and hygienic home.

Third, summary.

Therefore, there is a reason why men are more willing to find wives than women:

First, men are more afraid of loneliness and loneliness than women.

To some extent, women are relatively emotional and men are relatively rational. This also means that women can digest some bad emotions by venting or communicating.

Men are different. To the outside world, he will not talk about his family with his peers, nor will he pour out his sadness. He will hide it in his heart or just want to share it with the closest people.

When they lose their other half, there is no one to talk to, and they are unwilling to mention it to others, which will make them more lonely and lonely. Therefore, it is more necessary to be accompanied and cared for.

Secondly, to some extent, men need women's care in their diet and daily life.

It is undeniable that many men can cook good dishes, but women pay the most for cooking or housework. Even if men can do it, they won't do it often.

Don't doubt, look back at your parents or family. Most families are run by women.

Therefore, single elderly women, without wives, can also take care of their own lives with pensions.

Older men are not necessarily. Many times, like headless flies, they don't know what to do or where to aim. That's because they are used to reaching out with clothes and making ends meet. It's hard to make changes after so many years.

Therefore, older men need more care and companionship from people around them.

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