Is it realistic to work in a big city for enough days, pay off the mortgage, sell the house and go back to your hometown county?

On 20/0/8, Kloc sold his house in a first-tier city and went back to work in his hometown county. However, the ideal is full and the reality is very skinny. After staying in my hometown for two years, my wife and children began to miss life in first-tier cities again.

We have begun to prepare to return to the first-tier cities, but selling the housing in the first-tier cities is only enough for 40% of the houses in the same lot.

Looking back on the decision I made to go back to my hometown, I regret it. I don't regret it!

1999 after graduation, like many classmates, I chose to stay and work in the local area.

This is a first-tier city in the south. Compared with the mainland, there are not only more job opportunities, but also higher wages.

When I first started working, my monthly salary was 5,000, while my hometown classmates earned less than 500. Of course, this salary also far exceeds the income level of many ordinary local employees.

I still clearly remember that the first Spring Festival after graduation, no matter where I go, will become the object of discussion and envy of relatives and friends. My vanity has also been greatly satisfied.

But this high income is not blown by strong winds, but at the expense of one's own time and health.

I majored in computer science, which was definitely a hot major at that time. The job is easy to find and the income is high, but "996" has become the normal state of work. In the most exaggerated year, I flew 6.5438+0.2 million kilometers in the air. That year, I was either on the plane or on my way to the airport.

My wife and I are colleagues, and we are as busy at work. After marriage, we spend no more than two months together every year. It is because of this disguised separation that I had my first child at the age of 35.

Long-term hard work has increased my monthly income from 5,000 yuan in 1999 to 40,000 yuan in 20 18, and my wife's monthly income has reached 20,000 yuan. Perhaps in the eyes of outsiders, although we are not rich, we can at least be included in the rich group, but only we can understand the pain.

Due to long-term, high-intensity, overloaded and irregular work, I suffer from various chronic diseases such as cervical hyperplasia, lumbar disc herniation, fatty liver and gastritis, and my body is in a serious sub-health state. Because I often turn day and night upside down and work under great pressure, I suffer from severe neurasthenia. I often fall asleep at two or three in the morning and often take sleeping pills.

In 20 16, we responded to the call of the state and gave birth to a second child. Because my wife is an only child and my parents live with us, the original three-bedroom apartment is not enough, so we have to change it into a four-bedroom apartment.

Housing prices in first-tier cities are really beyond the reach of ordinary people. Even with the original three-bedroom foundation, I still owe 3 million bank loans and need to repay nearly 20 thousand yuan every month. Moreover, since the birth of the second child, because the old man is old, Dabao Primary School has no tutor, and his wife has to resign at home. I bear all the financial pressure at home alone.

My monthly income is 40 thousand, but after deducting the mortgage, my disposable income is only 20 thousand This money is really not spent in first-tier cities.

My pressure is even greater because of this.

In the first half of 20 18, the physical condition became worse and worse. Insomnia and dreaminess, lumbar disc herniation make me unable to sit for a long time. A slight change in temperature will lead to a cold and fever, and it is difficult to recover from a cold for ten days and a half. My hair began to fall off a lot.

I had a comprehensive physical examination. Fortunately, I didn't suffer from terminal diseases such as tumors, but the doctor said that every part of my body was below the healthy value. According to my health at that time, if I didn't make a change, I would either be exhausted in the workplace or die young.

After discussing with my wife, we decided to sell the house and go back to our hometown.

Our house has been sold for120,000, and after deducting the bank loan, there is still more than 9 million. This is a huge sum of money for hometown people.

We bought a single-family villa in our hometown and spent 3 million on decoration. The remaining 6 million is put in the bank for interest, which is enough for the whole family to eat and wear.

We all thought that we could live a relaxed and comfortable life in our hometown, but the reality is far from so simple!

I must admit, since I moved back to my hometown, I have relaxed immediately. At first, for a whole year, my daily life was to pick up and drop off my children, go fishing, or travel for a family of four. I have been waiting for this kind of life for a long time, and after a year of adjustment, my body has gradually recovered. But not everything is going well:

The first problem is the education of children.

My family Dabao will be promoted to junior high school, and in a few years, he will face the problem of entering the university. According to the local education level, even if she goes to the best junior high school and senior high school in the local area, the chance of finally getting into a book is about 20%. Unlike the first-tier cities where I used to live, the key high schools there usually have a rate of 80.90%.

Dabao is interested in piano. He started practicing at the age of four and passed Grade 8 when he returned to his hometown. But since I returned to my hometown, I found that I couldn't find a suitable piano teacher.

Bauer went to kindergarten. Although the charge standard of the old kindergarten is only one-third of that of the first-tier cities, its software and hardware level is really flattering.

Secondly, the medical level is low.

Last year, my 78-year-old mother-in-law was diagnosed with gastric cancer, which belongs to early stage. If you can get active and effective treatment, the prognosis is good.

In order to help her mother-in-law, we had to send her to a 3A hospital in the former first-tier city for treatment. We went there four times last year, and every time she was hospitalized, we rented a house nearby.

Going back and forth makes us feel exhausted. At that time, we often thought, if only we had not moved back to our hometown!

Third, hometown is a human society.

The county seat of my hometown is not big, and the permanent population is about100000. People become relatives after several twists and turns. This is a human society. Without human feelings, you can hardly do anything.

Unlike first-tier cities, many government services are handled online, which is open and transparent. As long as you meet the requirements, you can close the case even if you stay at home.

Take handling ID cards as an example.

If I am in a first-tier city, I just need to apply online and submit relevant materials, so I can sit at home and wait for the results. But in my hometown, you have to be so relaxed, just like an idiot.

In order to apply for an ID card for Dabao, I personally went to the household registration department several times, either on the pretext that the agent was absent, or the application materials were incomplete, or did not meet the requirements. Or I just delayed. Later, I found a friend to say hello, sent a cigarette to the manager, and finally got my ID card.

Working in my hometown, I only have one word: "tired". Without human feelings, it is almost impossible to move.

Fourth, there is almost no room for entrepreneurship.

After a year's rest, although I am not short of money, I still want to find something to do. I'm only 46 years old. I can't stay at home and eat and die every day. But I found that I could hardly find a suitable one in my hometown.

My first job was software development. I have searched all over the county, but I haven't found a software development company. There are several small graphic production companies, which have something to do with software development, but how can a company smaller than a sparrow fall into the eyes of a 985 undergraduate and master graduate?

After discussing with my wife, I still want to go back to work and live in first-tier cities, and I am responsible for acting as an advance party. But I found that this is not the city I used to be familiar with.

First, in the workplace, my professional level has fallen behind. I am a person who loves learning. Although I have lived at home these two years, I still insist on learning professional knowledge. The software industry is upgrading too fast. After only two years away, many of my original work experiences are facing the situation of being eliminated. My education and experience are not competitive, so it is even more difficult to find a position comparable to that before I left my job.

Second, in terms of housing, house prices have increased significantly. I still have 6 million in my hand, but to buy back the house I sold before, the down payment is only 40%, and the loan will reach 9 million.

I can't help but sigh: I left the first-tier cities on impulse, and now I want to come back to work, just like going back to before liberation overnight.

I haven't found a suitable job yet, maybe tomorrow, maybe never. The worst result is that you will never find it, or go back to your hometown and continue to live a life of "mixed food and death".

If you ask me, do you regret leaving the first-tier cities? Maybe you will regret it, because once you choose to leave, it will be difficult to come back; Maybe I don't regret it, because if it weren't for the two years of aftercare, I might have been exhausted in the workplace.

Tell me, was it wrong for me to choose to escape from the first-tier cities? (According to netizens)

I feel that when the house sells for four or five million yuan, I spend 6.5438+0.3 million to buy a house in the county, 200,000 to buy a car, 6.5438+0.5 million to raise a shop, and 6.5438+0.00 million to manage money. I live happily and want to be beautiful. Wash and sleep [laughter] [laughter]!