Families with two children have different chains of contempt. What is the pattern in your family?

It is true that there are many stories about second-child families. Staying at home recently, my brother and sister often fight over the TV remote control. My sister complained that my brother watched cartoons for too long and hurt his eyes. As for the younger brother, he complained that his older sister was watching "The Empress" (a costume drama) again. After a while, I heard my brother asking my sister: "Sister, which one is the queen? Why do they all look the same?" ?I couldn't help but laugh when I heard my son say this. As an old mother of two children, I have both happiness and troubles.

Before, I saw an article on the Internet about "The chain of contempt for second-child families". The order of the chain of contempt for second-child families, from top to bottom, from high to low, is as follows: Sibling combination> Brother-sister combination > Sister combination > Brother combination, no matter which combination the two children perform at home, their acting skills are on point, the plot is rich, and they can be said to be acting in a TV series. Let’s talk about the sister-sister combination first. The sister-sister combination is the most promising, because it is also the second-child family with the highest happiness value, ranking first. The girl herself is delicate and thoughtful, and she is the eldest, so she has a stronger sense of responsibility. Many times, she will act as a "little mother" to help her parents take care of her younger brother.

I know this very well, because my husband works out of town all year round, so our sister really helps a lot. While I was busy with housework, she played with her brother. When my brother fell asleep, I went out to buy groceries and she helped take care of him. Brother and sister team. In fact, this combination should be the dream of many little girls, to have a handsome and warm brother. Sun Li once said in a variety show that her daughter Xiaohua was named by her brother because his favorite tiger cub was named Xiaohua. However, when my brother was a little boy, life may not have been so warm and beautiful. When I was watching the TV series "Take My Brother Away", I felt very sorry for the younger sister Shi Miao in it. She was really cheated by her brother Shi Zhen every minute. I remember that there was a time when my daughter also wanted to have a brother who could protect herself. However, when she understood: With a brother, no one else will hit me, only my brother will hit me. She held her little brother in her arms. Said: "It's better to be a younger brother".

Sister combination. I never understood why the sister group should be ranked at the bottom. I feel that the sister group should be ranked first. Just imagine, there are two girls at home. When they were children, they played with Barbie dolls together. When they grew up, they whispered and went shopping together. They were simply best friends. The biggest disadvantage may be that they have different resources, parents, which may lead to conflicts between the two people. Moreover, girls are more sensitive, and if their parents don’t pay attention, they may have an illusion? Do my parents not love me? Finally, let’s talk about the brother group. The feeling of raising a son is that the house is a mess. But when you have two sons, the home can be a battlefield. ?They are born from the same roots, so why rush to fight each other? It is so appropriate to apply to the two brothers. It is common for older brothers to beat younger brothers. It is normal for the older brother to try out the toys he buys for his younger brother, and then accidentally break them. It's not even a question of warning and threatening his younger brother while his parents are away. According to my grandmother, the two sons of boxing champion Zou Shiming started fighting when one of them wasn't paying attention. Of course, basically the elder brother wins and the younger brother cries.

When two children are at home, even if the brother-sister combination is at the top of the "chain of contempt", there will be times when they dislike each other. Even if the brother-sister combination is at the bottom of the "chain of contempt", there will be beautiful and harmonious scenes. What matters is not how big the conflict is between children, but how parents deal with the conflict between two children.