I have been secretly in love with her for several years, but I just don’t dare to say it out loud! I'm afraid that both parties will be embarrassed if I refuse. We are good friends now, what should I

I have been secretly in love with her for several years, but I just don’t dare to say it out loud! I'm afraid that both parties will be embarrassed if I refuse. We are good friends now, what should I do?

A few years is not a short period of time. I think you should be a stable person, and your feelings for her are already very deep now!

Let me tell you about my personal experience. I feel that rash confession is not a very wise approach. If the other person doesn't love you as much as you love her, your sudden confession may make her not know how to face you, be at a loss what to do, and even have the idea of ????escape. And you will also feel that there is a knot in your heart, making it difficult to continue to get along calmly.

But I don’t mean that I hope you give up. Confession should be a step-by-step process. You have known each other for at least a few years and are now good friends. You must know something about her. In addition to being kind to her and giving, try your best to help her when she needs it. At least treat her more carefully than you currently do, and care about her more carefully than everyone around her. Only in this way can she be better. I feel your feelings. It is best to know what kind of partner she hopes to find and her preferences based on her personality and preferences, etc., and try to be as close to her ideal state as possible (but you have to understand this carefully and not ask directly, and you have to do it naturally, don't You are too deliberate, otherwise the other party may think you are fake when they find out). Doing so will be beneficial to your pursuit process to some extent.

The most important thing you should know at the same time is how does she feel about you? Does she have someone she likes in her heart? Does she think you are suitable for her? Just pay more attention to the details. Girls are generally very careful and attentive to the boys they like. The way they look at you is different from looking at other people. From a medical and psychological perspective, when a person sees someone he likes, When seeing things or people, the pupils of her eyes will dilate instantly; she will be nicer to you than to other people. Please note that being nice to a good friend is different from being nice to a person you like. You need to observe and compare how she treats her friends of the opposite sex around her. What is the difference between them and their attitude towards you? It is best to choose an observation object who is a good friend with her like you (not an ordinary friend), and it is best to have a personality similar to yours (friends with different personalities) , girls will also treat it with different attitudes)... The principle is just like using a control group. Only by using as few variables as possible can it be more accurate.

No matter how careless a girl is, she can basically feel your feelings to some extent when she sees you acting like this for her. If you find that her attitude towards you is different from that of her other friends, she does not avoid your kindness to her and starts to reciprocate your feelings, and her attitude and feelings towards you are different from other friends of the opposite sex, you can basically confirm that she treats you At least I feel good about it.

At this time, you should consider how to express your feelings. After all, proactive and brave men are more attractive to girls. You can choose a suitable place, in a romantic atmosphere, and tentatively and sincerely express your love for her. Her feelings and the feelings you have buried deep down in your heart for the past few years, and then confess them to her. That way it won't be too abrupt, and even if it fails, it won't embarrass both parties. After all, she already knows your heart from the testing you did before.

But please remember, being proactive and brave does not mean being casual towards her. A well-behaved girl will not want a boy to touch her before the relationship is confirmed. That will make her think you are very frivolous. Even if she has a good impression of you, the impression will be greatly reduced!

No matter how strong a girl looks on the outside, she wants her partner to give her a sense of security in her heart, so do your best to take good care of her. I sincerely hope you can be happy!