My mother-in-law speaks ill of me behind my back. What should I do with it?

"I thought that if I was pregnant and gave birth to a child, everything would be calm after giving birth. But who would have expected that her mother-in-law would tell her that she was wrong behind her child's back? It's heartbreaking. " So as the mother of the child and the daughter-in-law who marries the door, how should we deal with this situation? As an experienced person, I'll give you a tip.

First of all, you need to find out why your mother-in-law did this, so that you can prescribe the right medicine. Some mother-in-law is simply idle, with a broken mouth and nothing to look for. Of course, some mothers-in-law feel that their daughter-in-law is not doing well enough and has many shortcomings. They are dissatisfied and want to talk to someone and vent their evil spirits.

Secondly, after finding out the reason, you should take action. For the mother-in-law who makes trouble, I suggest you find your husband or your father-in-law first, describe the specific situation to them, let them dock with your mother-in-law, and let her stop speaking ill of you in front of the children in the future. Of course, I didn't go directly to my mother-in-law, not for fear of her, but to maintain family harmony.

If your mother-in-law still goes her own way after this docking, nothing will change. Then you don't have to tear her face, as long as you don't let her contact with the children again. In addition, don't live together again, otherwise, in this case, you will only look at each other in disgust and intensify contradictions.

In addition, if your mother-in-law thinks you are not doing well enough, you should tell her, change it if you have it, and then encourage her. Let her see your change and show more filial piety to her at the same time.

This is the case with my cousin and aunt. My cousin lives a sloppy life, but her aunt is a "people-oriented" person. Aunt can't talk about her daughter-in-law's fault, but she says it in front of her grandson. My cousin was not only angry, but also corrected it. Now the relationship between the two is relatively harmonious.

Finally, what I want to say is that you should strengthen contact and education with your children, so as to avoid some words said by your mother-in-law before making your children have a bad "view" on you.

What I feel most in life is the fear of "preconceptions" about a person. My aunt is a very good person (we both work in the same unit), but my aunt often tells her grandson about her mistakes, which eventually leads to the child's estrangement from his mother and even thinks that her mother is not a good person. Of course, it is also the wife's own reason, because she is busy with work and neglects to take care of the children. Even now, the relationship between mother and child has not eased much, and children are still unwilling to communicate with their mothers.

Many things in life seem trivial, but if they are not handled well, they are likely to become "kindling" and bring about disharmony in a family. Therefore, you still need to think twice about speaking ill of yourself in front of your mother-in-law and children. I hope my advice will help you.