Every new year, my sister-in-law and her family are waiting at my house to eat ready-made food and not work. What should I do?

I was a mother-in-law for five years. My in-laws and I are both one-child families. What my son means is that my family will entertain guests for reunion during the Spring Festival.

The first two years were like this. I eat in restaurants and at home. My son and daughter-in-law are shopkeepers of cutting, and my mother is a leader.

At dinner, my mother said a word, demanding this and that, as if I were her subordinate.

This kind of feeling makes me feel very uncomfortable, and there are sons and daughters who are not sensible, so I decided not to have a happy reunion in the future, and each family will eat by itself.

My son and daughter-in-law can go wherever they want to spend the New Year. I agree to go to my in-laws for the New Year.

Last year, my son and daughter-in-law spent the New Year's Eve at their parents-in-law's house, and then spent the next seven days at my house. In fact, they are all good at her house. We lightened the burden. Do not need to accept labor reform.

Giant babies are dispensable to parents. People who are uncomfortable with each other seldom associate.

There are three words for people who are waiting for food and doing nothing: don't entertain guests!

I have the most say in this, because I am a sister-in-law family waiting to eat, and I have been cooking a reunion dinner for 30 years.

When I first got married, I packed jiaozi on the 30th night of each year, and jiaozi for nine people was packed by my mother-in-law and grandmother.

Since the Spring Festival party, we have been kneading dough, chopping stuffing and strolling around jiaozi with five curtains. The Spring Festival party is over, and the three of us haven't finished packing yet. I am sleepy, and my new wife is embarrassed to say no, I don't want it, but my mother-in-law will. Aren't they more tired?

But thinking of her sister-in-law as an excuse that her children can't stay up late, the family of three hid in the room to watch the Spring Festival party. They were very angry when drinking tea and cracking melon seeds, but they were angry and embarrassed to say!

At the beginning of the Spring Festival the following year, my mother-in-law cooked by herself and my father-in-law lit the fire. I saw that they were too busy to sit still, so I gave my six-month-old child to my husband to coax, and I went to help my mother-in-law.

It doesn't matter now. From then on, whether it's Chinese New Year cooking or grandparents' birthdays, I'm usually the chef at home.

And my uncle, who is a chef, also plausibly said, "I have been cooking at home for a year, and I haven't let go of a day off for the New Year." I sneered in my heart, "You've been cooking for a year, and your parents haven't eaten at your house yet!"

My sister-in-law would even say, "I can't cook. Your eldest brother cooks at home. Besides, you cook so delicious that everyone who has the ability wants it! "

I ignored her, just bowed my head and busily put the braised elbow into a bowl and served it.

Because I am a careless person, my husband's cousins will come to our house for dinner, and they will have to wait until we go back to our hometown and say that I won't stay at home, and I can't even cook, so it's boring to stay. It's a bit exaggerated, but that's what they said.

Because of my hospitality and delicious cooking, I have a good reputation among my relatives and friends. When my son got married, everyone who could come came, and the whole street was full of cars. A neighbor asked me, "Are all these cars coming to our house?"

I said, "Yes, they all came to our house for a wedding banquet!" " He gave me a thumbs-up without saying anything.

Sister-in-law's family is in the middle of a wedding, and only our family is busy. Only one person from each relative's family came and stayed at our house to chat.

I didn't come until I had dinner at eleven. I left after dinner, and the three of us cleaned up the rest of the mess. Eldest brother and sister-in-law must be very sad to see nothing on the surface.

Be a man, don't care too much about gains and losses. It's not bad to do more work. They can't eat without you. If they try to change others, it is better to change their mentality.

Only in this way can we live easily, don't you think?

We spend the New Year at my mother-in-law's house. Of course, I am the main force, because I don't make plans, so I don't know what time everyone eats. It doesn't matter to do more work in the new year. I don't want the old people to look uncomfortable and feel uncomfortable during the New Year.

Usually a few years ago, I would help clean up. Anyway, I live here. I don't like the dirty house, and then I am responsible for preparing Chinese New Year's food. My mother-in-law will give me some money. ) I will arrange several dishes for the New Year's Eve dinner, which will be smooth and clean, and my husband will be responsible for frying most of them. I will arrange my elder sister-in-law to cook some special dishes and cold dishes. The children will set the table and carry the dishes, and my uncle will be responsible for washing the dishes after dinner. Under normal circumstances, my sister-in-law won't come. I can't find happiness in her own home alone. I can only stand up and arrange to watch TV with my mother-in-law and wait for my son's big red envelope [giggle]. My mother-in-law also gave me a 200 yuan red envelope last year. Anyway, someone in the family needs to suffer, and everyone else is smart. Then I will suffer for the sake of family harmony. God will take care of me.

Well, I can only say that you are used to it. Me, too. My sister-in-law and I are not in the same city. A few years ago, my parents-in-law were at home, and my brother-in-law came over for the New Year. I was busy doing some small business myself, and I was busy until noon on New Year's Eve, and I didn't care to eat when I got home. I am busy washing vegetables, side dishes, mixing noodles and making stuffing. My mother-in-law is not slow at all. Start wrapping jiaozi when you are ready. There are ten people, including my in-laws, four in my family and four in my brother-in-law's family. My husband is cooking, and my brother and wife are lying down with carsickness. The dishes are ready. jiaozi has packed up and invited everyone to have dinner together. My father-in-law said that their children's wives felt sick and didn't want to eat. In the afternoon, my mother-in-law cooks for them. I'm angry. I'm also a daughter-in-law Been busy for a year. I don't want to eat a meal for the whole family. I just said: Then why did they come back? If they don't cook, they have nothing to eat. They prepared a reunion dinner for everyone. In this case, don't come back in the future. Everyone has their own! Now we can either go our separate ways and work together. Nobody owes anyone. There is really no need to be wronged!

This topic should be a cliche. Think about it from another angle. If I do this every year, my heart will definitely be unbalanced. If you are a young aunt or brother-in-law, you can choose to go to your parents' home or your mother-in-law's home for the New Year. If your parents-in-law or parents won't let you, sit down and have a good talk. You can't favor one over the other, and you can't eat ready-made ones. Sister-in-law's home is in other places, and she comes back a limited number of times every year. Every time she comes back for the New Year, she buys gifts in big bags. Then bear it. After all, war is not good, but it can be gently reminded. Most afraid of living nearby and often coming back empty-handed, it doesn't matter. Go ahead.

Every Spring Festival, my sister-in-law's family will wait for ready-made meals at my house. If they do nothing, I won't promise!

First look at the time! But every year, it has become a habit, once a year, it doesn't matter if there are more people! After a long time, who can stand it! You should have the consciousness of a guest!

Moreover, in terms of behavior! Brother and sister-in-law also have families, so why should they serve them every year? They are not the emperor's father. Now is a new society, with a family, hands and feet! If you are paid, you can say, since you are not paid, why should you enjoy the treatment of the emperor? Everyone is equal, there is no problem of obedience!

Finally, psychologically! My brother and sister-in-law sit and wait for food and drink, but they just don't work. They enjoy it, but they can eat it ready-made. Let's think about it, why does your family just eat, drink and not work, enjoy the fruits of other people's labor, and not be ashamed or blush? Neither brothers nor parents owe you anything. You can put yourself in others' shoes. How does it feel for my elder sister to entertain her younger brother's family every year? People should know how to be grateful and have a sense of shame!

Take my friend for example! Two friends and brothers, the elder brother lives in the city, and goes back to his parents' house for almost a month every Spring Festival, while his parents live in his younger brother's house! When my parents are old, the task of cooking falls on my sister-in-law! In the first three years, my sister-in-law was honest and said nothing. She works hard.

Sister-in-law used poor cooking as an excuse. The family went out to play after breakfast, played until lunch, and went out after eating. It took time and energy to clean up the dishes and chopsticks of so many people. After cleaning up, it won't be long before the next meal is ready! I've been busy making food all day! My sister-in-law didn't hurry, just like the emperor, she never thanked her for her hard work and so on! Sister-in-law said nothing, and felt uncomfortable!

In the fourth year, my brother and sister-in-law came back with their children and got married. My sister-in-law also became smart this year. On the pretext that children like to go to grandma's house, she went to her parents' house and played until the day before the Chinese New Year. Go back and see, brother sister-in-law is cooking! I tasted it on the table and it was very delicious! It seems that it is not that I can't cook, but that I am lazy and used to enjoying it!

Therefore, people should be forced, not forced to know, but forced to show their true colors! What do you think of such a brother and sister? Welcome to leave a message for discussion!

This is also the case in my family. Every Chinese New Year holiday, I am the only one at home who is busy around, and my two sisters-in-law are waiting to eat ready-made food.

My husband and I have been married for more than twenty years. Since the first year of marriage, I've been cooking for almost every holiday. If my mother-in-law is in good health, she will help me. My two sisters-in-law and my second sister-in-law sometimes go to help early. My eldest sister-in-law has to be urged to eat ready-made meals, let alone help with cooking.

It's really a laundry list to mention my eldest sister-in-law. Every time I come to my mother-in-law's house, I am penniless. When I got to my mother-in-law's house, I pulled out a goose and left nothing behind. At home, she is a famous filial daughter. Sometimes she can't wait to take things from her mother-in-law's house at night and send them directly back to her mother-in-law's house. My husband has met several times,

On holidays, or something happens in our family, she will make irresponsible remarks. My mother-in-law never reaches out to help us with our things at home. Get together after dinner, then wipe your mouth and run away. Whoever bought it for in-laws, be sure to take it with you when you leave. If we hadn't taken it at that time, my husband and brother would definitely come back to take it later. My husband's eldest brother is a typical one.

I remember one Mid-Autumn Festival, everyone was eating, and her son wanted to drink water. At that time, I happened to have a glass of water there. I didn't drink it, so I handed it over (the water has been poured for a long time and it is not very hot). As a result, the child didn't put it away properly and knocked over the cup directly, and the water hurt his feet. My sister-in-law is very nervous, so it doesn't matter if she asks again and again. The sneakers he wore that day were actually nothing serious.

So the father-in-law did not say anything, the upper was very thick, the water could not be scalded, and there was just a little water on his feet, and the water was not too hot. I didn't expect my sister-in-law to throw the chopsticks in her hand directly on the dining table, sighed and stood up, and directly asked me what my father-in-law meant by nothing. At that time, we were dumbfounded, making my husband's second brother angry with my husband, and finally the family broke up.

Although my parents-in-law are very angry every time, they are afraid of making trouble at home and making neighbors laugh. So I am patient every time, but my sister-in-law never knows how to converge, and she is getting too much! Sometimes I get angry, too. I always say that such a party is not as good as having it at home. I am busy with a big meal, and I always try my best!

Besides, why do the three daughters-in-law want me to work every time? Every time I get angry with my husband, I get confused. Every time I say that my in-laws are getting older and older, I don't know how many years I can live. Let me make do with it! Married for more than 20 years!

I don't want to eat with others now. Every time is to spend money, to strength. People don't spend money and can't afford it. They don't even wash the dishes after dinner. It doesn't matter whether they think about their families or not. After a long time, they feel uncomfortable. The point is that people eat before you are ready. When you finish all the dishes, you will have to find fault one by one. Never think about it.

Your vocabulary is wrong, not your sister-in-law's, but your brother's. You can let your brother cook and your children work. You don't have to do it with your sister-in-law If she doesn't do it, your family will feel bad. Your sister-in-law doesn't want to work alone. You will feel better if your family stays.

Joking about letting your brother work or not eating. They will do anything they are interested in. If they are not interested, they will only say not to get together for the New Year, and everyone will spend the New Year at home. There are three brothers in our family. During the Spring Festival, a dozen people from a large family went to my father-in-law's house. For more than 20 years, they have brought their own chicken, duck, fish, vegetables and fruit drinks. As long as they can eat, they use our own. My father-in-law only prepares water and noodles. Every meal from the morning of New Year's Eve is a general mobilization of the whole family. Two cooks cook, two handymen, two people take care of jiaozi, and the children cook pots and take their younger brothers to play. After eating, everyone scrambled to clean up the dishes and chopsticks. There are two tables for each meal, one for adults and one for children. It is both interesting and lively. It was not until the third day of the second grade that everyone went home for dinner. Now every family has a daughter-in-law and a grandson, who spend the New Year together. My father-in-law is over 80 years old, and everyone in the village envies our family unity.