My mother-in-law offered to take care of my children. How can I refuse her request?

Euphemistically tell your mother-in-law that you want to take care of the children by yourself, and then reduce the time that the children spend with her mother-in-law.

In fact, many families in China will encounter this problem, especially those in rural areas. In essence, the mother-in-law helps to take care of the children out of love for the children and a strong sense of responsibility as a grandmother. She didn't do anything wrong emotionally or intellectually, but she blamed the wrong way.

Her life experience told her, "that's what I should do." "Isn't that what I did?" So many unscientific and outdated educational ideas and concepts are deeply rooted in her mind that it is difficult for others to move. As a wife, she needs more understanding and proper guidance to instill some scientific parenting concepts in her.

However, this method is estimated to be difficult to work in a short time. After all, it is too difficult to change a person's deep-rooted thoughts, which is time-consuming and laborious, and it is not worth the candle. The simplest and most effective way is to keep your distance from your mother-in-law, so as to reduce the time for children to be alone with their mother-in-law. If you can, let your mother-in-law go home.

I don't mean to dislike my mother-in-law, but I hope her mother-in-law won't participate too much in your life. You are all independent individuals with your own personalities and thoughts. Being together for a long time will inevitably lead to contradictions and frictions. Let's not say that being caught in the middle is not good for her husband and is not good for her children's growth. Keeping a proper distance is beneficial to both sides.

But before that, you need to discuss with your husband, explain the ins and outs of the matter and the interests to him clearly, and ask his permission.

If he can't accept it for a while, he can take a roundabout strategy and prove his point in the actual situation. For example, let him see the scene of her mother-in-law teaching her children to read stories with an accent, with a full face of anger, complaining for her baby and telling her that she must "call back." I'll believe that when I see it. Only in this way can he really realize the seriousness of the problem.

Of course, the premise of this is that you must be a good wife, sincerely respect and honor your mother-in-law, and don't let her feel rejected. Look at your heart. How would you feel if your husband didn't deserve your mother? Every elder needs to be respected, not to mention that she is your husband's mother and your family.