Children flinch from difficulties? Wise parents use these two tricks to help their children learn to dissect difficulties.

"I hate my son's fear of difficulties. During the school exam, I cried on the spot because I couldn't answer a question. When the teacher told me, I felt embarrassed! Think about it, a boy is crying in the examination room! When he came home, I gave him a good lesson. What can a boy do after he is so afraid of difficulties? To be a man, he must be brave. A few small difficulties are definitely not a problem, he should go boldly. "

Although the mother above is right, children should be brave, especially boys. However, encouraging children to face difficulties bravely cannot be achieved by reprimanding them.

There is always a reason for the difficulties in children's eyes. We should understand the child's psychology and think from his point of view, so as to find a good way to help the child eliminate this fear of difficulties.

When a child encounters difficulties, we should encourage him in time, tell him that there is nothing to be afraid of, help him eliminate his fear of difficulties, let him dare to face them face to face and concentrate on "fighting" them.

The child is curious, and he will want to try all kinds of new things in his opinion; The child is also timid, and he will be at a loss for some unpredictable situations.

Whenever I don't know what to do, it is also the time when the child's attention is the worst. Because he thinks a lot at this time, he will worry that he can't solve the problem smoothly, and he will be more worried about his failure. These thoughts will gradually occupy his brain and make him unable to concentrate on what he should do.

I remember when I took my daughter to the playground, I saw a mother with her 4-year-old son. The little boy wants to play on the slide. The slide still has a certain height. The boy was afraid to go up, hesitated and prepared to play on the trampoline. Mother saw it and said, "You are afraid to go up and slide on such a small slide?" Come here, get up and slide! Go for it! "

The little boy is a little reluctant. He lingered on the slide for a long time, but he was afraid to go up. Mother stood by with a "firm" face, constantly advising him not to be afraid of difficulties, to go forward bravely and overcome them. Later, the little boy was afraid to go up and play trampoline.

It is normal for children to be afraid of difficulties. We don't need to force him not to be afraid like this mother.

The reason to help children eliminate their fear of difficulties is to enable children to concentrate on solving difficulties, rather than letting children "fear nothing." Children are not afraid of anything. Only when he is afraid can he know that he still has room for improvement.

What we should cultivate is the spirit that children are not afraid of difficulties. Even if he is afraid for a while, he should try his best to overcome it. Take the boy above as an example. In this case, we can encourage the child to "try it by himself" or go skating with him several times in person. With the company of adults, children are gradually less afraid. Instead of "mentally oppressing" children, it is better to encourage them to overcome their fears.

"Difficulties are like springs. Strong is weak, and weak is strong. " This is a sentence that we often heard when we were young.

In the process of children's growth, there will always be some difficulties of one kind or another.

A colleague once said that her children always call for help when they do their homework at night:

"Mom, I can't do this problem. Please help me. "

"Dad, I can't spell this English word. Please spell it for me. "

"Mom, I don't know how to write this composition. Please tell me how to write it. "

The friend sighed and said that she thought the child gave up too easily. It is obvious that he can come up with answers to some questions after several thoughts, but he just took a look and felt that he couldn't do it, so he asked us for help. How did the child give up so easily?

1, help children analyze difficulties.

When children grow up, whenever they encounter difficulties, they will turn to adults or children who have been hit hard for help. We just need to help him understand, that is, we need to help the child "dissect" the difficulties together, help him analyze the nature of the difficulties and find ways to overcome them.

For example, let the child talk about what he finds difficult, ask him why he finds a problem difficult, and encourage him to think about what he can do at present and what he may do.

The difficulty is that a seemingly complicated machine is not complicated when it is broken into "small parts" one by one. At this time, children can be encouraged to "divide and rule" because it is easy to focus on a single little thing.

We just need to remind our children to do one thing before another, and don't be distracted, otherwise they will easily encounter new difficulties. In order to make the child more courageous, we should encourage him in time, especially when he comes up with a good idea to solve the problem. Our encouragement will make him pay more attention to his brain.

I helped my daughter overcome the difficulty of reciting ancient poems together.

I remember some time ago, when my daughter recited an ancient poem "My Hometown Couplet Book", she read it several times and couldn't remember the sentence "The local accent will not change". The more she backed up, the more depressed she became and she began to cry. Her husband saw it and said, "Why are you crying? What's the use of crying? " Are you still embarrassed to cry? "

The daughter cried even more. I went over and took my daughter back to her room. When she calmed down, I first affirmed that she was trying to remember this ancient poem and saw her seriousness. Then I said to her, "Let's think about how to remember this ancient poem together."

Next, my daughter and I analyzed the meaning of this ancient poem. She thought of reciting with plush toys. We played the role with plush toys, recited the ancient poem completely and sang it in the form of children's songs.

My daughter is very happy to recite it. I said to her, "You have come up with a good idea. I hope that when you face other difficulties in the future, just like today, think more about how to overcome this difficulty. The solution is always more difficult than it is. If you win, you will win. "

Through the episode of this ancient poem, my daughter increased her confidence in overcoming difficulties. In the future, when she encounters something difficult, she will try to solve it herself first. If she can't solve it by herself, she will come to us and help her out. In the past, she would try to solve the problem by herself. However, the episode of this ancient poem greatly increased her confidence and gave her more courage to face difficulties.

I hope we can all understand children's emotions, understand the needs behind their emotions and find solutions, so as to accompany children to overcome the difficulties ahead and make themselves better.

In the process of children's growth, difficulties, failures and setbacks are inevitable.

Miyazaki Hayao said in My Neighbor Totoro: "Many things will come as long as you persist."

It is important to cultivate children's perseverance from an early age. It can make children experience the happiness and sense of accomplishment in overcoming difficulties, make them find ways to overcome difficulties when they encounter difficulties, and make them become optimistic people.

We should believe that if we sow a good attitude, we will reap a good character; Sow good character and you will reap good habits. Plant a good habit and you will reap a good fate.

1 to help children deal with difficulties correctly.

Some children may just say "not afraid", which seems to eliminate the fear of difficulties, but when it comes to solving difficulties, they don't know what to do.

Some children may become fearless after eliminating their fear of difficulties and deal with any difficulties regardless.

Both of these attitudes are incomplete "not afraid of difficulties". The former is superficial, while the latter is completely unaware of the difficulties.

We should educate our children to treat difficulties with a correct attitude. When dealing with difficulties, he should be "strategically contemptuous and tactically important", that is, don't be afraid to move at the beginning, but face it bravely and realize that difficulties are inevitable, but not invincible.

When dealing with difficulties, we should seriously consider countermeasures and every detail, and strive to overcome them as soon as possible.

2. Let children experience the happiness of success, so as to constantly break through themselves.

Therefore, parents should let their children experience the happiness of success, which will help them build up their self-confidence and play a great role in doing things.

A friend told me about her daughter's dog practicing guitar:

My friend's daughter dog, a sophomore, likes guitar very much, so she signed up for a guitar class. Once, the dog encountered a difficult fingering problem while practicing the homework left by the teacher.

She played this fingering repeatedly, but she couldn't work it out for two hours. Her friends are also very anxious, but they can't rush her, because the problem needs to be solved by themselves, and adults can only comfort and encourage her mentally.

Dogs practice repeatedly and make mistakes. Finally, she could not help it. Suddenly, she said loudly, "I can overcome it, I can, I will be able to play this fingering completely and smoothly." .

Then I let go of my fingers and drank some water to calm myself down. Then I picked up my guitar and played. Strangely enough, after she read this passage aloud, the fingering began to become fluent, and the problem was hard to be worn away by her.

After playing, she jumped up happily. After several hours of hard work, she finally overcame the difficulties and perfectly fulfilled the teacher's requirements for practicing the piano.

My friend said that after the dog overcame this problem by himself, she felt very happy and she got happiness from it. Her persistence and hard work made her play a great role in her later study.

Hani's mother's message:

Parents are the first teachers of the children. In life, parents can endure hardships and overcome difficulties, and children will develop the habit of facing difficulties. If parents often do things halfway and don't keep their promises, children will imitate their parents, often unable to overcome difficulties, afraid to give up when they see difficulties, and it is difficult to achieve good results and success.

As parents, we should give our children correct guidance and let them constantly break through themselves in the face of difficulties.