Children love to lie, secretly surf the Internet and steal things. What should they do?

Yesterday, we analyzed the psychological alert level of a child who stole things. Let's talk about it today The first thing parents find wrong is not to take it personally.

1, give yourself relief, children's behavior is more instinctive, want to satisfy their own desires.

Watching TV and playing games secretly, he found it exciting and interesting, but his parents wouldn't let him do it, so he had to do it secretly.

Then we must first understand the child's desire and why he did it. If you are just naughty, you are not a thief. If it is harmless, don't be too nervous.

We can make rules with children to satisfy their basic desires.

We can make a good deal with children, such as controlling time, learning priorities and finishing homework first, such as watching TV and playing games for a while before going to bed after dinner.

By establishing rules to satisfy children's primary desires, children's small mistakes of stealing can be changed.

Remember: Criticism, suppression, denial and punishment are only inefficient and cannot convince parents that their children can take the initiative to correct them.

Another way to do this is in the opposite direction. For example, some parents simply say "I told him" and "I will tell him even if they commit a crime" when their children do something wrong, but parents really don't care. They just talk on the surface, but they don't really pay attention to it. This is the neglect of our children, which is a very famous research conclusion in our psychology-the broken window effect.

It was put forward by james wilson and George Lin Kai.

Bad phenomena in the environment, if left unchecked, will induce people to follow the trend, and even get worse.

For example, a house, the original glass is intact and clean. One day a man accidentally broke a piece of glass, but he didn't repair it and let the broken glass exist. When another passer-by sees this broken window, he will subconsciously think that it is a broken house and needs no maintenance. He can also try to break the window with stones.

Then, next, there will be more and more broken windows in this house, and people will think that this is a broken house and it is unnecessary to take care of it. This is the broken window effect.

In other words, once a person has shortcomings, but does not make up for them, the surrounding environment and himself will interact, which will accelerate his decline and ruin his reputation.

This is a very important psychological law.