Why doesn't the daughter-in-law want to go to her husband's house? There are three reasons that are very heartfelt. I hope my mother-in-law can understand.

Daughter-in-law doesn't like to go to her mother-in-law's house, especially during the Chinese New Year. To sum up, there are three reasons.

I am a best friend and have been married for several years. I can count the number of times I have been to my husband's house before marriage, held a wedding reception and returned to her husband's house.

Outsiders only think that she is eccentric and will go back to her mother's house during the holiday, not her husband's house. Is it not harmonious with her husband? Even some women are very bitchy and will talk about it, saying that you are married and don't go back to your in-laws' house, but you are at your mother's house every day.

This makes people feel that in real life, it is often women who really make women feel uncomfortable. In order to truly achieve gender equality and status equality, only when women first understand women, eliminate the prejudice between women and awaken women's consciousness can they achieve gender equality.

Like a best friend, she obviously has a bad life in her husband's family, is humiliated by her mother-in-law, and has the face to go to her husband's family for the New Year. Don't I have a family to live with?

You see, gay people will not sympathize with you at all, but will trample on you. If you are unlucky, her dark side will laugh at you with joy. This is the evil of human nature.

Those women who can't hide from other Chinese New Year holidays and don't go back to their in-laws are often women who are self-bound, traditional in thinking and eager to break through the predicament. To put it bluntly, they envy this kind of woman who doesn't want to go back to her husband's family, but they can't do it themselves, for fear of being gossiped by others and taking their face too seriously. That's why I was mean to you.

Then the question is, why is the daughter-in-law unwilling to go back to her husband's house, especially during the New Year?

First: China New Year is a time for family reunion. Daughter-in-law is like an outsider in her husband's family and has no sense of belonging.

Daughter-in-law doesn't like to go to her mother-in-law's house, especially the little daughter-in-law who has just been married for a few years, and even more reluctant to go. The Spring Festival is a time for family reunion. Daughter-in-law goes to her husband's house like an outsider, with no sense of belonging and emotional dependence.

Especially nowadays, young people are all only children. Even if you are not an only child, as long as your living conditions are not too bad and you lack family warmth, you will be very attached to and miss your parents.

In the past, women had to get married from their parents' home, but now they advocate equality between men and women. Women can go back to their parents' home for the New Year, so they are more inclined to accompany their parents.

Now women's consciousness has been relatively high. Knowing how to get married doesn't mean leaving your parents' family. I want to repay my parents and be filial to them. Usually busy with work, it is rare to have a holiday, I hope to accompany them for the holidays.

They will discuss with men, and the husband's family will take turns to go. If they go to her husband's house every year, but they can't go or stay for a short time, then they will feel unfair and wronged.

Nowadays, many young couples will look for their mothers during the Spring Festival, and no one will be wronged. Just like Papi sauce, I have been married for five years and have never been to my husband's house. I always go home with my husband every New Year. For the mother-in-law, the most important thing is definitely the son; For a mother, her daughter must be the most important, and her partner is just a foil.

Mom is still fine. Most mothers-in-law treat their sons-in-law as guests and give them good food and wine. However, when the daughter-in-law goes back to her husband's house, there is no such special thing, and she will not deliberately add vegetables. Daughter-in-law feels that she is not valued, and her food is worse than going to work, so she is not satisfied, so she doesn't want to continue to wronged herself, and she doesn't want to force herself to go back to her husband's house and suffer from this timidity.

Second, when a daughter-in-law goes back to her husband's house, she has to do a lot of housework and is very tired, like a free nanny.

This explains most of the reasons. Many readers complain in the background that the weather is very cold and the water is very cold when they go back to their husband's house during the Spring Festival. They washed vegetables and did housework, and the water was frothy with cold.

Mother-in-law won't clean up until she gets home. I'm tired enough to go to work at ordinary times. Where did the Chinese New Year break go? It was simply "being a year". If they don't go back to their mother-in-law's house, they will be attacked by morality and public opinion, which is very difficult.

My mother-in-law thinks my daughter-in-law is married. If you come from my husband's family, you must work. If you don't do it, she will even call you lazy to your face.

Nowadays, many women don't do much housework when they are at their parents' home. Usually it's made by their mother. Even if she does it at ordinary times, when she returns to her parents' house, her mother will not let her do it, but will let her rest more.

This is the difference between husband's family and mother's family.

During the Spring Festival, there will be many relatives to be entertained. The daughter-in-law is busy and has no time of her own. If she doesn't help at all, she will be gossiped by three aunts and six grandmothers as soon as she turns around, saying that you are rude, your limbs are not diligent, and you have married a lazy wife.

Third, differences in living habits, cultures and concepts lead to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The most important point is the friction caused by different living habits, cultural differences and different concepts, because a little thing will lead to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it will be embarrassing to meet. If the daughter-in-law doesn't return, only the husband will return, and people will make irresponsible remarks, wondering if there is something wrong with your relationship, whether you are divorced or not, and even the husband will feel humiliated.

In a word, it is the woman who is wronged in the end and the woman who is embarrassed.

Objectively speaking, most daughter-in-law don't like going back to her husband's house because her mother-in-law is difficult to get along with, doesn't know how to please her daughter-in-law, and is not good for her daughter-in-law, which makes her feel resistant.

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