How to treat the husband not doing housework after marriage?

In marriage, I will mind the other half not doing housework.

This family belongs to two people. If one party is unwilling to do it, we will all do it, which will become unbalanced sooner or later.

On the surface, it is a trivial matter of housework, but in fact, it is who pays more in marriage and the psychological change brought about by this kind of pay and cost. The more a person gives, the more he wants the other half to see and give feedback.

The needs in marriage should meet each other.

For example, before marriage, some men said they would pay for their wives and children, but after marriage, they didn't do any housework. Although it is not unacceptable in the eyes of their wives, it is trivial and tiring for her to do housework for a long time. I hope her husband can see it.

Even a hug and kiss can give people great comfort.

But a real partner will take it for granted.

If you put a little more salt in your cooking, he will have a big opinion, and we will think in our hearts: Why are you the only one with a problem? I worked so hard and so tired just to be told by you? Dissatisfaction accumulated in the heart will eventually erupt in something.

If the other half understands our efforts and is willing to admit the problem, that's fine, but many people will enter the confrontation mode.

They will think: you have always taken the initiative to do it, and now you suddenly complain. What do I mean? I can't accept your sudden mood either.

So on the surface, it is a problem of doing housework, but it will rise to the contradiction between giving and understanding.

Many couples are finally tired and want to leave when they are tired, because one wants to be understood and the other doesn't understand each other's needs.

That's why I said, don't do all the housework by yourself. The daily contribution in marriage should be balanced, so that both people feel that they have contributed to marriage. Their mentality will be more dynamic and balanced, so that one of them will not have a particularly strong sense of gain and loss.

Guide the other half to participate in housework. If nothing can be done, it will take time and resources to maintain the marriage. This mode of getting along will be stronger.

Even if you do have differences, because each of you has paid, your relationship is closely related, and there will be no big contradiction, but you can continue to talk about how to do better and the problem can be solved more easily.