In the finale of "Only Thirty", Wang Manni only earned 100,000 yuan, why did she go to study abroad?

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In the finale of "Only Thirty", the endings of three 30-year-old women were completely different.

After Gu Jia got divorced, she took her children to live in a tea factory and began to focus on her career. Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu remarried, quit their jobs and wrote full-time, turning their hobbies into careers, looking like they were having a peaceful time.

The endings of the two of them can actually be predicted a long time ago. Gu Jia’s personality is bound to lead a career, while Zhong Xiaoqin’s personality is very suitable for being a writer and writing quietly. .

The most unexpected and unpredictable one is Wang Manni. Among the three, she had the lowest starting point. She came to Shanghai from a small town. After being hurt by Liang Zhengxian, she returned to the small town, but could not adapt to the life in the small town and returned to Shanghai. Finally, she went abroad to study alone.

Many people say that if you go out to study with 100,000 yuan, you might as well work hard in Shanghai. However, after going out to see the world, even if the money she earns does not increase, Wang Manni will definitely change, and her understanding of the world will be different.

When this drama first aired, the most discussed thing was that Gu Jia spent all the money in the family to buy a Hermès bag in order to fit into the circle of wives, but ended up being raped by his wife. The people in the circle were deceived.

So many people say that if the circles are different, there is no need to force integration.

But in fact, looking at Wang Manni’s growth, you will find that she has been integrating into different circles.

According to her conditions, she and Gu Jia and Zhong Xiaoqin did not belong to the same circle at all, but she actually became good friends with these two people.

The gap between her and Liang Zhengxian is even greater. Although there are many things that can be criticized about this relationship, she has been trying to integrate into that circle. During meetings, she will search on the Internet to find out what is wrong. Understand the professional terminology, instead of just falling in love with Liang Zhengxian.

In the end, she did not blend in, but she learned a lot and got to know Mr. Wei, which later made her decide to return from the small town. Shanghai.

It’s just that there was no preparation before going to study abroad, so the arrangement at the end was a bit abrupt. No matter what, she decided to integrate into a new circle.

Along the way, Wang Manni is actually very brave. She has been integrating into different circles and has been getting better. That spirit has always been there, and it will definitely get better in the future. The better.

And the circles she strives to integrate into are all ones she likes.

She didn’t like the circle in the small town, so she felt comfortable for a while, and finally escaped at all costs. This is the same as Gu Jia's escape from his wife's circle.

In these two circles, they have a sense of superiority and look down on these circles, so it is difficult for them to blend in. They barely blend in and are unhappy. , and easily deceived.

Therefore, don’t force yourself into a circle you don’t like, but you must work hard to integrate into a circle you like. Because entering a new circle itself means growth.

This is also my personal experience over the years.

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Three years ago, I moved to Wuhan from my hometown, It was my first time to attend a book signing by an author.

Before this, we had communicated online. At that time, I was already writing a public account and met several people in this circle. But at that time, I had never traveled far, never participated in any offline activities, and I had no idea what a book signing would be like.

The advantage of being a writer is that you can avoid all social interactions, but I feel that I need to integrate into the new circle of self-media so that I can develop better. Others are always giving public speeches and holding book signings. If I don’t know how to do it, what will happen if fans want to meet me in the future?

So after arriving in Wuhan, I heard that a writer I knew was coming to book signings, so I rushed there as soon as possible.

I dressed myself up carefully that day, wore the best clothes in my wardrobe, combed my best-looking hairstyle, left the house three hours early, and arrived at the venue early.

However, the moment I saw that writer, I felt autistic.

In front of her, who is fashionable and exquisite, I can see the earthiness with my naked eyes. Even among the readers who attended the book signing, I was almost the most earthy. When taking a group photo, I don’t even know where to put my hands, and I don’t know what to say when communicating offline. On the contrary, she has a very high emotional intelligence and can alleviate my embarrassment with just a few words.

But this will only make me feel more inferior and realize that I am worthless.

That night, I watched her chatting with the host on the stage. Sitting in the audience, I wished I had the magic of invisibility and disappeared without a trace.

At that time, I was thinking that my image would definitely lose points when meeting readers. She didn’t even draft her speech on stage, but I couldn’t do it.

It’s over, I may never be able to do a book signing in this life.

I originally wanted to integrate into a circle, but I was hit hard as soon as I stepped in. I was really sad at that time and had all kinds of self-doubts. I even thought about it. But, forget it, I will only write online for the rest of my life, be a bit mysterious and not meet anyone.

But I know very well that this is an ostrich mentality, because deep down in my heart, I just long to have my own autograph session, and I just long to meet anyone, no matter what. So restrained, but eager to shine on stage.

In this case, no matter how difficult it is, we must work hard to integrate into this circle.

So in the following years, I continued to participate in offline activities, sign up for offline courses, and seized every opportunity to share.

I signed up for many classes at Uncle Qiuye, participated in many offline activities organized by their community, and made many friends in this circle.

It was here that I met Shi Xiaozui, and then I took my family to Beijing to find her to help me change my image. I finished my hair in Sanlitun that day, and it was already two in the morning when I came out. Yes, my husband and children have been waiting for me.

In order to practice my public speaking skills, I ran from Wuhan to Shanghai to give a speech at Uncle Cat’s Jianghu. Uncle Cat knew that I wanted to change in this area, and he also An offline get out of class was specially arranged for me. In order to teach this lesson well, I stayed up all night.

When friends I know go to Wuhan for a book signing, I will go as long as time permits. One is to cheer, and the other is to learn.

The year before last, I organized a student meeting in Wuhan. I found a venue, prepared materials, worked on the process, prepared gifts for each student, and invited teachers to come and support the event.

Anyway, I spent a lot of money just to train myself so that I would no longer be afraid of offline meetings.

Three years have passed, and I have integrated into this circle. I no longer feel timid when meeting people, and I can speak on stage at any time without drafting.

I published the book "Efficient Writing", and I had already prepared it for book signings. I went to various cities to meet readers and students, and I even prepared the process eight times. Nine is inseparable from ten. However, due to the epidemic, all the signings were scrapped.

Although the signing was scrapped, I have indeed changed a lot compared to myself three years ago. And all these changes are just because I want to integrate into this circle, because I like it.

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Last time when I wrote about why Mrs. Li cheated Gu Jia, I I have expressed this point of view, you must work hard to integrate into the circle you like.

So today I will write another article to express my point of view.

The circle you like means that there is the life you want and the person you want to be. That being the case, why not blend in?

The process is indeed difficult, and you may even suffer a lot of blows, but when you work hard to integrate in, you will become the person you like. , live the life you like.

If people in different circles cannot integrate, then in this life they can only stay in place, stay in the comfort zone, and never see the scenery elsewhere.

Therefore, don’t comfort yourself with “there is no need to force integration if the circles are different”. The circle you like, the good circle, is to work hard to integrate. If you don’t force integration, it will be difficult to return. Do you want someone to pull you in by the hand? No one else has this obligation either.

What we need to be wary of is circles that we don’t like, circles that we despise, and circles that cannot make people better.