How to speak in moderation

1, say less ugly words, say less hurtful words, and say more beautiful words! Say more nice words, make your own words smooth, and make others sound happier, that's all. But you can't deliberately please others. People who deliberately please others are villains.

Don't speak your mind naked. Speak your mind frankly. That kind of person is called outspoken, and outspoken people must be very unpopular, because you will be offended when you open your mouth.

Don't tell anyone anything unless he asks you. Speak, unless someone asks you honestly, you don't tell him, you tell him as much as possible.

4. Don't say things you shouldn't say. China people are hiding something. Don't say anything until you know the situation clearly. Don't show anything. Pretend not to know if you know, pretend not to see if you see it, and tell me if you hear it. I don't know.

5, clear in my heart, vague in my mouth. Some people don't understand, but they can't go on. The so-called talk will lose, which is the truth. A truly wise person often knows better than anyone else, but he just doesn't want to say it, just laughs it off. Stupidity is happiness, and confusion is true wisdom. Young people must remember that some things are clear to themselves and don't have to be said.

6. Seize the first three minutes of the speech. When you talk to anyone, the first three minutes are the most important and golden moment. If the other party doesn't listen for the first three minutes, it's all in vain.

7. Respect others and let others speak first, such as drinking tea. When you pick up a teacup, you must treat others to drink it first. Another example is that you like smoking. When you are addicted to cigarettes, you find that there is only one cigarette left. What should you do? Many people don't respond and hide and smoke secretly, which is wrong. If you take out a cigarette and invite someone else, you're dead. If you hide and smoke secretly, you will die. What should you do?

Why don't you take that cigarette out in front of everyone and say, strange, why is there only one cigarette left just after you bought it? Then take it out and invite everyone. Everyone heard that there was only one left, so they definitely saidno. Let others say no first, so you can ease the embarrassment!

8. Speak from the standpoint of others, and others will accept you easily! We listen to what others say, not their fault, and we don't care what others say. China people listen to you first, because you stand in my position, you stand in my position, you are my own, and I will forgive you if you make a mistake. You opposed me from the beginning, so you didn't stand in my position, and I didn't accept you when you were right.

9. Never try to convince anyone. No one can be persuaded. No one can change anyone unless he changes himself. There's nothing you can do about him. The harder you work, the stronger his defense will be. He will never relax. You have to make him feel this way, make him feel relaxed, and he will naturally accept it.

10, words are neither telling the truth nor telling lies. Many people's alertness is low all their lives. Why is this happening? Because I was raised to tell the truth, to tell the truth. In fact, it is not enough to have training in this field. When you speak, you have to see who you are suitable for, what you want to talk about and what occasion you want to talk about. There are many restrictive factors, which must be coordinated.

1 1, the speech will be effective only if the other party listens. Don't cut to the chase. Before you speak, let's talk for a while and see how each other feels before we can communicate further. Say anything. If the other party is impatient and even wants to bring tea to see the guests off, bear it even if it is important. Because if the other person doesn't listen, or is not in the mood to listen, it's useless to talk more. This is "most words are spoken by lovers"!

12, China people generally love face, praise others and pay more compliments! If someone loves face, you should compliment him more and make him feel face-saving, then he will be willing to do things for you. This is the easiest way. Flattery is not for flattery, not for flattery. But based on some characteristics of human nature, speaking is a way to make the other person feel comfortable.

13, when people speak softly, talk less and listen more. Your position is so low that no one listens to you. What should you do if you talk too much when others speak softly? You might as well use your ears more and absorb a little experience to make up for your own shortcomings.

14, you should have a sense of proportion before you speak. When preparing to speak, if someone here is older than you and has a higher position than you, you can't speak before he speaks. Because when you talk, they will be unhappy. For example, if you go out with the leader and you speak before the leader speaks, he will think, before I speak, it's your turn to speak?

Therefore, when you are with the boss, as long as there is a third person, you must be good and obedient, and you can't disagree.