It is better to learn to get along with your mother-in-law than to be unable to spit on her mother-in-law.

Every family has a hard time, every mother-in-law is different, and every daughter-in-law is different. As for me, I am the only mother-in-law with little experience. However, there are constant voices in the background, and many mothers are troubled by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some even trigger a war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many precious mothers always spit out several kinds of mother-in-law when they are together. So will her mother-in-law change after spitting out her mother-in-law? In fact, instead of spitting out your mother-in-law, you should learn to get along with your mother-in-law. Let's see Bian Xiao!

Why do I never spit on my mother-in-law

First of all, it's useless to spit.

Like it or hate it, my mother-in-law is here.

All the shortcomings you see in your mother-in-law have no influence on your family relationship! Don't! Use! Place!

Because, if you try to change your husband, there is still a chance, but for your mother-in-law, there is very little you can change.

Grasping the shortcomings of others can only bring you full of "negative" energy.

You live your life, you choose whether you are happy or not, not what others give you.

So for mother-in-law, we should enlarge her strengths and narrow her weaknesses. Not only for her, but also for yourself.

This kind of thing can only convince yourself.

For example, my mother-in-law, cooking is really not delicious.

But even if I empty the blood tank, her cooking will not get better.

But think about it on the other hand. Although her mother-in-law is not a good cook, she always wants to make something new and give us some "surprises" while taking care of her children.

And I'm too lazy to do it myself, because my mind is full of dark dishes. Now you can eat ready-made food when you go home and sit on the sofa, which is not bad.

For example, my mother-in-law doesn't like cleaning the house.

When I was young, I was a smart woman, but now I am too old to do anything. I don't like doing these housework.

Every time I go home, it seems that my home has been robbed. It's really not an exaggeration. I have to see where to waste it when I walk.

But can I make her change by spitting?

But if I think from another angle: doesn't the richness of the ground also reflect the pleasure of grandma and grandma having fun?

The books on the ground show that they read the picture books, the food scraps on the ground show that CC has filled their stomachs, and the scattered building blocks show that they have a good time. Oh, they even put them under the sofa, which shows that they may have played with the perfect girl.

So, when I was not at home, the old man played with CC in another way, instead of leaving her in front of the TV to clean the house. Isn't that great?

For example, my mother-in-law has a bad temper and sometimes blames CC for wetting her pants. I explained to her that it is normal for children to pee their pants before they are 3 years old, because their sphincter for controlling urination is not yet mature.

She listened, but if CC urinates too much one day, she will still be anxious. She scolds when she is short of breath.

When my mother is like this, I can beat and scold myself, but others can't.

At first, I couldn't untie the knot myself. I thought I could explain to CC when I was here whether she would be scolded by her grandmother when I was away.

Of course, I know grandma means well. In order to make CC remember for a long time, I just don't agree with her reprimanding her, because I want her to use a gentler way. For example, CC forgot to play? Remember to go to the urinal next time, okay?

But recently, I have put it down.

The more children can experience different ways of being treated at home, the stronger their adaptability to society in the future.

CC is going to kindergarten soon. Can she promise not to pee her pants in kindergarten?

She peed her pants in kindergarten. Can you guarantee that the kindergarten teacher will not scold or blame her?

If she is scolded by her grandmother at home and by her teacher in kindergarten, she will accept it more easily.

When you grow up, you have to go to school and work, and you will meet unfriendly classmates, strict teachers and harsh bosses. I don't think at that time, she would be too blx.

I'm just educating her in the way I think is good, but I can't stop others from using other ways. If this day comes sooner or later, it is better to start with family.

Some people will say, isn't this the spirit of Ah Q?

Q: What has happened to the spirit? I think the spirit of Ah Q can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Comfort yourself with spiritual victory is the most gratifying result for what you can't change.

Secondly, children need to feel different styles of love.

Old people's love for children is least affected by the environment.

Because they have the most time and mood.

Young man, no time, no temper. As far as I usually take CC, I love her very much, but I often can't devote myself wholeheartedly. I need to brush my circle of friends, write an official WeChat account, read books and meet friends. All these things I need to do make it impossible for me to be patient with her for too long.

But old people are different. They have enough time and patience. They are willing to play pretend games with their children that adults think are super naive. They don't brush their circle of friends half-heartedly when putting their children to sleep.

This kind of high-quality companionship is difficult for young parents to do. For children and the elderly, loving each other is their daily needs.

It is better to do more routines than to spit.

Of course, there are still some things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which need the other party to make changes and compromises.

Generally, it is the difference in parenting style. In the field of raising children, where everyone feels that they have a say, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is usually the most tense

In this regard, mother C also has some suggestions:

Learn enough is enough.

Mother-in-law, don't tear it up, or you will have enemies, and you will never let it go.

Don't shut up when talking about children's problems I think further discussion will decide the result soon. You'd better shut up

If you beat the old man, you will gain the upper hand verbally. The old man must be unhappy when he is blocked and speechless.

However, if an old man turns himself in, he will have a knot in his heart.

So enough is enough.

Because, win or lose, the old people may not take your advice to take care of the children. Because the more you are forced, the more you will cause resistance.

If forced, maybe: you can bring it yourself?

Please come and help my husband.

When there are differences, you'd better ask your husband for help to persuade you. Note that it is not "reversing".

There is no night feud between mother and son. When a son expresses different views, it is no longer criticism and provocation, but advice and guidance.

But if you don't say it, it will only make your mother-in-law feel that her son has married his daughter-in-law and forgotten her mother.

It's best to ask your husband's advice after the event, or when you encounter similar situations.

Gentle persistence

Growing up, we tried not to give CC drugs, but at first grandma was very sad.

She can't understand why she doesn't give her children cold medicine when she has a cold, or give them injections when she has a fever. Instead, she made her children carry it hard.

When we can't say it, we should talk less and do it ourselves.

Mother-in-law can heal herself without taking medicine when she sees a cold, and she doesn't have to worry about her illness when she has a fever. Under our care, CC's resistance is getting stronger and stronger, and its physical quality is getting better and better.

Prove your point with hard facts. The children brought out in this way are healthy and the mother-in-law is very happy. Everyone will boast that children who don't take drugs have strong resistance, and we CC seldom get sick.

Similarly, before the age of one, there is no salt or urine, and children wear one less than adults. It was all successfully completed under my insistence. Stick to what you should stick to, and the elderly will naturally see the results.

Be diligent in your mouth.

If the old man has to take the children to prepare meals and clean up the housework all day, his grievances will definitely come out.

If you have a hardworking husband, for example, as lucky as me, haha. Dad helps her mother-in-law cook, clean the house and share the housework almost every day.

Then I just need to be responsible and diligent. If we talk more slanderers, the occasional advice will be less unpleasant, and it will be easier for the elderly to understand that we are only dealing with things, not people!

If the wife doesn't take the initiative, the husband will only drag her feet and her mother-in-law will be dissatisfied for a long time. How can such a mother-in-law relationship be harmonious?

Pay more bribes and please more.

Finally, more gifts, more gifts, more gifts, yes.

It is an indisputable fact that every parent is worried about their children's money, and there is also an indisputable fact that there is no money.

If you can always remember your mother-in-law's needs inadvertently revealed, and then buy them for her at the right time, plus a husband who will help you embellish and praise how carefully you choose, then believe me, no matter how many small frictions in the past will disappear with the ceremony.

Some people here will say, mom c, are you too deep?

But dear melon eater, you want horses to run, don't eat grass, ask for help, and don't be controlled by others. Why don't you go to heaven?

Getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem. For mothers who don't have the courage to work full-time and have to ask their mother-in-law to help with their children, it's not a bad thing to do more routines.