At what age is it not too late for children to start self-discipline?

A mother shared a video of her 10-year-old son getting up in the morning to take care of himself at school:

At 6: 20, the alarm clock rang and the boy got up to freshen up.

Then buy breakfast with the salary earned by washing dishes every day;

Put on your shoes, put on your schoolbag, take out the garbage and go out to school.

This is the most ordinary and ordinary day for the boy, but after his mother put it online, it caused extensive discussion among many netizens.

Everyone says the child is too self-disciplined!

"It takes more than 20 minutes to wake up the children every morning. I really envy the boy's parents! "

"I have lived for more than 20 years, and getting up early is not as good as being a child!"

Self-discipline can not only improve children's ability in life, but also make them invincible in learning.

Such dormitories are very popular on the Internet. Six people in the dormitory were admitted to Peking University Tsinghua.

All six of them are extremely self-disciplined children. After returning to the dormitory after self-study in the evening, I can take the initiative to say that I will stay for half an hour to chat, eat snacks and do housework without the supervision of the teacher.

Then discuss the study problems, and then study hard. 12 Go to bed on time.

Then many netizens said that it is really worry-free to have such children at home.

However, self-disciplined children do not exist out of thin air. "In fact, when children have sex and play, parents can't immediately make them self-disciplined. It is a gradual process and needs to be accumulated step by step. "

Fu Xiaoping, a doctor at Fudan University and an expert in parenting education, said this.

Professor Fu Xiaoping has been focusing on children's education for more than ten years and is also the father of two children, so his educational methods have never been "on paper".

In his book "Playing Good Habits with Children", he said that children are not serious about doing things and playing the piano. They like to talk about conditions and listen to stories, and they have to play while listening ... These careless behaviors will appear when children are 3 or 4 years old.

If parents don't pay attention to these small problems and don't correct the norms, children's self-discipline will have problems, such as being enthusiastic for three minutes, and feeling better after a while or being arbitrary and arrogant.

Regarding the cultivation of self-discipline habits, Professor Fu Xiaoping gave five suggestions to parents in the book:

1, starting from life

Parents must not have the mentality of "grasping small and magnifying", but must "cover everything". Whether studying or living, they should ask their children to take it seriously.

2. From listening to training

Let children develop the habit of listening, focus on one thing, and not be easily disturbed by the outside world.

Step 3 start with the details

If children want to develop a good habit of self-discipline, they must be specific to specific behaviors. For example, from learning to pick up toys by yourself to putting them in order. ...

Only by grasping the details can we treat everything seriously and efficiently.

4. Start with your parents

Parents are always the best role models for their children. When parents take everything in life seriously, children will be affected and receive the signal of "self-discipline".

5. Develop the habit of studying hard.

There will be appropriate homework when the kindergarten starts classes. Parents can let their children know that they should take the initiative to do their homework after returning home and check it themselves after finishing. Pack your own bags ...

Professor Fu Xiaoping also gave some specific training methods, such as taking children to do some parent-child activities-"making contracts".

Parents prepare paper and pens.

Then choose a more important problem in life, such as eating, packing toys and so on. And then negotiate specific rules with your child.

Then there is the process of formulating specific rules.

1, discuss orally first, such as how long you can watch TV in a day.

2. After parents and children reach a consensus, write the rules into written terms.

3. The child can sign after confirmation, and the process can be saved by video.

4. Put the contract in a conspicuous position at home.

All family members should obey Brother Yao.

This game is suitable for babies over 2 years old.

Besides games, it is also important for parents to encourage their children to form a good habit.

Professor Fu Xiaoping said that parents should also have skills in speaking. When children are lazy and don't want to play the piano, parents can say.

"You have been practicing every day for almost two years. It is not easy! In fact, many things take a long time to do better. Come on, baby! "

Instead of saying, "Why is it so difficult to ask you to practice the piano every day?" We worked hard to earn money to pay your tuition, and you didn't practice the piano seriously. If I don't want to learn piano, I will refund my tuition tomorrow! "

In our daily life, children's behavior habits are inevitably linked with picture books, so Professor Fu Xiaoping compiled classic picture books, made a list of books and recommended them to parents.

For example, to cultivate children's good habit of self-discipline, you can show them "We can really take care of your dog". The theme of this book is to keep the agreement.

There is also "I have been advancing", the theme is to obey the instructions of adults, "learn to manage yourself (fairy tale of crooked rabbits growing up independently)", and the theme is to learn to manage themselves.

Under the cultivation of Fu Xiaoping, the two children at home also began to know how to obey the rules and control their own behavior at the age of 3.

For example, after riding a rocking car, parents and brothers and sisters discuss the rule of "only sitting once a day". Every time they sit down, the children will take the initiative to step down.

At the age of 5, I was able to take care of myself. When I was 6 or 7 years old, I knew I had to finish my homework and pack my schoolbag.

Because of self-discipline, the two children have not only performed well in life, but also been among the best in their studies. When their daughter 12 years old, she was admitted to the top 5 junior high schools in Shanghai, which is equivalent to half a foot in 985 University.