Is the premise of love independence?

Recently, I am experiencing the test of this problem. As an "experienced person", my answer is yes.

Therefore, my understanding is that people are born independent and have nothing to do with love or not. Love is just a landscape on the road of life. Life with love may be sweeter and warmer, and life without love may not be wonderful. But independence is necessary. That is the guarantee of a person's personality freedom and spiritual freedom.

There are roughly two kinds of independence, economic independence and spiritual independence. From these two aspects, independence is really necessary.

Now it is out of the era when women are attached to men. Most girls have enough ability to support themselves, and even female elites are better than many boys. In this case, we only love equality and love with confidence.

I like a saying very much, I will make money, just give me love.

A girl who is confident to say such a thing, I believe she will have a beautiful love. Of course, it is the minimum dignity for a man to support himself. If a man misinterprets this sentence as eating soft rice, I'm sorry, please go out and turn left.

Economic independence is easy to achieve, but spiritual independence is difficult. Some people take it for granted that in love, two people should stick together without sleeping for 24 hours. Shouldn't boys be on standby at any time? I just want to say: too young and too simple. Everyone is an independent individual with independent thinking and needs his own space. Woolf, a British woman writer, once said: It is more important for a person to be himself than anything else. Moreover, she has a point that a woman must have money and add a room of her own to write novels. We may not be women who write novels, but as ordinary women, we should also have our own "spiritual space". In this room, there can be music, flower arrangement, art and baking, which are not to please men, but to enrich themselves, so that even a person will not feel uneasy and empty.

We have seen too many women who become hysterical after falling in love. They just put everything on men. As long as a man does something beyond her control, she can't stand it. This kind of love won't last long, or this feeling can't be regarded as love at all.

She once sang "Semisaccharism", and I deeply agree with her. Both men and women like new things. If he can't catch you forever, he will keep running after you. As long as he eats you, I'm sorry, you must be finished. ?