My son only pesters his mother and won’t let anyone touch him as long as her mother is at home. What should I do?

This is what happened:

My friend’s son is 4 years old and he is particularly pestering his mother. If his mother is not at home, he will be very obedient and sensible when following his grandma. He doesn't cry or make trouble. He is simply a perfect child. But as long as my mother is at home, she has to take care of everything such as eating, drinking, and telling stories. She will not listen to what others say, and she will burst into tears when she doesn't get what I want. I couldn't ignore him. I hugged my mother's legs and wouldn't let go. Children who pester their mothers love their mothers.

My mother is not at home at work during the day, and sometimes comes home late at night. His emotional needs for her are not met, so he is naturally dissatisfied with her in his heart, accumulates a certain amount of resentment, and even "hates" her for being with him. Have less time to play by yourself. This contradiction between love and hate makes him very fragile psychologically, and he expresses his contradictory emotions in contradictory behaviors. Therefore, when his mother is at home with him, he always pesters her to express "love", and constantly Making a fuss expresses "hate." At this time, parents' psychological understanding, emotional comfort and behavioral guidance of their children are crucial. First of all, mothers should adjust their mentality, get rid of the worries of work and trivial matters, and regard home as a happy haven for parent-child play.

Try to meet the child’s emotional needs of playing with his mother. Accept your child's clinging and unruly behavior with tolerance and patience, and do not criticize or reprimand him at will, because getting angry, beating and scolding will not only be ineffective, but will also hurt your child's emotions. Mothers also need to understand their children. They are usually busy at work and want to have a good rest when they get home. However, the children feel that the day has passed and their mother has finally got off work. The time after get off work is all mine. Therefore, parents should adjust their mentality. Spend time with your children. Then, the mother uses a calm attitude to correctly guide the child's behavior and communicate effectively with the child.

"Baby likes mom, right? Then mom has a small request for you, okay? Mom has been at work for a day and is very tired. You asked grandma to accompany you to dinner. Mom now Take a break, finish your meal, and mom will play with you. "Usually, pay attention to influencing the child little by little, guiding him to express his love for his mother in the correct way, and slowly he will be able to see the child's love. changed.