How to refuse relatives who want to foster a child in your own family?

Reject him directly. You don't dare to reject others outright. On the surface, you are thinking of others and don't want to embarrass them. In fact, you take yourself too seriously and feel that if you refuse, their hearts will be broken. Rejection is not ugly, but the attitude of not daring to say no is more ugly. If you don’t want to pay but still want to be a good person, nothing in the world is so cheap.

“Tone is everything” is a lesson we can all learn from. People won't remember what you said later, but they will always remember the feeling you left them with. Whatever message you give to others, deliver it with care and respect. Tone is everything. The right tone can maintain the other person's good impression of you, and it is also suitable for politely rejecting him.

The “please say no” method. It is especially effective when used to deal with various unreasonable demands. It's important not to give the other person a chance to convince you by using a hesitant tone. Whether in person or on the phone, end the conversation politely but decisively before the other person senses your guilt and discomfort and tries to convince or manipulate you into changing your mind.

The "stuck record technique" method. You can achieve the purpose of conveying a message clearly and unambiguously by repeating the same words over and over again to the person speaking. The real benefit of doing this is that it allows you to stay calm and not get carried away by one argument or another. Instead of getting caught up in what others are saying, you can say something like: “I can tell you’re upset/stressed/only doing what your boss tells you to do…, but… (insert the message you want to repeat).< /p>

So this requires you to argue with reason, understand the other party’s reaction, and insist on restating your core message