What should I say if I want to know someone else?

What should I say if I want to know someone else?

Want to know what others should say? In life, we occasionally meet people who make us want to strike up a conversation, but we dare not go because of face, so we finally get up the courage and don't know what to say. Let me see what we should say if we want to know others.

How should I say 1 if I want to know someone? First of all, a good conversation begins with introducing yourself.

Chatting up is the beginning of your chat. Before that, you didn't know each other, you didn't know each other. In order to find the same topic and show politeness, it is necessary to introduce yourself. However, many people are afraid to speak in front of the opposite sex they like, so they are shy. This situation is very common and normal. So introduce yourself first, you can relax your mood and ease the atmosphere. Self-introduction is relatively simple. You just need to say your name casually, what do you do, and so on, and then you can take the opportunity to ask about the basic situation of girls, so that you two can start chatting.

Second, let friends introduce you.

If you really feel that you can't talk to other girls directly, it's ok to find a middleman. This kind of party is usually a gathering of friends. You can discuss the basic situation of girls from your friend first, and then ask him to be the middleman to introduce you two. This method is also good, because some girls are very defensive. If you talk to her rashly, she may ignore you and refuse you. If you find a friend who is * * * to introduce you, the effect is not bad. In addition, your friend will not be honest, and will definitely tell others quietly, indirectly assisting the relationship between you two!

Third, find the starting point of the topic from her interest.

Since it is a friend's party, someone must know her. You can get some information from them first to know her hobbies, and then you can use this information to chat with her. If she likes movies, you can talk to her about movies. If she likes photography, you can ask her how to take pictures. For people who have the same hobbies as themselves, girls will feel very happy and will not refuse to chat with you. Then you two can have a good talk, and then you can ask for contact information when you have finished talking.

There will be many opposite sexes at the party, and girls who are interested in themselves are essential. Don't miss meeting them! Talk to her, spend some time talking to her, and then leave your contact information. The next pursuit process will not be too difficult. Because if girls have no feelings for you, they won't leave you a number easily! So, come on.

What should I say if I want to know someone else? 2. the direction of the conversation.

If you are walking in the street, suddenly someone slaps you behind you, what is your first reaction? Often startled, "who? What does he want? " This is because the back direction is the brain's default unsafe direction. Once something happens, you will enter a state of alert, so you must avoid talking behind your back. Which direction should it be from? Generally speaking, the front or right front will be the safer direction by the brain, and it is best to have a wide field of vision.

Second, it is important to ask the right questions.

Start with a simple question that the other party can't refuse in general, and then quickly find out what the other party is interested in or good at through observation, and seek advice. For example, in the library, you can borrow a pen from the other party, and then through the other party's observation, you can find that the other party is reading books on economic management, so you can ask him how to behave as an employee to get the approval of the leader, how to manage your subordinates as a leader and so on. No matter what the other person's answer is, you should think that his answer is very good and gives you great inspiration. You really want to make such great friends. Be sure to give each other this feeling. Once you have this feeling, whether you want to make a phone call or WeChat, it will become natural. And in general, the other party will be willing to give it to you. After all, everyone has vanity, and it is a happy thing to meet a small fan of their own.

Third, guess with declarative sentences.

For example, you see a girl walking around the door. She is very anxious and looks away from time to time. When you go up, ask directly, "Are you waiting for someone?" After hearing this sentence, girls will be alert immediately. "What do you want? What is your intention? " But if you use declarative sentences, you can say, "You should be waiting for someone." After listening, the girl will think, "Hey, how do you know I'm waiting for someone?" This feeling of being guessed will arouse each other's curiosity and interest in you. Therefore, it doesn't matter if you use declarative sentences, even if you guess wrong. It is also a topic to talk about why you guessed wrong.

Fourth, pay attention to the style of speaking.

If you talk to each other with a straight face as soon as you get up, everyone will want to stay away from you. Although everyone's personality is different, they like different speaking styles, but there are some styles that most people like, such as frankness, humor, openness, open-minded consultation, sincere praise and so on. Honesty means not to give the other person a sense of being too purposeful and utilitarian, but to show the other person your friendliness generously. It is best to be humorous and open-minded. You can also make some harmless jokes, or ask each other some questions with an open mind, which can also give each other a sense of knowledge and studiousness. Praise is essential because everyone actually likes to be praised.

Fifth, show self-confidence and calmness.

In front of strangers, you must show your confidence and never give them a passive and furtive feeling. When you ask some questions or ask for the contact information of the other party, you must be bold and direct, and have an open feeling. You can say, "Nice to meet you. I hope I can continue to contact you in the future. Let's add a WeChat. " Generous performance will make it easier for the other party to have trust in you.

Let's talk about two tips to break the embarrassment and get in touch.

First, make mistakes on purpose, and encourage each other to be a good teacher.

For example, if you and the person you want to know are at the same occasion, whether it's a cinema or a party, and you want to get his attention, one way is to deliberately say the wrong thing where you should know, or when the other person knows, so that the other person can hear that you are wrong and inspire him to be a good teacher, so that the other person can't help you correct it. Then you take the opportunity to ask a few more questions. In this way, you two will be closer. For example, on a bullet train or plane, when you see a beautiful woman next to you reading a magazine, and you see Roy's picture in the magazine, you suddenly say, "Is this Yifeng Li? What advertisement did you shoot? " At this time, she may glance at you and correct that this is Roy. Once she starts to correct it, your chance will come. You can go on to say, "That's true. I feel that you like watching entertainment news. Have you heard of anyone who has any gossip news some time ago? " So the topic between you was opened. Having said that, it is not abrupt to add a WeChat or leave a phone call at last.

Second, ask for help

If you want the contact information of the other party, you can ask the other party for help. "Hello, my mobile phone is out of power. Can I borrow your mobile phone to call my friend? " Be sure to thank each other after the phone call. With the phone number, add a WeChat when you go back, browse each other's circle of friends and find some topics of mutual interest. After a while, there will be more and more topics. For another example, if you want to meet a female classmate in your class, you can borrow their notes or review materials. When a class is in class, you can borrow their notes and copy them down. When you haven't finished copying after class, you can ask them to leave your phone number and promise to send it back. Isn't it natural to ask for help and leave a contact information?

In interpersonal relationships, we must pay attention to personality when making friends. Only people with good character can make deep friends and trust each other. If the other person has a bad personality, the closer you get to him, the more trouble you may have in the future. Then how to judge a person's character? One way is to see how he usually talks. Words come from the heart, what a person says is the external expression of his inner world, and the way he speaks represents what kind of person he is.