How to make mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony?

How do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along? As the saying goes, every family has its own problems, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a hot topic in society. Are you really ready to get along with your mother-in-law In fact, mother-in-law really affects whether the family is harmonious or not. Let's learn how to get along with our mother-in-law. How do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony? 1 Although your mother-in-law is not kind to you, she raised your husband, so you should be kind to her mother while loving your husband. You want your husband to be kind to her mother-in-law, and your husband naturally wants you to be kind to her parents. So give your mother-in-law a smile and chat with her more. Now that you are a family, it is your duty to honor your mother-in-law. When your husband sees that you are good to his mother, he will naturally be good to your family. "Bad words" comes first, which means that when you get along with your in-laws, you should communicate well in advance. For example, before your in-laws come to live at home, you should first reach an understanding with your husband, inform some principled questions in advance, and let your mother-in-law know your differences in habits and concepts through your husband. After all, there are always some big or small contradictions when living with my mother-in-law. If you communicate well in advance, you can avoid some unnecessary quarrels. Pay more attention to her mother-in-law's daily life. Whether you are modest or putting on airs, you must do superficial kung fu, which will also make your husband look at you differently. You can buy a copy for your mother-in-law when you buy something for your mother. Observe her daily life more and see what she likes to eat; The weather has changed, so buy her some clothes in advance and so on. Your mother-in-law will keep in mind your little concern. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs the joint advice of both husband and wife. When the in-laws' affairs are designed to be related to money, the wife must estimate her husband's mood and pay attention to her speaking skills. Even if you don't agree with your husband's practice, don't express it directly. Be tactful and reason with him. There are some places where you should honor your in-laws, such as when your in-laws are sick and need your help, you should show your willingness and generosity, so that you can please your mother-in-law and your husband will be satisfied with your behavior. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very sensitive topic for friends who are about to or have entered the marriage siege. It can be said that among many factors affecting marriage, family and family harmony, "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship" has become the "killer" who destroys the feelings of husband and wife after extramarital love. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the focus and difficulty of marriage. There are some hidden rules in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law If we can make good use of these hidden rules, it will be of great benefit to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law There is a woman under the eaves, which is the word "an"; If there are two women under the roof, it is difficult to be at peace. These two women are in-laws. If direct communication is blocked, first of all, we should reflect on ourselves: are you impulsive, have inappropriate words, have physical collision with your mother-in-law, and if you say this to your mother, how will your mother react? If all this has been reflected and there is no problem, then you must tell your husband, seek truth from facts, pay attention to the way, don't be angry and rude, and cry rather than scold. If it goes too far, there is a problem with the form and the content, and it is necessary to avoid the importance, but I have to mention it. Remember: confession in advance is definitely better than being questioned and having to confess afterwards. If you make a big mistake, I'm sorry, I don't know what to do. Because I never disagree with my mother-in-law. Ask other sisters for advice. Be the first person to explain the contradiction with her husband, try to be calm and never engage in personal attacks. My mother-in-law said she was a blowing frog, and my father-in-law said she was a drained sugarcane. Be a good person, especially in front of outsiders, be gentle and polite, obedient and diligent, which will not only make your mother-in-law face, but also attract outsiders to create public opinion for you. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be good at using "hidden rules" to communicate. They should be careful not to use hidden rules indiscriminately and try to say beautiful words. Even if you are hypocritical, you can't tell a naked truth. At least, you can't use facts first. A clever mother will teach her daughter to be sweet. To put it bluntly, she must be able to talk. Of course, beautiful words are not only words, but also actions. For example, a daughter-in-law in her fifties was praised by everyone, saying that she had a daughter-in-law and was still so filial to her mother-in-law. So how did she do it? When guests came, she waited on her mother-in-law, holding hot water bottles, cigarettes and matches for her mother-in-law, and stood by to wait on her. She is actually spying on her mother-in-law, so that she can't speak ill, but only speak well-in this way, her good reputation will be recognized by the most authoritative. If there is a big gap between your mother's family and your husband's family, or if your husband depends on your father for support, you don't have to worry about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. How dare your mother-in-law speak ill of you? She must be kind to her son. In this case, if the daughter-in-law is a long-term solution, it is necessary to add icing on the cake, be kind to her in-laws, make her husband's wings hard, and when her father retires, her in-laws and even her husband spit on him. You don't have to do anything if you don't want to work hard. Let everyone live in the scene. How do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony? 2. Mother-in-law should be in the dominant position and the relationship can be eased. In other words, the mother-in-law has a higher status and can bite the hand that feeds her. Mother-in-law may have an absolute advantage in social status, economic status and interpersonal relationship. And the daughter-in-law has to respect her parents-in-law everywhere and be careful everywhere. If the daughter-in-law is secretly unfilial, her mother-in-law may directly criticize her, even if she is not satisfied, she must be convinced. In this dominant relationship, the daughter-in-law naturally has a good example and standard. In this case, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not necessarily as close as that of a child, but she is also self-sufficient and peaceful. Second, the same temperament often creates the best mother-in-law relationship in the world. For mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is easy to get together if they are congenial or want to have a good relationship with each other, just like fate. Especially because the two sides love the same person and become closer. The two sides may go out shopping together, attend some parties together, or participate in activities such as health clubs. When two people are together, they both take the initiative to think of each other. This relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, although not too much, will also exist. Why do you want to put forward this relationship model is to show that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with the same temperament is the best. How to achieve the same temperament is also a problem worthy of consideration when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along. Temperament is of course innate, but it is also acquired, because nature cannot be changed, but love can be cultivated. Third, in a family that understands love, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law does not need to be deliberately good. In fact, the family environment has a great influence on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Although the daughter-in-law is someone else's daughter, she should naturally become a family because of her son. In the eyes of parents-in-law, they should be no different from their daughters and sons. Parents love their sons, sons love their parents, and daughters-in-law should also enjoy the same treatment. In fact, in a good family, mutual love is always reflected in equality, respect, consideration and tolerance. Daughter-in-law married to such a family, if she wants to integrate into this family, she can only use emotion. Otherwise it will destroy the ecology of the whole family. Naturally, not only the mother-in-law can tolerate it, but even her husband may not buy it. In a loving family, sincerity, fairness and affection are enough. Therefore, it is really a blessing for a woman to marry a good husband's family. Fourth, sons should learn to deal with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and make good ties. The son is the bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, if the son's emotional intelligence is high, it will definitely play an important role in the handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, fairness is important, but emotion is more important. If the son doesn't understand this, it will often make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more tense. In fact, how about a family tutor? It is largely reflected in the son. In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son should not only treat others fairly, but also be affectionate and righteous. The key lies in his own intelligence and self-cultivation, especially his own special role. 5. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should know how to love each other. Don't treat each other as enemies. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very bad. Generally speaking, family relations themselves are often abnormal. This kind of family was not calm, but now it is much worse. Naturally, it has been upgraded. Some families, even though their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have separated, still insist on treating each other as enemies. It's okay. If something goes wrong, throwing bricks at each other, throwing dirty water and cursing the street will make the distance restless. The son of this family is naturally not much better, either a loser, eccentric or defective. In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if you kiss each other, you will either add fuel to the fire or sit quietly. You will be very happy to watch the drama, and you will be very relieved to kill either one. 6. The generosity and patience of both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the key to harmonious coexistence. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally a family, and they are afraid that you will think the other party is an outsider, thus making random suspicions, accusations or curses. Don't treat each other as relatives, but enemies, even enemies, which will alienate them psychologically and lack tolerance and understanding in behavior. When the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, we may find that both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at fault. In fact, when we get along with others, we are easy to suffer indignities, often because our endurance is very small, and naturally it is easy to make a big fuss about small things, or even find something to smoke, which makes us unbearable. A healthy relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often requires more tolerance from both sides, and both sides can tolerate people and things. As long as you treat her with your heart and try to understand her mother-in-law's inner loss and sadness, no matter what kind of mother-in-law, she can live in harmony and win her heart. Therefore, if you learn how to get along, there will not be so many contradictions in your marriage and your family will be more perfect. Treat others sincerely, think more about your mother-in-law, and try to understand her worries and anxieties. No matter how hard she is, she will be influenced by you. Learning to understand and respect is the key to dealing with family conflicts.