How old is the best time for children to sleep in separate rooms? You will understand after reading it.

As the child grows up, how old does the mother let the child sleep in separate rooms?

It's early, I'm afraid that my children will be too dependent on themselves, and it's late, and I'm worried that my children will be precocious. How old is the best age for children to share a room?

Share the story of me sleeping in separate rooms with my children.

My son has been sleeping with me since he was born because of his poor health, so he is more dependent on me. My son is timid. He always says there are ghosts in the dark, so he is particularly afraid of the dark.

The first time I slept in separate rooms with him was when he was six years old. I told him about it a few days in advance so that he could be prepared. On the day of sleeping in separate rooms, after he went to bed, I said to him, "Mom doesn't close the door, so you don't have to be afraid. Sleep in peace and I'll come to see you in the evening." But not long after, he said he wanted to drink water and put him to bed. After a while, he said he wanted to go to the toilet and tossed it back and forth several times. I had to sit by the bed with him until he fell asleep. But although the little guy closed his eyes, I knew he was not asleep. After a while, he said to me, "mom, can I sleep with you for the last time?" I was nervous as soon as you left. I think there is a monster in the dark who wants to eat me! " I listened and said to him, "There are no monsters in this world. Don't scare yourself. Go to sleep. Mom won't leave. " But the little guy was still scared: "Mom, please, just let me sleep with you!" " "There is no choice but to compromise. The next day, he did it again, and in this way, the first housing allocation failed. Since the child is not psychologically ready, let it be.

Therefore, there is no specific limit to how old a child is to sleep well in separate rooms, and it should be decided according to the actual situation of the child. However, when children have the following two signals, they can consider sleeping in separate rooms.

1. Children can be alone.

When you find that your child can be alone, not noisy or noisy, and will whisper to his toy "friends", at this time, the mother needs to learn to let go, guide in time, and give the child an independent space.

2. Gender awareness

When the child asks, "Mom, why do boys pee standing and girls pee squatting?" "Mom, where am I from?" These problems show that children's gender consciousness is vague. At this time, parents can start preparing rooms for their children, but they should also pay special attention. They can no longer change clothes in front of their children, and children should be replaced by same-sex parents when they take a shower. Let go when it's time to let go.

How to divide the house smoothly?

1. Accept the child's repeated state and take your time.

At the beginning of housing distribution, children will have repeated States. I promised to sleep by myself during the day, but I broke my word at night. I slept well alone today, and I will sleep with my parents tomorrow.

In this case, parents can't scold. They should wait for the child to fall asleep, then take him back, take him back once, and it doesn't matter if you toss it for several times.

After a period of persistence, children gradually get used to it and will not find their parents again.

2. There should be a sense of ceremony in housing distribution.

It is best to choose a special day, such as the child's birthday, to sleep in separate rooms with the child.

Parents can invite their children to spend their birthdays at home, play in their rooms and tell them that this is his birthday present. And tell him that when you grow up, you will be qualified to have your own room.

So the children won't resist housing distribution.

3. Pay attention to children's special behaviors

In the process of housing distribution, if children keep coming back to their parents repeatedly, we should pay attention to whether anything special has happened recently. For example, when a child just went to kindergarten or elementary school, a younger brother suddenly came at home, and his father or mother left home to work.

At this time, children will want to be closer to their parents and get some psychological comfort from them.

Our parents need to understand the child's psychology and care more about him. When the child gets used to it, we can talk about sleeping in separate rooms.

Sleeping in separate rooms is one of the signs of children's growth. This process is particularly important, especially for sons and mothers. If the mother doesn't let go, it will cause great trouble to the child's future. Boys who are still sleeping with their mothers in their teens will find it difficult to establish healthy intimate relationships with other women when they grow up, and even ordinary interpersonal communication will have problems. So, mothers, please remember: before you are ten years old, you must have a separate room.

Housing distribution may make children suffer for a while, but it will also make them stronger.

Finally, I hope parents can understand that sleeping separately from their children is never a one-off event. There is elasticity, crying and temperature in this process.

But anyway, keep your parent-child relationship.