Talking about rhythm

Mastering the rhythm of conversation is an art, not just a matter of speaking faster or slower. You should know when to be "fast", when to be "slow", when to talk more and when to skip. Only in this way, when you speak, others will be willing to listen and enjoy this kind of communication. For example, we can grasp the rhythm of speaking from the following angles:

1. Grasp the rhythm and speed of words.

Mastering the speed of speech is the most basic problem. Everyone has their own specific speed of speech. Even if you are in a hurry, you can't help speaking faster, and you can't help dragging your accent lazily when you are tired, but the daily speaking speed of different people is still very different. When some people speak, there is always a long pause between syllables, which not only makes them feel weak and anxious, but also makes them feel weird because of their long voice, as if they were born with an attitude of mocking the whole world, which makes people feel difficult to get along with. But some people lack a pause between syllables and talk like "fried beans". Talking about one thing is always too fast, making it difficult for the audience to react, and finally feeling unable to communicate. These two extreme situations will make people lack the desire to communicate with you, and eventually make you "talk less and less."

2. Speak at a reasonable speed and pause slowly.

Speaking at a reasonable speed will make your information more in place. However, this does not mean that we should maintain a uniform voice. If so, it is tantamount to the old monk chanting, and it is easy to get bored.

There is no difference in the speed of pause, and the speed of speech is always "uniform", just like the Tang priest in a Chinese Odyssey, which makes people feel that they are rambling and uninterested. We describe the "cadence" way of speaking, in which "cadence" is the performance of mastering the pause speed. Only in this way can you relax the rhythm of your speech.

Before conveying the important content, we might as well pause.

When conveying important content, we always want others to pay attention. At this time, it is not the best and most effective way to increase the volume and exaggerate body language. Sometimes you scream at the top of your lungs, but it will have the opposite effect. The best way is to pause before talking about the important content. The more important the information, the longer the pause. Of course, this must be controlled within a suitable range. Then you can speak a little slower and let the audience give the desired response. Similarly, a comfortable conversation atmosphere is by no means always tense, so we always give others a chance to "wander" and let them relax. When talking about unimportant content, you can convey it in a faster way and don't pause, so that the other party will generally know that it is "free to listen".

4. Pause to express thinking makes people feel more credible.

When we pause before answering questions, it means that we are thinking. Many times, whether your attitude attaches importance to it is reflected in this kind of thinking.

According to different problems, we should master the skill of "whether to pause"

-"Do you like me?"

-"I like it."

If a question needs your sincere answer, show the most unthinking attitude and try not to pause, otherwise people will feel hesitant and shaken, and the answer will be in doubt. If you happen to face a relationship-related problem, the pause may make the other person feel-"You must be lying to me."

However, some questions need some pause to show your caution and attention.

Are you sure you can give me this plan before the deadline?

-"I'm sure."

At this time, you may need a little thinking space to prove that you "really gave the answer after careful consideration", which will better enhance the trust of others.

Subtle pauses in language can change the atmosphere of conversation, even the information conveyed. This is the charm of the combination of language and emotion, and it is a message that simple written language can't accurately convey. When you master this art, the value of "words" will definitely be greatly enhanced.