A smart woman should look at marriage before learning to fall in love. Can you talk about it?

Our oriental women's love and marriage from childhood ended in happy love and harmonious family, while French women's love and marriage are based on independent personality, so they are particularly comfortable in the face of love and marriage. Today I want to combine the two and share them with you. I hope you can know more about marriage and love before you fall in love. Let's talk about my thoughts.

First, give priority to personal development. French women's marriage and love are attached to their independent personality, that is, they always attach importance to personal development. They met on the road of self-development and met the right time, so they considered getting married. The biggest problem with the concept of marriage and love in China is that they will regard the age of 30 or so as the node that determines success or failure. No matter whether your career is on the rise or not, it will often lead to a person who has not learned to get along with himself and has not realized the true meaning of life, and will hastily build a new life mode with another person. Naturally, the consequences are endless after marriage. Before rushing into marriage, put yourself together completely before thinking about marriage and love.

Second, the most controllable thing in feelings is oneself. Although they long for the existence of love in marriage, they also clearly understand that the most uncontrollable part of the relationship is the other half, and only themselves can control it. Therefore, instead of trying to check her husband's mobile phone 24 hours a day, it is better to invest in yourself and keep your charm. As a Paris night rose, you actually put more energy into yourself.

Third, marriage and love are completely different in nature. Why do so many French women choose to live together instead of getting married? It is because they fully separate love from marriage. When a girl is in love, she is in love. Love can be violent or short-lived. It's torturous and painful here, but we don't choose marriage. We choose a person's personality, self-restraint, sense of responsibility and emotional stability. These qualities determine the quality of life in the future. Are you nourished by life or tortured by life? Of course, love and marriage can also be redeemed. However, when choosing a marriage partner, many people tend to ignore other parts except love, which leads to many problems behind marriage, so I think if you can read the essence of marriage well before choosing a man, then maybe I can have a green light on your emotional road.