Talent does not necessarily mean eloquence, but eloquence must mean talent! Is this correct?

I wonder if everyone feels that speaking and expressing in public is not that difficult after building up their self-confidence?

I believe that as long as you work hard with us, you will definitely become a good speaker. People who are expressive, have a desire to communicate, and are eager to express themselves.

Today we will continue to discuss how to improve your speaking skills and your impression on the audience.

1 Clothing and Image Shaping

Everyone knows the importance of image etiquette and behavioral etiquette. Maybe you really agree with the saying "your image is worth millions".

It is also possible that you have achieved the unity of knowledge and action, paying great attention to your own image, and doing everything from makeup to clothing to accessories very delicately.

It can even be adjusted and matched appropriately according to the requirements of different occasions.

However, many friends may not be able to fully and accurately grasp the image creation during speeches and public expressions.

Strictly speaking, the speaker's image will affect the audience's impression of the speaker. A speaker who has a bad impression will be prejudiced by the audience no matter what he says.

This kind of bias makes it difficult for the audience to believe what you say, thereby weakening the appeal and influence of your public expression.

If you want to change this situation, you must create a charismatic speaker image. Then you have to carry out all-round shaping in terms of clothing, eyes and voice.

TED’s speech attire can give us a lot of inspiration:

What should you wear when giving a speech?

This is actually quite particular. In TED talks, their clothing tips will give us some reference.

At the famous TED speech conference, the organizers will give a lot of suggestions on the attire of all speakers.

For example, don’t wear clothing with stripes or complex patterns, and don’t choose too bright colors or sparkling jewelry, so as not to affect the light effect during shooting.

The color of the selected clothes should contrast with the gray background of the stage to prevent the whole person from blending into the background during filming and failing to highlight the overall image of the speaker.

Of course, don’t wear too bright and bright clothes. Even sometimes TED peripheral events, such as the different venues of TEDx, have a certain guiding role in the speakers' attire.

At the TEDMED conferences in Washington, D.C., and San Francisco, "just wear casual clothes."

In Manhattan, "the style is more comfortable—jeans, cardigans." , it doesn’t matter if it’s not formal.”

In Monterey, California, “casualness is king.”

This means that when giving a speech, we must be based on the environment and the audience’s preferences. The theme requires you to choose a dress that suits you.

How do we choose what to wear during a speech based on the content of the speech?

If it is a serious topic, it is best not to dress too frivolously, otherwise it will appear that you are not interested in the topic or the audience. Not paying much attention to it.

Similarly, don’t dress too seriously when talking about light topics, otherwise you won’t be able to mobilize the enthusiasm of the audience and the atmosphere will be weird.

For example, what you are sharing today is some life tips or a good interaction with the audience, or even some relaxing topics for children.

Would it look too formal if you also wore a formal suit and tie?

For Chinese people who are not very able to express their individuality , neat and elegant, simple and dignified, light and coordinated, and well matched, it can handle various speech topics well.

Here Teacher Qing has a few tips to share with you:

If it is a more serious topic, dark clothes can give people a sense of solemnity and depth.

For relaxed topics, use light-colored clothes as much as possible to make people feel refreshed and comfortable.

Specifically, white makes people feel pure, blue makes people feel peaceful, red makes people feel stimulated and excited, yellow makes people feel happy, etc.

The speech must be intimate. If it is not intimate, how can we close the distance with the audience?

Wouldn’t a good sharing and speech become a boring preaching, and Back to the classroom days?

If a woman wants to show her charm as much as possible, she might as well wear a pair of dark trousers or a knee-length skirt on her lower body.

The top can be contrasted accordingly and wear a light-colored dress with a round neck. In this way, you are both generous and decent, friendly and charming.

When a man gives a speech, if the topic and occasion are not too serious and formal, you can wear a pair of jeans (not the kind with holes!!!!).

Wearing a plain shirt without stripes or spots on the upper body, paired with a casual suit, or even slightly opening the collar of the shirt will make you look more energetic.

For important speaking occasions, you must finalize your clothes a few days before you give your speech.

Then wear it and have a look for yourself, and then show it to your friends, so that you can know whether everyone's aesthetics can accept your dress.

You can also collect some speech videos of successful people on the Internet to see how they dress and how they make people feel comfortable.

The title of Lizra’s TED talk was “The Power of Everyday Seduction”. As the CEO of a marketing brand company, a writer and a dancer, she chose a combination of white pants and a blue shirt.

This kind of combination has a kind of classic beauty, which makes people feel very sophisticated without being overly sexy. The end result is a new, very comfortable feeling.

2 The Importance of Eyes

I just gave you some tips on dressing. The second point I want to tell you is the importance of eyes in the overall image. .

There is a saying: "You are a person of temperament who has confirmed your eyes."

In addition to being shaped in terms of clothing, every speaker must also be flexible enough to express themselves in their eyes.

“The eyes are the windows to the soul.” Casual, scattered, and dull eyes cannot convince the audience. To create a good image of yourself in front of others, of course you must pay attention to your eyes.

At the same time, you can fully express your thoughts and actions through your eyes.

Here is a short story that really happened. The protagonist of this story is a classmate in our personal development society fan group.

After studying, he realized the importance of eyes, so he insisted on eye training every day, and finally developed a pair of bright eyes.

One day, on the bus, his mobile phone was stolen by a thief.

Having lost his cell phone, he was very calm and calmly started from the front row, making eye contact with the people in the car one by one.

I didn’t expect that I could quickly tell who the thief was just by looking at him.

He said that during the five-minute confrontation between the two of them, he did not argue or make trouble. He just stabbed each other with the sharp sword of his eyes. In the end, the thief obediently The cell phone was taken out.

When this classmate shared his experience with us in the group, we all said, "It's really cool."

Indeed, eyes are powerful, and confident eyes will help you win more opportunities!

And when giving a speech, you can also use appropriate eyes to shape your personality. To create a good image, take the initiative to look at the audience, or be firm, professional, charitable, gentle, caring, or understanding...

When your eyes convey more emotions, The audience will have to listen carefully to your speech and feel your feelings and emotions.

Here are the three most commonly used methods of using eyes:

01 Point-of-view method

That is, focusing on observing a certain part of the audience and speaking to them during the speech. You can bring your audience closer to you emotionally by giving them a look of approval and thanksgiving as they listen intently.

For "difficult households" who find it difficult to take notes, you can cast a helping glance, and they will feel warmer, and they are likely to give you a grateful nod and smile in return.

For those listeners who are doubtful, you can cast an enlightening and guiding gaze to calm their demeanor.

For those listeners who want to ask questions but are nervous and hesitant to speak, if you cast an encouraging glance, you can make them feel brave enough to ask questions boldly.

For those "unquiet areas" that are whispering and frequently restless, if you immediately give a restraining look, they will see their mistake and stop their "little actions" in a sensible manner.

The purpose of looking is diverse, and looking can have multiple meanings according to needs, and you can choose freely according to reality.

When using the gaze method, be careful to avoid long-term direct eye contact with the audience. This will not only make the audience feel uncomfortable, but also make other listeners feel left out.

02 False vision method

That is, our eyes seem to be staring at some listeners, but in fact we are not looking at anything. As far as the listeners are concerned, they will feel that we are watching. them.

The virtual vision method can not only make us show a dignified and generous demeanor on stage, facilitate control of the venue, but also reduce the psychological pressure caused by nervousness when we first go on stage.

When recalling and describing a certain scene, the virtual vision method will also give us the feeling of thinking and immersed in the scene, guiding the audience into the described artistic conception.

When expressing feelings of remembrance and admiration, the virtual vision method is conducive to setting off the atmosphere, making it easier to infect the audience and arouse cries of excitement. As a beginner in speaking, you can also use the virtual vision method when you feel particularly nervous on stage.

The occasions when the virtual vision method is applied should be limited and the time should not be too long, otherwise it is easy for the audience to have the illusion of our arrogance.

03 Look around method

That is, let your eyes look around the venue rhythmically or periodically like a searchlight shining on the night sky.

Looking around is an observation method that takes care of the whole scene and takes an overall view. The purpose is to observe and discover the dynamics of the audience throughout the venue in order to receive the audience's reaction to the speech.

At the same time, if the audience feels that the speaker is paying attention to them, they will increase their sense of intimacy, increase their willingness to participate, and listen more attentively.

When using the surround method, you must be careful: do not ignore the audience in any corner.

You can look around in three general directions, 45 degrees to the left, 45 degrees to the front, and 45 degrees to the right, so that the audience will not feel ignored and will avoid being slighted and emotionally hurt.

We also don’t want to move our heads too much or move our eyes constantly, making the audience feel confused and overwhelmed.

3 Voice is your other face

Speech produces information through sound.

Good oral expression requires not only accurate and appropriate expressions.

Moreover, it is also required to be able to hear the sound in the ears, to make the audience excited, intoxicated, and completely intoxicated in the speech.

For example, when we listen to the voices of teacher Pu Cunxin and actor Wang Kai, they are very comfortable, deep, and penetrating, as if they come with a subwoofer.

To make the face of the voice look better and more attractive, we can make adjustments from the perspective of the voice image.

01 The voice is correct and clear

In order to effectively convey the speaker’s thoughts and emotions, it is first necessary to pronounce words correctly and clearly.

If the pronunciation is wrong or unclear, the audience will not know what the speaker means.

Because of this requirement, everyone can read aloud more often while paying attention to the accuracy of pronunciation.

If you usually speak fast, you can slow down a little. The average speaking speed is generally controlled at about 200 words per minute.

02 The voice should be varied

The speaker’s voice should be varied. If the voice of the speech is flat and unchanged, it will make the audience drowsy and even annoying. Restless.

Voice changes are not only a requirement of the audience, but also a requirement for expressing emotions during speeches.

For speeches with solemn content, use a serious voice; for speeches with peaceful content, use a soothing voice.

Speakers should pay attention to using these when giving speeches.

03 The voice is powerful and durable

In addition to meeting the above requirements, the voice of the speech also needs to be powerful and durable.

To this end, the speaker must overcome the habit of mumbling to himself, and when speaking, he must be powerful and inspiring.

If the sound is not powerful, it will not be able to influence the audience.

In addition, when giving a speech, the voice needs to be sustained. Some speakers' voices are okay and powerful at the beginning of their speech, but gradually they become less and less interesting as they speak.

This kind of sound that has no beginning or end will greatly weaken the effect of the entire speech. The audience will doubt the speaker's self-confidence and then doubt the content of the speech.

Through constant practice and adjustment, your voice appearance will soon change.

For example, if you feel that the persistence of your voice is not enough, you may want to pay attention to the scientific habits of using your voice, strengthen breath training, and participate in more sports to improve your physical strength and ability.

Professor Nickerson, a famous behavioral psychologist at London Business School, once proposed the famous image effect theory: "People use three concepts to describe successful leaders-character, ability, and image."

Among them, a person's image will directly affect people's understanding of the first two items.

Yes, image is particularly important for successful people, and it is also indispensable for speakers.

Clothes are dead, eyes and voice are alive. As long as you can strengthen in these three aspects, then as a speaker, your image on the stage will be able to be vivid and flexible. .

As your experience increases and your abilities increase, over time you will be able to shape yourself into an excellent speaker by attracting the audience with your clothing, catching the audience with your eyes, and impressing the audience with your voice. who.