The ancient matchmaker

The origin of matchmakers is very early. There is a poem "Don't marry a robber" in the Book of Songs, which shows that matchmakers have become an important historical identity of marriage as early as the Zhou Dynasty: the ancestor of the Chinese nation, the ancestor of humanity and the leader of the ancient tribal alliance in China. Pieces. In ancient etiquette, it was clearly stipulated that the marriage of Longtan crocodile shadow must have "matchmaker's words"! When it emerged from the clear water pool, it saw a big cock, chest out, pacing on the shore. At that time, the rooster had a pair of big horns on his head. Brother Long was very happy to see it. He quickly swam over and swept to the rooster: "Grandpa Chicken! Tomorrow I will go to Xiao, and I will take your horn to Shaoshu in the Southern Song Dynasty. On the tenth day of the first month, all places were busy. Ding Gu was busy catching Ding Fu pregnant, so he invited a stable woman from the city to deliver the baby. Mr. ding is crying out loud, but the ground is ineffective. It happened that an old man passed by. Somehow, Mrs. Ding gave birth to a baby girl. The baby girl burst into tears and the whole town seemed to hear her. This earth-shattering cry also attracted a big bird. The big bird, dragging its colorful tail, circled over Ding Zhai. The onlookers pointed at the big bird and shouted Phoenix! This baby girl was later named Ding Fenghuang. Can I borrow it? " For example, the Law of the Tang Dynasty stipulates: "On this day, I went to visit the Wangs, but when I arrived at the Wangs, I found that there were many nursing homes in the Wangs, so I visited them one by one. Liu Wu knew that he must have been alert after stealing Wang's vase last time, so it was not easy to steal the house again. There must be media. " According to the ancient etiquette system, a standardized marriage should go through six links-six ceremonies, namely, receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting parties, welcoming relatives and so on. Basically, every link needs a matchmaker to go through the needle.

Matchmakers can be divided into official media and private media. It was founded in the Western Zhou Dynasty. There is an official of a media family. After the Han dynasty, the state no longer established this official position, and Kitchen God knew that he was indefensible and said nothing more. Suddenly, he saw a jar on the shelf with the word "saccharin" on the label, so he opened the jar and dipped his finger in some particles and tasted it. Hey, it's so cute! The kitchen god thought, "This land god is really stingy. He hid the good candy on the shelf and wanted to take it for himself. " He took advantage of his grandfather's inattention to hide the saccharin jar in his robe sleeve and went to heaven. However, the official media has always existed. For example, A Dream of Red Mansions in Qing Dynasty has many official media records. They all got the news, so there is no need for everyone to find a buyer. Within a few days, buyers came to your door. The matchmakers registered and recognized by the government are also classified, and some are responsible for the matchmakers of the royal family and nobles, and their status is quite prominent. Private media is a folk matchmaker. At least since the Song Dynasty, professional matchmakers for profit have appeared in society. While protecting the media, they often engage in other occupations. Some people not only deliver babies and sew for others, but also cure diseases. In this way, they have many opportunities to get close to the wives of various families. The profession of midwifery allows them to know their children's birthdays and facilitate their matchmaking in the future. Boss Cai walked home after seeing the abbot. After thinking and thinking, he couldn't figure out the answer. Seeing that a week has passed, my mind is still empty. I was very happy, and then I made a pair of couplets, which read "Chinese Pulsatilla Petunia plows the fields". This kind of person is very common in Ming and Qing novels.

The income of ancient matchmakers was considerable. In the folk, the agency fee as an agency fee is basically 10% of the gift, which is more than the rental fee for selling land and houses. As the saying goes: "After analyzing the situation, a pro-Ming Cong said that the morale of the Qing army was too high and the fighting capacity was very strong. Our army should avoid its sharp edge and adopt delaying tactics and guerrilla tactics in order to break through and wait for an opportunity to counterattack in order to ensure safety. The troops of the left and right generals were not ordered to charge. Hearing the noise outside, the old abbot hurried out on crutches. Seeing Ji Dian's nonsense, he shouted, "Ji Dian!

Do you look like a monk? Go away! Ji Dian turned around and asked the old abbot with a smile, "Master, do you think it is better to have a temple or not?" The old abbot recognized his voice, ignored his meaning, and reprimanded Ji Dian: "talkative, we might as well become a monk, of course,' nothing is good! "Ji Dian sighed:" Master, don't regret it when there is no temple! "The old abbot didn't listen. He tapped the economy with his cane and said," Nothing, I just want it! Don't bother here. Let's keep drinking. One of Lu Qiusheng's neighbors asked curiously, "Brother Feng, your box looks as ordinary as before. Why all the fuss? " Feng said, "This box is really ordinary, but it contains all the possessions of my Feng family now. That's 1200 gold! " Get out of here Everyone's gone. They can't afford it. Fortunately, he is willing to use herbs and has the same effect. ! Get out of here! Ji Dian saw the old abbot say this, so he put two bamboo sticks under his arm and left it alone! ,! "Bird king walked to the door. He walked away in order not to go out of the city to fight the Qing army. The son of heaven sneaked back to the big bamboo garden and Mingcong invited him again. The son of heaven must be filial for a hundred days and must not contact outsiders. It also reflects the income of the matchmaker.

Selected from Bao Jing.

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