Mother teaches her daughter and mother-in-law to "fight wits and fight bravely": when she uses routines, you should figure out what to do. what do you think?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can always appear in unexpected ways. Good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations are similar, while bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations have their own disadvantages and stories.

So every day a new story is staged, and everyone in it can be a director or a protagonist.

Before Song Yu got married, she heard a married friend say that there were few mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who could really get along. Song Yu laughed after hearing this. Obviously, she doesn't believe it. Later, her best friend got married and told her that she had met a mother-in-law relationship.

Anyway, because of her mother-in-law, her best friend and her husband had a lot of conflicts, because her husband was kind to her, but he was a very filial person. No matter what happens, it is a sentence: "Mom has worked hard in this life, please make way."

Or "my mother is not wrong" or something like that. When my best friend has nothing to do, I can only talk to Song Yu. After listening to a lot, I also faced the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

So when it comes to marriage, Song Yu is naturally very careful. Fortunately, my mother-in-law is a very good person. Song Yu has heard of many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but she has never heard of such a comprehensive mother-in-law.

Her mother-in-law has a kind heart. Song Yu went to her mother-in-law's house for the first time, and her mother-in-law was very enthusiastic. I can see that the house has just been cleaned, and all the fruits on the table are her favorite. Later, I learned that it was her boyfriend who accidentally said it.

My boyfriend's unintentional sentence, my mother-in-law can actually take it to heart and remember it for so long. Song Yu's impression of her mother-in-law at that time was really good.

She wanted to help, but her mother-in-law quickly stopped her: "Don't get your clothes dirty. I can do these things. Just sit and watch TV and get ready to eat. "

When eating, her mother-in-law always picks up dishes for her. Although Song Yu doesn't like this, I can see that this is because her mother-in-law likes her very much and she is very happy.

When she left, her mother-in-law gave her a red envelope and said not to dislike it. Song Yu didn't know how to speak until she came back.

Everything, everything is going well.

02

After the marriage, Song Yucai knew that she was really young at that time, and she thought everything was too simple. She is a straightforward person and never beats around the bush, so it is natural to take others as her.

But in fact, the mother-in-law is the one who can overtake the corner best. When something happened, she said that three points should be reserved for seven points, and she only accepted good words, especially knowing how to give in.

Song Yu married her husband. Originally, it was agreed that the bride price was 80,000 yuan, and her family added 40,000 yuan 1.2 million yuan. As a result, everything was ready, and my mother-in-law suddenly said that the family could not afford so much money because of the decoration of the house.

Song Yu used to play that time, and her mother-in-law suddenly mentioned it. Song Yu felt a little embarrassed to say this in front of her, because she didn't know how to react.

Who knows that before her reaction, her mother-in-law spoke first: "Daughter, I'm really sorry to let you hear this. As you can see, it has cost a lot of money to decorate the house at home recently, and it has also spent some of the original bride price money. "

Song Yu originally thought that her mother-in-law wanted to say whether the bride price would be less. Who knows that my mother-in-law turned her head: "But don't worry, niece, since you are married to our family, you will definitely not be wronged. You should get a certain score."

Song Yu felt warm when she heard her mother-in-law say so. She likes her mother-in-law to call her a prostitute. My mother-in-law often said that she always wanted a daughter, but she gave birth to two naughty boys and treated her as a daughter in the future.

Song Yu is naturally willing to get along with her mother-in-law, which is what she wants.

Originally, the bride price was just a formality. Song Yu doesn't care at all, and neither do his parents. Therefore, she offered to reduce the bride price to 50,000.

Song Yu also persuaded her parents. Recently, her family was really nervous, and her parents agreed. But in the end, she married 1.2 million, and Qian Song Yu had it.

After marriage, Song Yu's money was always spent by her mother-in-law for various reasons.

03

My mother-in-law is not in good health, and she will get sick from time to time, all of which are minor illnesses. She doesn't go to the hospital first every time she gets sick. But will come to Song Yu first and let Song Yu accompany her.

Song Yu believes that it is right to be filial to the elders. Every time no matter what happens, she puts it down first and goes with her, so she usually pays the money.

My mother-in-law always wanted to give her money at last. Song Yu felt that she was burying herself and refused to accept it. After some refusal, her mother-in-law took the money back. In retrospect, Song Yu said that even if her mother-in-law had change every time, she wouldn't give it to her. She gave her all the money. She must be embarrassed to accept it. After all, too much has changed.

Anyway, after so many years of marriage, although we didn't have much money every time, we got a lot together, but we don't remember it, so we don't know how much.

Secondly, my mother-in-law likes to drag Song Yu out shopping. When she was young, she suffered a lot, so her mother-in-law always pointed to those clothes and said, "My life has been a bitter day, and I have never worn a good dress."

Song Yu listened and asked her mother-in-law to choose, so she bought it. My mother-in-law said she wouldn't buy it at first, and she chose expensive ones at the end of each time. Song Yu's salary is not very high, so sometimes it hurts a little.

After all, the mother-in-law actually has her own facade, and the father-in-law is also doing small business. In-laws earn more than their husband and wife. Song Yu never cares how her mother-in-law spends money. She just thinks that as a daughter-in-law, filial piety should be done, and her mother-in-law is so kind to her.

But after a long time, Song Yu really reacted: Why does her mother-in-law always "cry poor" in front of her and spend a lot of money on her? Although her mother-in-law is very kind to her verbally, she has never used a penny from her mother-in-law since she got married, and her mother-in-law has never bought anything.

My mother-in-law also has a young son who is unmarried. She moved out after she married her husband. My mother-in-law said before that she would live with her youngest son in the future.

Until one time later, Song Yu's mother-in-law bought goods at home, and the capital turnover was not enough. After that, her mother-in-law added, "Daughter, mother doesn't want your dowry money. Don't worry, we will definitely not use your money. "

Isn't there 320 pieces of silver here?

04

Song Yusi reasoned and thought that there was something wrong with her heart, so she told her mother about it. After listening to her story, her mother said, "You can't be stupid again this time."

Song Yu asked what to do, and her mother replied, "Just tell her that you really want to help, but it's not easy at home these two years. With children, the family has to spend money, so the money has been used almost. "

Anyway, Song Yu didn't take the money for the first time, and her mother-in-law finally said something inexplicable: "It seems that you are still generous with money. If a woman wants to know how to keep a house, money can't be counted. "

Song Yu nodded and said that he remembered. Of course, it turns out that the mother-in-law is not short of money, because it didn't take long for her youngest son to buy a car of more than 200,000.

After this time, Song Yucai really understood that her mother-in-law was good to herself and mixed with countless routines. Probably, she saw that Song Yu would take this one, coaxed it on the surface, and then let her suffer a little.

Song Yu's mother also taught her how to "fight with her mother-in-law": if she uses "routine", you have to take it.

In short, don't care what your mother-in-law says in the future, don't do what she said at the beginning, think about your own interests first. Did you suffer too much?

If it is, it is necessary to stop the loss in time and quietly refuse the request. Mother gave her an example. For example, the next time your mother-in-law says she hasn't worn good clothes, you can say you haven't worn them either. It's just much more exaggerated than her, and she will understand.

Mother thought for a moment: "Of course, you can still be filial occasionally. After all, now your in-laws can earn money, and earn more than you. There is really no reason to spend your young couple's money like this. "

Song Yu nodded, this just understand, mother-in-law relationship, indeed as expected is much more complicated than you think.