Who are those really mean people?

? Have you ever met such a person who always sees your bad things and finds fault with you in every way? Such people can't spit out good words, and many people find it difficult to communicate with such people.

? I have met such people before, who always like to refute and argue with each other. Refutation is to deny what he said, and it is often what he cares most about, maybe it is true. I feel sorry for the other party because this kind of communication has brought me unpleasant experiences. I seem to want to bring me the uncomfortable feeling of the other party in the same way, as if to "cool off".

It's really different now. For this kind of people, I want to study what their motives are and what they want to get. So I'm not angry. On the contrary, I agree with what he said, but there is nothing to refute. What he described may be my true state in his heart. In his heart, he really thinks these are not good. Or maybe I'm just the object of his projection, because I'm familiar with it, so he will speak ill of me, without a good word in his mouth, and hear his expectation of me.

I began to have the following guesses: first, this is his consistent behavior pattern. It's easy to communicate with others in this way since childhood, and it's also very ostentatious.

? Second, gain a sense of superiority. The more people want to gain a sense of superiority, there is an inferior child living in their hearts. People who feel inferior want to gain a sense of superiority to escape their inferiority, and gain a sense of psychological superiority by saying insulting words to belittle others.

In the past, 2 was the second kind of person, very inferior and vicious. What he said was very hurtful, many students couldn't stand it, and his popularity was very poor.

Later, the person who treated the symptoms but not the root cause changed from a poisonous tongue to a flatterer, and liked to make others happy, so that everyone forgot my poisonous tongue and only remembered that I was funny, including the impression I gave everyone so far.

? But now I really realize that I feel inferior because of my inner self-esteem. I can only satisfy my inner emptiness by hurting others and grasping their defects.

? Mean people will still meet, but I will pay more attention to them, hoping that I can give them more understanding and encouragement and transcend my inferiority complex, instead of always satisfying myself at the expense of others, which will lead to the deterioration of interpersonal relationships around me.