The child quarreled because of the uneven distribution of the old father's genes. How to distribute the inheritance correctly?

1 No matter how poor he is, he will never be poor. Lao Du has three children, the eldest and the second are daughters. With the idea of "trying one last time", I gritted my teeth and gave birth to my third child. Got what he wanted. He is a son.

It is not easy to feed two children, and now there is another one who eats with his mouth open, which makes the already tense economy even tighter. But this does not affect Lao Du's happy mood at all.

Lao Du is a * * * six compatriots. As an only child, he bears the heavy responsibility of carrying on the family line. So subconsciously, you have always come to him, and you can't "break the fragrance". As long as you have a son, you can overcome any difficulties and there is always a way.

At that time, the monthly income of Lao Du and his lover was fixed, which was nothing more than a question of how to move around. It is understandable that the old man gives his parents less money. Both daughters are sensible, so it's not a big problem to spend less-it's enough to feed their sons.

Therefore, my son grew up with a family around him. Of course, all the work at home, big and small, naturally avoids the son.

Lao Du has always established the image of a "good father" outside:

"No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor."

In fact, when I get home, what this sentence really means is: No matter how poor I am, I can't be poor for my son.

Three children grew up in this family environment.

At that time, many families had many children and the same economic conditions-"poverty". The usual practice is to change the clothes worn by the boss to the second one; What the boss uses is passed on to the second-just to save some money.

In the old Du family, the situation is just the opposite: "one hand" is basically the third; The two daughters picked up the use of "second hand" in turn.

The eldest daughter later recalled that she had kept the photos of that year:

"My brother developed late and was young, so I couldn't wear the rest of the clothes.

At that time, my mother took apart some of my brother's clothes and trousers and put them together for me. Many clothes I wear to school are gaudy and colorful, all of which are spelled out. "

In any case, children should not forget the kindness of raising children hard.

A series of events diluted the affection between brother and sister, and all three children grew up.

The three brothers and sisters have different personalities.

Under the guidance of their parents, the two daughters paid special attention to their families and took good care of their younger brothers. The eldest daughter, as the eldest daughter in the family, considers the family the most, is prudent and prudent, and generally makes decisions by her. The second daughter is quick-tempered and violent, but she never gives in to anything.

On the other hand, the younger son is obviously different from the two daughters. After all, I was brought up with my arms when I was a child. My parents and sisters took me down when I was tired, and I didn't suffer much. So I have always been self-centered: if you want to participate, just do a little; What you don't want to do is usually done in one go-regardless of other people's feelings, there are people in front of everything anyway.

This different personality formed since childhood has different fortune after entering the society.

My son has always been careless in his work attitude, and the result can be imagined. After marriage, family life is not happy. In less than three years, she divorced and the child returned to his ex-wife. I live happily when I am free.

Sometimes the eldest daughter always persuades:

"Brother, you are the boss, you can't live like this. When I was a child, I relied on my family. Now I have to rely on myself, and my parents are old. If anything happens, I have to learn to take responsibility. I can't count on my family for everything. "

Lao Du's point is not here. There are two things on his mind: one is to find another wife and have a son; One thing is to always remind the two daughters to take care of their younger brother.

Although the two daughters have been protecting their sons since childhood, in the long run, there will always be something that will cause inner dissatisfaction and gradually change their psychology and attitude.

Lao Du's father died, and he wanted to see his grandson before he died. On his deathbed, he only saw two granddaughters. ...

After the death of Elder Sister Lao Du, the two daughters rushed back to their hometown and gave 5,000 yuan on behalf of the three children. When they came back to talk about this, the younger brother complained that he had given too much money. He didn't mention anything about returning the money to the two sisters. ...

What makes the two sisters even more chilling is that when their mother was hospitalized, the two sisters did not take time off at night and accompanied them during the day. My brother came to see it twice and went back to "busy" ...

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The two sisters had mixed feelings when they talked about their younger brother in private. The second child speaks directly and complains to the elder sister:

"Elder sister, my parents love him so much. What's going on? Grandpa and aunt are gone, what a big deal it is to leave them at home! Don't even show up. When we returned to our hometown, did you see the way people looked at us? Grandson didn't go back, but two granddaughters came forward. If it were in their hometown, it would be looked down upon!

Other people's homes are occupied by their sons in front, and ours is fine, so long as we don't drag our feet behind! "

The eldest daughter doesn't know? I don't know why this is the result.

Instead of echoing her sister's complaints, the eldest daughter added fuel to the fire. All I can do is comfort my sister. But in her subconscious, her attitude towards her brother has changed.

3 daughter's anger: don't be confused again. In a blink of an eye, children have surpassed the people running around.

The son said that he was doing this and that, and no one knew what he was doing. There are only two things that are clear: money is tight and I have always been "single".

Lao Du has been thinking about these things.

Earlier, the two daughters gave their younger brother some money from time to time, and then they stopped giving it. Lao Du has been insisting that every time he asks his son whether he is short of money or not, he sneaks it in.

When the second daughter heard these things, she could not help but persuade Lao Du:

"Dad, you are really an adult. You can't get used to it. You have hands and feet. What can you do to support yourself? "

Lao du instead in hand over to treat:

"You three brothers and sisters, your brothers are difficult to get along with. Whoever is in trouble in our family has to help each other. You and your sister have taken special care of your brother since childhood, and you can't forget it in the future. "

The second daughter was very angry at these words, and her attitude towards her father was both angry and pitiful. It's a pity that my father was kidnapped by deep-rooted thoughts but couldn't jump out; It is exasperating that a man as old as my brother knows nothing.

One night, the second daughter went home to see her parents. It was rare for her to meet her brother and chat with her father at home. Second daughter lukewarm said 1:

"Brother, are you there?"

The son nodded and stopped talking. Lao du is nothing "scheming", looking at the second daughter back, very enthusiastic:

"Yes, come and sit down. I'm talking to your brother. I haven't talked to you and your sister yet. "

Son was about to interrupt his father, Lao du didn't pay attention to, continued.

"Just now we discussed the transfer of the house.

Here's the thing. Your mother and I are old, too. We have been discussing all this time, and we will give you our property as soon as possible. Both you and your sister have a good job, and the economic conditions are ok, but your brother is almost there.

So we thought, transfer the house to your brother as soon as possible. We'll keep part of your mother's savings with me, and transfer the rest to you and your sister later.

In case we leave one day and the pension money is not spent, it will be left to your brother.

When you were young, our family was poor. It's hard to manage a family, and you're both married. Don't leave anyone behind. "

The second daughter was anxious when she heard it. How to divide the money is on the one hand, and more importantly, I have been dissatisfied with my brother's attitude for a long time, but now my father is still partial on the grounds of poor economic conditions.

The second daughter didn't beat around the bush:

"Dad, you do this, I don't agree!

No one's money is blown by the strong wind, but they are all earned by themselves. We are all old. What we should consider now is not to rely on our parents and ask you for money, but to think about how to give and repay you.

To put it mildly, my brother is in poor condition. Who is to blame? You are not helping the poor by dividing the property! Even if it is poverty alleviation, at least there must be a clear score, right? You can't help him. What are you doing to help him? Not bad enough! This confusion, don't do it again!

This is a big event at home. Why don't you call my sister and let the family sit down and discuss it? "

After hearing this, the son whispered:

"Mom and dad's property, how to points is not their own decision? Ask you what? Not just for money? "

Hearing this, the second daughter was about to have another attack, and the son was too scared to say anything. Lao Du waved his hand and promised the family to discuss it together.

Another solution, Lao Du, called all three children and told his thoughts together with his wife.

The second daughter told the elder sister about it in advance. The eldest daughter has thought it over. After listening to Lao Du's retelling, he said:

"Dad, mom, I know what you mean.

It stands to reason that you can divide your property at will, and we have no right to interfere. But what I want to say is that you transferred the house to my brother. What will you do in case something happens in the future? "

Brother grabbed the words:

"My parents have something, I am in charge."

The second daughter was about to interrupt with a sarcastic remark when the boss stopped her. She is well aware of her brother's behavior, so there is no point in arguing about it.

Eldest brother didn't meet younger brother ever, continue to Lao du said:

"You have to think so, I don't mind.

However, what I am considering is whether it can be changed. It is better to leave the property to the future than to divide it now. Let me tell you my reason:

First, I still hope that you can take the property into your own hands now. When you get older, there are many places that need to spend a lot of money, so at least for yourselves, it is guaranteed. At least I want to live in my own house, so I won't feel dependent.

Second, you're welcome to say that my sister and I should do more in the past few years. We don't have to talk about these past things, but in the future, my brother will be filial to you. There must be a story. "

Seeing the property in his hand fly away, his son couldn't help it:

"Say a thousand sentences and ten thousand sentences, or don't you want to give it to me?"

From beginning to end, the boss didn't take a reason the younger brother's attitude:

"Mom and Dad, this is my opinion. If you agree, I will contact you later and make a will. I think this means that you can leave all the houses to your son, but only if he supports you. Not filial, not giving a penny.

You must know that it is your decision to break up and break up, but how the result will affect the whole family. More importantly, we must let our children know what is right and what is wrong. "

Lao Du was silent. While appreciating my eldest daughter's words, I struggled with my own thoughts. Several children have different expressions. The eldest daughter is very calm, the second daughter is uneven, and the younger son is awkward. Every time he tried to talk, he was scared away by the second sister's eyes.

After a long time, Lao Du spoke:

"Eldest brother, you're right.

I've been having an ideological struggle just now, and I remember your aunt coming. I came out early. This is your grandfather's family, but it is my aunt's responsibility to take care of them. I just give them some money regularly. Your grandparents didn't leave a message when they left. I gave up the house in my hometown and gave it all to your aunt. It was very comfortable to do at that time, and now our relationship is also very good.

But this kind of thing is on my own head, but I don't know how to make a decision that you should feel at ease in everything. I only remember my inner peace, but I forgot the question of whether I should be justified or not.

Then according to the division of your grandparents' hometown house, whoever is filial will be left to whom. We talk about the word "home" everyday. There is no contradiction at home, but if it is correct, it should be encouraged. "

The conclusion has been decided.

From Lao Du's point of view, no matter whether he is troubled by thoughts or "confused" at the moment, if he follows the previous decision, it will undoubtedly bury an irreconcilable contradiction in his family-this contradiction cannot be blamed on his two daughters. As a result, I must have suffered the biggest loss myself, and my two daughters suffered a big loss.

The son has his growing environment, which forms his attitude and behavior towards things and family. Parents and sisters have certain responsibilities in this formation process. The fact is set and irreversible, but the follow-up can't be wrong all the time. The means of redemption is to re-establish values-to implement the harmony, filial piety and fairness that we talk about every day.

The distribution of family property is a particularly important means of testing action. This has nothing to do with being greedy for money or not. Why should we be called "greedy for money" because of what we deserve?

The eldest daughter's consideration may have been unfair to the sisters in the past, but on the whole, it has her reasons:

Take care of the relationship between brother and sister. The past is no longer entangled, but the future must change: the house can be left to the younger brother, but the younger brother must support his parents. Take care of parents' feelings. Since Lao Du has this idea of distribution, at least in his mind, he is concerned and tendentious. Tough opposition will bring trouble and trouble to the elderly. From this perspective, it embodies the filial piety to parents. As for whether the two daughters "suffer", this steelyard can only weigh for itself.

Through this matter, I hope to share with you, especially the elderly:

In old age, there is actually a very, very important job: to establish correct values for children. One of the important means of inspection is property distribution-when you are alive, leave the property in your own hands; One hundred years later, through the tool of will, the property will be given to the right person.

The will described above is a conditional will. You can set conditions according to your own meaning, for example, the heir must support it to inherit. The significance of the condition is that there will be no pie in the sky, and you have to pay to get a return-this is fair.