I have been divorced for many years and my son is married. If I find a wife again, what will my daughter-in-law think of me?

There is an old couple in my mother’s community, both of whom are retired cadres. My aunt's surname is Wang, and she has a very good relationship with my mother, so I heard some things about her family from my mother, so I would like to share them with you.

The old couple’s monthly retirement salary is close to 30,000 yuan, and their children are also very promising, so the old couple live a worry-free life. However, although the financial conditions are very good, Aunt Wang is still very frugal and saves money. , in fact, it’s not that I’m reluctant to spend money, it’s that I’ve been used to being thrifty all my life. But something unexpected happened, and last year Aunt Wang died suddenly of a heart attack.

Half a year later, the old man couldn't bear the loneliness and found a wife who was more than 20 years younger than him. Although he was over forty, his charm was still there and he was quite beautiful. The old man is about to turn seventy, find someone in his early forties, haha. The children were opposed to it at first, but the old man was very determined and had no choice but to hire a nanny. Having someone to take care of dad would also give him some peace of mind.

The old man lived a happy life again. He was really willing to spend money on this woman. Gold chains, bracelets, big earrings as big as horse bits, and clothes from big brands costing thousands and tens of thousands. My mother said that your Aunt Wang has been frugal all her life, and she has saved money for others. The most important thing is that this woman was seeing someone outside. She was seen by an acquaintance on a date and told the old man. In anger, the old man suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and became hemiplegic, and the woman also ran away.

Actually, I said that this story has nothing to do with the problem itself. What I want to say is that you must first consider that halfway couples are really not that easy to get along with. Next, discuss it with your children. Third, you must find the right person, and you must know the root and cause. Don't find the wrong person. When the time comes, it will not be a companion, but your life. Fourth, if there is really a good and suitable candidate, there is no need to consider your daughter-in-law's face. A sensible daughter-in-law will not give you a look, but will only wish you well. If you can really find someone who treats you well and take this step bravely, you will be happy, but you must be cautious! !

Live your own life, live your life without looking at other people’s faces, and make your own decisions about your own marriage.

My daughter-in-law is pregnant and my wife has to take care of her. I have been single for just over a month. Only I know the joys and sorrows, so don’t wrong yourself.

The first thing I want to tell you is that your daughter-in-law will generally not have any opinion about your desire to find another wife. Instead, you should care about your son's feelings.

You have been divorced for many years and worked hard to raise your son until he got married and started a family. How can the relationship between you and your son during this process be experienced by ordinary people? I think that if you want to find a wife again, you should discuss it with your son first. Your son is the person who wants you to be happy the most. You will feel more confident if you can get his support and approval. If the son has no objection, the daughter-in-law will generally have no objection either. After all, young people today are still very easy to communicate with.

In fact, regarding your idea of ??finding a wife again, I think that in addition to caring about the feelings of your family, it is more important to consider clearly a series of problems that will arise when reorganizing a family.

At your age, you must be prepared for your own retirement. If you remarry, it will inevitably involve the issue of financial distribution between both parties. And this problem must be handled well, otherwise it will not only make his son unhappy in the end, but also affect his final pension security.

An Uncle Wang I know was introduced to a divorced aunt last year. The aunt has a daughter who is of marriageable age. Uncle Wang was a perfect match for this aunt. In order to please her, he gave the 400,000 he had saved over the years to her daughter as a dowry. Later, Uncle Wang got his wish and got together with this aunt, but the news that he used his savings to marry the aunt's daughter also reached his son's ears. As a result, the son had a quarrel with Uncle Wang and threatened to sever ties with his father.

If you remarry, do you plan to live with your son and daughter-in-law or live in the other person’s home? Of course, the best result is to be able to live alone. But this matter must be explained clearly beforehand, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble to yourself.

My colleague’s mother-in-law has been widowed for many years, and she also got together with a divorced uncle a few years ago. The man has no house and has been living in her mother-in-law's old house. The old house will be demolished in the near future. My colleague is planning to let her mother-in-law move there to live with them, but the uncle refuses to agree and has been staying in the old house and refusing to move. Because of this housing issue, my colleagues and my mother-in-law are very unhappy now.

These are all real cases around me. I believe you will also consider these issues. If you have really thought it through, there is no need to worry about your daughter-in-law. As long as you are truly happy in your later years, your children will definitely support you.

Why do you care so much about other people’s opinions, especially when you are not too young, and still live to satisfy others? Why not think about yourself and make your life more comfortable?

You have to read this in two parts. Let’s talk about finding the boss first!

1. I want to find a wife!

There is no problem at all, and as you said at the beginning, you have been divorced for many years and your son is also married. In this case, you are not ashamed of your ex-wife or your son. There is nothing to hesitate about. Woolen cloth? My son is financially independent and has a family. He is no longer at an age where he is afraid of being mistreated by his stepmother.

The most important thing is that you cannot ask your children to get along with you day and night. First of all, if they are not of the same generation, they will inevitably have different views on many issues, and it is difficult to unify their opinions. Secondly, your child has his own job and his own family, which requires him and most of his energy. It is difficult to spend too much time and energy to accompany you alone. It is difficult for you to find someone to talk to you, and you feel uncomfortable in the middle of the night. No one knows.

2. I am afraid that my daughter-in-law will make irresponsible remarks!

If she really makes irresponsible remarks, it only shows that she is ignorant and does not respect the elderly! I don’t understand the loneliness of the old man! And as an elder, you are afraid and worried about the opinions of the younger generation. Alas, this has to be said to be very sad!

If one day your parents start to be cautious when speaking to you, and start to look at your face with heat, it means that they are really old, and they are no longer fragile. They are completely dependent on you. They are afraid that their children will dislike you or that they will be impatient!

My father passed away many years ago. My mother is a simple but great mother. She is nearly sixty years old this year. If my mother can find a suitable partner, I will be happy. It’s too late! How I wish my mother could still enjoy her own life, instead of spending her whole life just paying for me!

As children, if our parents are still alive and in good health, this is already the best gift God has given us. Even if we go all out to honor the elderly, we still feel that we don’t have enough time. What more could you ask for? As long as the elderly are happy, children will have no problem with it and must support it!

As a member of the younger generation, I am willing to share my personal experience with you

My parents separated very early and started their own families. When I was a child, I was resistant to my stepfather and stepmother. Facts have also proved that few people who are not my biological children can devote themselves wholeheartedly, but after I got married, I felt lucky. They now have wives and live sincerely. This is a huge emotional "burden reduction" for me. "Even if someone says it, it's different. You can't have too many demands on your stepfather or stepmother.

Of course, I have also talked to my wife about your concerns. First of all, she actually has no say in my parents' reorganization of the family. If my parents want to be with each other, she will support it. But she also said that she would not be willing to live together with her step-father-in-law and mother-in-law. Living with her step-father-in-law and mother-in-law must be an undercurrent and full of contradictions, but she couldn’t explain why it was awkward. I can understand what she said, so I mind if you take advantage of it. Now that you are in good health, you can find a wife as soon as possible. Over time, we will get along well with each other, but I don't mind if you live with your son and daughter-in-law. I also believe that she will support you in finding a wife.

It is you who is looking for your wife, not her. Of course, this may affect her, but it depends on how you maintain it. Just try not to trouble your children.

If you are a sensible daughter-in-law, she will definitely think about your happiness in your later years, support you, understand you, and sincerely wish you well.

A smart daughter-in-law will be attentive and helpful to you, and you can enjoy the world of two people. There will be no mother-in-law to steal your husband, and there will be no embarrassment of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law living together. What fun? But not?

The stupid daughter-in-law is worried about her family's property, scruples about her ability to take care of her children, covets the old man's property, and her mind has already entered the palace drama.

All elderly people are invited to pursue their own hearts, exercise their ability to meet fate, and choose their own path in old age.

I know an uncle whose wife died young. He worked hard to raise his son and start a family. Watching his son, daughter-in-law, and grandson’s family chatting and laughing together in a lively manner, he felt very lonely. Later, Someone introduced him to an aunt, and the two of them hit it off very well, but his daughter-in-law was firmly opposed. She took away his uncle's salary card and said that it was okay to find a wife, but he couldn't use his own money, and he would only be given 500 yuan a month at most. Regarding living expenses, the aunt's son found out about the situation and said that it was okay. As long as the mother and uncle could live happily together, the uncle did not need to bear the required expenses. He asked the uncle's daughter-in-law not to have this worry. In the end, the daughter-in-law also felt that Sorry, I returned the salary card to the uncle. After the aunt came over, the two of them took care of the children and did housework for their children. Every year during the Spring Festival, the two families got together like family members and it was very lively.

To care for the elderly, they also need a relative who can accompany them at all times.

If I were your daughter-in-law, I would support you in finding a wife.

You said that you have been divorced for many years and your son is married. I guess you are a woman and your son follows you. The mother and son depend on each other for life. The hardships along the way. Your son will definitely be able to see your efforts, feel sorry for you, and be grateful. I believe your daughter-in-law can also understand how difficult it has been for you over the years. They have their own lives, and you have the freedom to be happy.

As a middle-aged woman, there will be times when you are tired. It is impossible for your son, daughter-in-law and wife to take good care of you. Having a man who can comfort and take care of you will make them feel very relieved. I hope you can. Live happily.

After my second uncle passed away, my second aunt also found a wife. The children on both sides agreed very much. They no longer have to worry about their parents having no one to take care of them. How can they live a good life? It will be more secure to work outside. However, I heard that they did not obtain the certificate, probably to avoid unnecessary disputes in the future. My second aunt said without hesitation that her life was better than that of my second uncle, which made my mother always feel bad for her second brother. We always advised her, her children were very happy, so just relax. Heart. It's actually nice to see her having a good time.

Also, I think that my wife and I should not live with our son and the others. Even if my biological father is together for a long time, there will inevitably be bumps and bruises. If you really don’t have a place to live, renting a house is also a good choice. , distance creates beauty.

No matter what your daughter-in-law thinks, nothing is more important than your own happiness.

In the end, I sincerely hope you live a happy life!

During the long night, there is no one to talk or chat with you! You are the only one! Not your daughter-in-law! I support you in finding another one! I think your daughter-in-law will support you too!

It must be quite difficult for you to live with your son after being divorced for many years! Being a father and a mother again! The children are married and have their own lives, so you don’t have to worry about them! For your son who has never married, you should find a wife now and live the rest of your life well.

If you have the financial resources, I will support you in finding another one. The two are companions and can take care of each other. The children see that the old couple is living well, so there is no need to worry too much! But when a woman comes to you, she is also looking for someone to rely on and a companion. Therefore, two people cannot worry about food and clothing when they are together. In other words, you must have the conditions for two people to live together. In other words, when two people are together, your life will be better than when you are alone! If you don’t have any conditions, it’s best to live on your own!

It is important to stay healthy! Once there is a physical problem, you must have money and manpower to support you! And when you are old, it is the time when young people are working on their careers and you have no time to take care of them! If you have a wife, you can also reduce the burden on your children! Your daughter-in-law will take this into consideration too!

Of course, if you want to find a wife, you can talk to your son and daughter-in-law through others, first explore their ideas, and then discuss in detail what kind of wife you want, how to arrange your future life, etc. !