A word from someone who makes you warm.

1, let me love you, whether sad or happy, whether day or night.

I am warm with you around.

I hope you are happy, but not too happy. It's good to frown occasionally because of me.

4. Don't let the snow stain the bald heads that can't be together.

I want to bury myself in the soil and grow out to sleep next summer. I want to skip these days.

6. People who comfort will never feel the pain that people who have experienced every minute.

7. Fate has decided that this will happen, and it was not until this day that I found that I breathed the air.

8. We all have to learn to bear the inevitable loneliness in life before we can see the beauty and prosperity.

9. When you find yourself deeply in love, you will abandon the ridiculous reserve of girls and go after your favorite lover.

10 I miss you so much. I told you how moved I was.

1 1. If you don't leave the years, will your feelings continue to grow stronger?

12, I don't watch, I don't ask, I don't want to know, but the world is so small, and those news pass through my body like the wind, stinging my heart.

13, insight into the world will make you feel lonely in the city.

When I'm alone,

This may be sad,

Don't forget to comfort yourself,

No matter how sad it is,

Continue tomorrow!

When I'm alone,

Maybe I'll be lonely,

Don't forget to hug yourself,

My heart is warm,

So lonely is nothing!

When I'm alone,

Maybe it's helpless,

Don't forget to remind yourself,

Everyone has his own way to go,

No one can accompany you along the way!

When I'm alone,

Maybe it's cowardly,

Don't forget to encourage yourself,

As long as you are brave,

You can always learn to be strong in this flashy world!

When I'm alone,

Maybe you'll be unhappy,

Don't forget to control your emotions,

Don't hurt important people for your own emotions!

When I'm alone,

When it is cold, remember to wear more clothes;

If you are sad, remember to comfort yourself;

If you are sick, remember to take medicine;

Hungry, remember to eat;

It's raining, remember to take an umbrella.

When I'm alone,

Take care of yourself.

The world is very big,

But not many people are really good to themselves.

No one will always protect themselves,

Try to take care of yourself,

For myself,

More for people who care about themselves!

It is easy to make a person change, but it is difficult to keep a person unchanged.

1, what if it only takes five minutes to charge? Someone will talk to you for two hours.

2. Be kind to people who are kind to themselves. After all, no one has an obligation to be kind to anyone. But don't let your kindness be too cheap, and don't let your kindness be trampled.

3. Women are tools to make human beings, while men are human beings who use tools.

Growing up is never an instant thing, but after swallowing all the ups and downs that life has given you, you finally have that quiet determination.

There is only one you in the world. How can I not cherish it?

6. Life is not to choose, but to live.

7. A good lover is not someone who will never make you cry, but someone who can stand by and dry your tears. -Su Qin

8. What is lovelorn? Will the hand be broken? Can people die?

9. I am very sad. It's not that I can't get into your heart. I'm sorry that you never believe me.

10, it is very simple to make a person, but it is very difficult to make a person unchanged.

1 1, there is no compassion if you can't let go of others in your heart; There is no wisdom if you can't put yourself down in your heart.

12, I don't miss you, I just want to make myself understand that loving you is not the whole of life.

13, stop complaining about how hypocritical and unfair this society is, because we are all accomplices.

14, grab me when I'm trying to be brave and tell me that you love me, ok? Have you behind me to keep out the wind and rain, okay? Tell me you can do it, okay?

15, I don't have an invincible heart, I only have a fragile heart. Everything he said and did touched my heart.

16, yesterday's glory has passed, today's glory needs to be won, and tomorrow's glory needs to be worked hard.

17 I wish I had refrained from being friends.

18, with the heart of all beings; A truly noble person is neither supercilious nor condescending to those who are stronger than himself, and treats those who are weaker equally.

A person's classic talk: a person's night show, a person's carnival, a person's drunkenness, a person's.

1, it's nice to have someone who loves. Actually, I'm fine alone. Life is only a few decades, why not try to die alone?

It took me five years to grow from a girl to a man. A person's night show, a person's carnival, a person's drunkenness, a person's sleep. I want to have a broad mind to embrace this beautiful world, but later I found that the only person who can really embrace is myself.

3. Some things can only be done by one person. Some customs can only go through by one person. There are some roads. You can only go alone.

4. Proud people always destroy themselves in pride.

Don't try to impress someone who doesn't love you with persistence.

6. Maybe a person will be afraid of falling in love for a long time, afraid that that person will change himself too much, afraid that he will be affected too much, and afraid that it will be too much trouble for two people to be together.

7. Only dreams deserve to make you uneasy, and only actions can relieve your uneasiness.

8, too painful wounds, you dare not touch; Too deep sorrow, you dare not comfort; Too cruel, too cruel, sometimes, you don't even dare to look.

9. Nobody likes loneliness, but they don't like disappointment.

10, a person is also quite good, carefree, traveling around the world at home.

1 1. Since you have identified a road, don't ask how long it will take.

12, I thought love could fill the regret in life. However, it has created more regrets. But it happened to be love.

13, instead of relying on inspirational sentences to inspire, it is better to summon up courage to embarrass yourself once.

14, once people are fascinated by their weakness, they will be weak, and they will fall on the street and fall to the ground, which is lower than the ground under the gaze of everyone.

15, even the best things will be lost one day. No matter how deep the memory is, it will be forgotten one day. People who love again will leave one day. No matter how beautiful the dream is, there is also a day to wake up.

Tell me if you hate someone. Hating someone can make you feel better?

Victim complex

Friend c jun is a strong and good man. No matter what kind of conflict occurs, she always occupies an absolutely rational position. In short: I am so nice, so accommodating, so wronged, do you still want to do this? ! You are a naked mistake, so I can do whatever I want with you, because you are a sinner and I am a victim!

C lives with her parents-in-law when she needs someone to take care of her children. Of course, there are frictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Husband is a person who is not good at dealing with the contradiction between two women, which often makes her feel very dissatisfied. Slowly, the contradiction between C and her in-laws became more and more fierce. Of course, they are bored with each other, and everyone thinks the other is wrong.

When they got married, my father-in-law promised that the young couple would invest in buying a house in the future. However, when their children were born and needed to settle down and buy a house, my father-in-law stopped paying for various reasons. Of course, parents have no obligation to sponsor their children to buy a house, but after all, they promised to go back on their word temporarily, which made C and her husband very angry. Helpless, they owe a large amount of foreign debt, which makes C's husband completely chilling and firmly draws a line with his parents, feeling that their parents are too cruel.

Sometimes, love is deep and hate is strong. The closer you are, the higher your expectations are, and if you are slightly dissatisfied, you can't help but hate it. C relieved: I have long said it was your parents' fault, but now I believe it. Anyway, I don't have to associate with them in the future. Stay away from them. Because they are wrong, we are victims, so we can ignore them with peace of mind and treat them as we want. Who told you to do something wrong?

However, on holidays, C's husband no longer receives phone calls and greetings from his family, and he hasn't been home to see his parents for a long time. C can see that he is very sad. Hating someone can't make things simple, let alone make both sides feel better. Just use one thing to punish each other, the time is uncertain, because I am an absolute victim, I will not forgive.

Once, C told me these things, and his face seemed to be enjoying Roewe as a victim. Yes, you hurt me. You are very unreasonable, and you continue to be unreasonable again and again. I have absolute public opinion and moral commanding heights. Although I am a victim, I have the advantage of blaming, and I can constantly scold your mistakes. All my dissatisfaction and complaints have been satisfied in this repeated reprimand.

When I started to explain something from the perspective of Mr. C's parents-in-law, Mr. C immediately panicked and stopped me from continuing. Yes, she doesn't want to accept any of their reasons and difficulties, because once they have a reasonable excuse, then I am not a victim, I have no right to continue to blame, I can't just ignore them, I can't shirk all my responsibilities, I need to accept my own problems and learn how to get along with them.

Obviously, this is what C doesn't want to do, because she can't learn to get along with her parents-in-law, and can't face her own problems and change herself. She wants to cover up her mistake, so she would rather be a victim, so she doesn't have to do anything. It is much easier to hate someone than to change yourself.

Sometimes, the victim seems to be in a weak position, but it is a shield that you unconsciously wear and can be used repeatedly. The subtext is: it's all your fault. You are so miserable. You did something wrong. Then you have no reason to ask me for anything, so that I refuse to grow and change. After all, it is too painful to admit that you are not good.

It's your fault.

Little d had a car accident in high school. At that time, his face was scarred. He was depressed for a time, stayed at home and never went to school again. He was admitted to the county key high school, but because his father didn't solve the hukou problem for him, he could only go to an ordinary high school, so he has been suffering. It was in that ordinary high school that he had an accident. Although there are scars, I can't see them now. The brain has been traumatized and has healed.

However, he blamed the car accident on his father because he didn't solve the hukou problem. He was studying in a key high school, so he wouldn't have an accident. It seems that the reason is far-fetched Even in ordinary high schools, accidents can only be accidents or carelessness. You can't blame anyone. Even if you go to a key high school, you may not have an accident.

But the identity of the victim can make him constantly condemn his father, so he can not be responsible for himself. So, after the accident, although he basically recovered, he never went to school again and was parasitic at home. Up to now, men in their thirties have sound limbs, a clear head and no visible problems, but they don't go to work and are idle, treating themselves as a basket case, waiting for their parents to raise them.

A lie will become a fact if told a hundred times, so my father always thinks that he destroyed the child, so he bears the crime, thus supporting a disabled person with sound limbs without complaint.

The identity of the victim can make little D feel at ease to enjoy this compensation. He can always enjoy the preferential treatment of others when he was a child, without paying, taking responsibility for his laziness, growing and changing.

Lin's husband cheated her, but she chose to forgive and they continued their marriage. But Lin will get more and more angry because of some trivial things. Her husband retorted a little, and she angrily accused: you have done something sorry for me, and you have the face to ask me. I can forgive you for being very tolerant!

When they are together, there always seems to be a dark cloud.

There is a lingering resentment in Lin's heart, which may erupt at any time. All unhappiness will lead to accusations. I always forget to mend the knife in the end. You betrayed me! The subtext is: I am a victim, and nothing you can do can eliminate my dissatisfaction, so I can always complain about your mistakes with confidence. In this relationship, no matter what you do, you can't change your status as a sinner, but I can do whatever I want with you, because I am a victim and I don't need to face my problems.

This is an unbalanced relationship. Men may break their jars for a long time, and women may become more and more dissatisfied. Of course, the problem of marriage repair requires great wisdom. If you decide to forgive, you need to vent your resentment and ask for an explanation. Otherwise, mutual compromise is just torture to each other.

Hate, like an energy, will not disappear, either to yourself or to others.

It doesn't mean that when a person is very bad to you, we just submit to humiliation and don't resent it. But in the face of unreasonable treatment, when arguments and efforts still cannot be changed, choose to seek your own strength. After all, there are always some people who have no bottom line of morality and principle. If we want to hinder ourselves because we can't let go of our resentment against them, we will lose more.

I read in an article that nelson mandela, a South African hero who led the anti-apartheid struggle, was imprisoned and tortured in Rhode Island for 27 years. At his inauguration ceremony, he respectfully paid tribute to the three guards who had imprisoned him, which made all the guests present and even the whole world quiet. He said: When I walked out of my cell and walked through the prison gate leading to freedom, I knew that if I couldn't leave my sadness and resentment behind, I would still be in prison.

If you really can't let go of the feeling of hate, it won't disappear out of thin air, but it will grow in your heart, either attacking yourself or attacking people around you. Like a depressed volcano, restless.

In the end, it is just to turn yourself and others' lives into victims of hatred.

The scourge of being born into a family

We know that most of a person's problems are caused by his early family background. Parenting problems, early trauma and separation, family environment problems. Traumatic psychologists believe that children have formed a lifelong interpersonal relationship model and sense of security through interaction with caregivers (parents) before they begin to speak and acquire language and thinking skills. It can be seen that parental rearing patterns and family environment have great influence on children.

Many people find their own problems: lack of love, insecurity and bad intimacy, all of which are parents' problems, and then they begin to resent and blame their parents. Then I regarded myself as a victim and rightfully turned a deaf ear to all kinds of problems. Anyway, it's not my fault. It's all about my parents' early upbringing. I'm not responsible for it. I don't need to make changes, that's all. I have no choice.

Is it easy to put the problem on others? Being a victim can make you feel better, but it's just a kind of self-deception, because it's just a reason for you to refuse to grow and change.

We can't change other people's attitudes towards you, our origins and parents, and the fact that others will always hurt your external environment, but that doesn't mean you can be depressed and give up on yourself. Remember, we are capable of making changes at any time.