Please view the "Buddhist" life correctly

I don’t know when the word “Buddhist” suddenly became very popular.

After searching on Baidu, the original "Buddhist type" came from the "Buddhist type man" in a Japanese magazine in 2014. Such men often have the following characteristics: their own interests and hobbies always come first, and basically want to do everything in the way and rhythm they like. I always find love too troublesome and don't want to waste time and energy on it. I don't even want to find a girlfriend. I would rather live alone. Later, "Buddhist girls", "Buddhist youths" and so on were gradually derived.

As a result, "Buddhist teachers" and "Buddhist parents" slowly appeared. I have to mention one of my classmates. She is my good friend in college. She has a cheerful and generous personality and a sweet appearance. Actively participate in various activities in school, participate in student unions, clubs, be positive, and work hard for various honors. After graduation, I went to teach English in an experimental middle school in Xianyang. That day, I encountered a teaching bottleneck, so I chatted with her and wanted to learn from her. So, I complained to her that nowadays junior high school students are polarized in learning English. Good students are extremely good, while bad students are so bad that they can’t find the edge. The more this happens, the less willing they are to memorize words and memorize texts. As a tutor, each lesson must have its own tasks and effects. This is also a responsibility and a commitment. But sometimes it’s really hard to do what you want.

The result was beyond my expectation. She told me calmly, why are you so obsessed? They are not anxious about their own studies and their own future, and neither are their parents. Why are you anxious? I am very "Buddhist" now, and I have fulfilled my responsibilities. As for learning what they can learn, there is nothing I can do about those who really don't. No wonder I am. You should learn from me.

After hearing what she said, I was very shocked. Where has the girl who strived to be first in everything in college gone? How could this happen? She told me that it was because so many years of coaching were hard work. She was once full of enthusiasm and never looked back until she hit the wall, but in the end she still suffered a lot, so now everything is just passable. I also have a family and children, so I should leave some energy and time for them.

If you think about it carefully, what she said is correct. What was once full of ideals has slowly been polished into smooth cobblestones by the bits and pieces of life. It is certainly wrong to be a Buddhist teacher, but if parents cooperate more and children work harder, the teacher's passion will definitely still be surging.

? Talking about Buddhist parents, I once had a student. He is a very smart boy who has been learning English with me since he was in the third grade of elementary school. He especially likes to listen to English songs. Every class comes with an English song that he has learned to share with me. Because it's on the way, every time after school, he will definitely wait for me to finish packing and go home together. The relationship with me is also quite harmonious.

But the only shortcoming is that homework is often not done. For this reason, I communicated with his mother many times, but his mother never agreed. She thinks that as long as his children are happy, they can learn as much as they can. She didn't ask for anything from me either. So the children grew up in a particularly relaxed and free environment. There is no homework pressure, and it is common to have a mobile phone with you at all times, playing king and chicken in the middle of the night. His mother also posts on Douyin every day and poses for various photos. I went on a trip for half a month, and my child stayed at home with my grandma. As parents, it’s okay to have your own lifestyle, and there’s nothing wrong with all kinds of entertainment. But, for children, is this kind of "happiness" really good? I tried to change his mother's mind but failed. Finally, when the child reached the second grade of junior high school, he gradually became less cheerful. Suddenly one day I was blacklisted. I called the child's mother and she said that he had stopped going to school. As a result, I learned from other children that the child had dropped out of school. I was very shocked that a child who was once so good suddenly dropped out of school. He is only 14 years old, and all that awaits him in the future are excavators, barbers, chefs, construction sites, etc. I can't say that his life will definitely not be good in the future, but at least in higher-level fields, he should not be around anymore. He is destined to run for his own livelihood.

I don’t want to say that it was his parents who ruined him, at least half of the responsibility is there.

If his parents had told him early on that people are born with responsibilities and freedom is relative. If you have to work hard for your future, I believe this child will not end up like this.

"Buddhism" means having no desires or pursuits, being calm and calm, neither sad nor happy, which is an attitude towards life. However, as parents, we should not risk our children’s future for being “Buddhist”. Speaking of teachers, if you meet a teacher who is particularly serious, nagging, and often "looking for trouble" for your parents, you should really feel lucky! At least he/she must be a responsible teacher!

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