When a girl gets married, how much dowry should her family give her?

Recently, I have received a lot of inquiries backstage about betrothal gifts and dowries. In fact, there is no right or wrong answer to this question, it's just that everyone has different understandings of betrothal gifts.

Today I will tell you about the issue of betrothal gifts and dowry, how to balance it better?

First of all, let’s talk about what a betrothal gift is.

We all know that China is a country that pays attention to etiquette, and the most important part of etiquette is "money". Therefore, when getting married, the man's family will pay a certain amount of money to the woman's family, which is the so-called "betrothal gift", also called betrothal gift.

Then, here comes the question. Since money is given, why is it called "bride price" in some places and "marriage money", "accompaniment money", "change of mouth money", etc. in other places? What about these different terms: "meeting gift", "basket money", "additional money", "makeup fee", etc.? What's the significance of this?

In fact, the reason why it is so There are so many names because in ancient times, people believed that once a man and a woman got married, they became a family and should share the joys and sorrows, hardships and joys. Therefore, in order to express this relationship, people There will be gifts for the man’s family.

However, in modern society, people's ideas have changed a lot. Many people no longer regard marriage as a transaction, but as a sacred thing. Therefore, people nowadays rarely mention betrothal gifts and the like, but focus more on weddings.

Secondly, let’s talk about dowry.

The so-called dowry actually refers to the dowry items prepared by a woman’s family for her when she gets married, including gold and silver jewelry, clothing, quilts, shoes and other daily necessities, as well as large items such as furniture and electrical appliances.

Of course, "dowry items" (or "accompaniments") are not all of a woman's net worth. They usually only account for about 30% of the total property, or even lower. In other words, if the woman’s family cannot provide 300,000 yuan, the man’s family will not ask the woman to provide 500,000 yuan as a dowry for their son.

So, this number is only a rough range.

Finally, let’s talk about how to balance the relationship between the two.

In fact, whether it is before or after marriage, as long as two people have a harmonious relationship and can face various difficulties in life together, they don't need to worry about these details. After all, the life of a couple is a matter of two people, and there is no need to make their relationship tense because of these things.