The movie "Wedding and Funeral": How will we die?

This is a realistic film. At the beginning of the film, an 85-year-old grandmother went to the gate and hugged a corn stalk. There were firecrackers everywhere outside. And his children are discussing whether to send her to a nursing home. Listening to the children's comments, the old man was busy making feather badminton for his great-granddaughter. Soon, the two grandchildren sang again.

Most nursing homes are elderly people in their seventies and eighties, and their children are unable or unwilling to take care of them. Many children leave their parents here, but they pay. The song played in the nursing home turned out to be "the kindness of parents is greater than ever …", which is ironic. The bed inside is so tight that grandma can't live in it, so she can only take turns living in each family.

First, I went to the home of my third son who drives a private car and lives in a house in the city. The grandmother wearing a blue round neck shirt, thick trousers and white hair was naturally rejected by Third Grandma. The bedding daughter-in-law she brought asked her husband to put it directly in the storage room. Bowls and chopsticks are separated from family. The leather sofa on which she sat was specially paved with a white Puckilo, and even where the old man walked, the daughter-in-law would drag it for several times. At the dinner table, the haggard grandmother couldn't get a word in. After dinner, she can only sit in the bedroom and ask the Bodhisattva to bless the children. Granddaughter went to work in the south without saying a word. The angry daughter-in-law thought that it must be the grandmother and granddaughter, and ordered the grandmother to kneel in front of her and ask loudly. Finally, the old man had to leave and went to his second daughter's house. When I left, my daughter-in-law was silent and didn't keep anything. Directly threw all the things used by the old man in the corridor. That deep disgust is probably unbearable.

The second daughter sells pancakes, and the son-in-law runs a canteen. Because she has to take care of the elderly, the second daughter has to collect the stalls early every day, and she will earn dozens of dollars less every day. Besides, there is a granddaughter and great-granddaughter to take care of at home, so her family is very upset. One day, her daughter asked, "Mom, do you want to die?"

"If you don't want to die, you have to die." The old man said

"Mom, you said you would come. How did you get this disease? It's really painful. "

The old man can only sigh, which is her most helpless place.

Once the son-in-law was cheated by street hooligans for thousands of dollars, and the whole family was very poor, so we had to send the old lady back to the second son's house who taught in the village. Second Daughter-in-law is a stubborn bitch, insisting, "Whoever is sick at home is in charge." The third daughter-in-law relaxed herself and followed suit.

The second daughter suddenly got angry and roared, "Where's the money from big brother and big sister?" Mom's money and house are for you, so you should take care of them. "

The third daughter-in-law also said, "Yes, where is the money?"

Immediately caused a war, and soon the three families fought. Grandma can only go back to her second daughter's house. Unexpectedly, the son-in-law of the second daughter died unexpectedly, and their family fell into endless darkness. The old man had to go back to his second son's house because he often smiled bitterly at his fate. Bodhisattva was thrown away by her son, often scolded by her daughter-in-law, and finally sent to the bullpen. The poor old man took the medicine and committed suicide the next day.

After her death, the band invited to the funeral told stories for a while and danced gaudy for a while. Everyone is happy, especially her children. They feel relieved. The death of the old man is a relief for them.

I immediately thought of a variety show "Adventure Life" I watched recently. Aya invited Mao to Taiwan Province Province for music therapy. How can those old people who are dying slowly, those who are severely disabled, those who are insane, those who have Down syndrome, and even those who are in a vegetative state die? Young people engaged in public welfare bring joy to the elderly with music and warm their lives with music.

There is a narrator in it, "Let's listen to how music soothes the scourge of time and see how the old, the weak and the sick in life can be comforted in the melody." In this impetuous society, some people are willing to point the finger at those who are dying. Old people are not our past, but their today is our tomorrow. How we treat them is essentially how we treat ourselves.

Middle-aged people invest so much manpower, financial resources and material resources in child-rearing, but when they treat the elderly, they just hope that they will not give us any trouble. Music therapy is an attempt. We should discuss the problem of parents' old-age care more, rather than let nature take its course, and then we will talk about it. Because parents will not always wait for you in the same place, the most painful pain is that it is too late. Throughout our life, what we want most is actually the approval of our parents, and establishing a better and smoother relationship with our parents will make us face our aging more bravely and not be afraid.