13.25 Confucius said: "a gentleman has a word that is easy to say, but it is not smooth, and it is not smooth.

13.25 Confucius said: "a gentleman has a word that is easy to say, but it is not smooth, and it is not smooth. It also allows people, this device. It's easy for the villain to say something difficult. It doesn't matter, but it's said. It also makes people want to be prepared. "

Let's talk about whether your leader is a gentleman or a villain, or whether you are a leader, and see if you are a "gentleman leader" or a "villain leader".

The "speaking" here is "yue", the joy of yue. It is easy for a gentleman to serve under him, but it is difficult for you to please him. He won't like you if you try to please him in an improper way. However, when he hires people, he always uses them according to their ability. He can let you give full play to your talents without demanding what you can't do.

It's different when villains are leaders. It is difficult for a villain to serve his work, but it is easy to please him. If you flatter him in an improper way, he will like you very much. But when he wants to recruit people, he will be very demanding and picky about you. You must do everything he asks!

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Comrades, it's half past six again. Let's continue to study The Analects.

As usual, before learning a new chapter, let's review what we learned yesterday. What I learned yesterday was a conversation between Zi Gong and Confucius.

13.24? Zi Gong asked, "The country people are all good, so what?" Confucius said, "There is nothing I can do." "The villagers are all evil, so what?" Confucius said, "There is nothing I can do. Not as good as the villagers, and the bad is evil. "

This passage is actually a comment about how to look at others.

A person, if everyone says he is good, is he really good? Confucius said: Not necessarily.

Then Zigong asked again, and everyone said he was not good. Is he a good guy or a bad guy? Confucius said: It's hard to say.

So what are the standards for good people and bad people?

That is: good people say he is good, bad people say he is bad, good people love him, and bad people hate him more. This is the real good guy, which is the real good guy.

Why? Everyone says he is good, so why not? Some people will be very good, say yes to everyone, yes or no, often in this way, he will have no principles and become a good person.

A real gentleman is not like this. He will do the right thing. But he has principles and positions, and he will point out and correct anything that is incorrect.

He has principles for bad people. The criticism of the criticism, the blame of the blame, the requirement of the request, and the punishment of the punishment.

. Therefore, a good person can really feel his goodness, which is why he is said to be good. But the bad guy will be punished, and he will be called the bad guy.

If everyone doesn't like it, there must be something wrong with it. It's so maverick.

And what we have to do is to make some people love us and some people hate us. This is the benevolent.

Because the values are clear, the love and hate are clear, and they are not mixed. In other words, we don't ask everyone to like us.

Well, after a brief review of yesterday's content, let's learn a new chapter.

Then this chapter is about gentlemen and villains. In fact, it is also about leadership, how to be a good leader, or how to distinguish a good leader and see how he gets along with others. Let's look at the original.

Confucius said, "It is easier said than done by a gentleman. Don't say it if you don't say it. It also allows people, this device. It's easy for the villain to say something difficult. It doesn't matter, but it's said. It also makes people want to be prepared. "

This chapter is especially suitable for human resource management, that is, selecting and employing people, or how to tell whether your leader is a leader worthy of following or a leader with no future. Master these words, and you will basically understand.

First of all, let's talk about what is said here: Tong Yue, Huan Xi.

This chapter also has to talk about whether your leader is a gentleman or a villain, or whether you are a leader, and see if you are a gentleman leader or a villain leader.

What are the characteristics of a gentleman as a leader?

Just a gentleman is easy to serve or get along with. It is easy for you to work under him, but it is difficult for you to please him. He won't like you if you please him in an improper way.

For example, we give gifts to leaders and buy small things. It is difficult to ask the leader to promote and reuse me. He won't value you just because you invite him to dinner and give him a gift.

What did he use? When he employs people, he will know how to be good and do what he can. Whatever talent you have, he can let you play and let you give full play to your talents.

As we all know, in the previous chapter, Confucius said that Zi Gong was Hu Lian, which means that although Zi Gong didn't meet the standard of a gentleman, he was a heavy weapon of the country, Hu Lian.

If Confucius is the leader, he can put Zigong in the most suitable position and play his due role. What if I can't do it? If he can't do it, he won't demand perfection.

That little man is different when he becomes a leader. He is difficult to serve, it is difficult for you to work under him, and it is difficult for you to work with him. But you can easily win his favor, such as giving him some small gifts, inviting him to drink and eat, inviting him to a coffee shop or going on a business trip to find a place to play, and he is very happy.

In this way, he will like you very much and look good, but when it comes to employing people, he will be very demanding and picky about you. You must do everything he asks. If you can't do it, if something goes wrong, he will blame it all on you. One hundred is good and one is not. If he sees it, you are not good.

What is this paragraph about? It's actually a question of leadership. If a gentleman wants to be a leader, he must first take the leadership responsibility himself and use it after measuring his subordinates. Didn't we say that the container is what it is? Let him do what he can.

If someone doesn't do a good job, first of all, we should review whether we have arranged the wrong person. He used to have only one barrel, so you have to let him fill a can. This shows that we have made improper arrangements, that is to say, where he is suitable for taking on much responsibility, we will use him and re-evaluate the use of him.

The second is how to help him, encourage him, improve him, let him expand his ability and let him take on greater responsibilities.

In fact, this requires a high level of leadership, that is, people can be well understood.

An example is Duke Zhou, whose son Boqin went to Lu to be king instead of him. Duke Zhou taught him: Never ask for a person. Just don't blame others for their perfection.

If you are the leader and leave everything to one person, what's the use of asking you? Therefore, after he left for Shandong, he took the leadership responsibility himself, promoted people who could be reused, and let them take their positions and coordinate with each other. Therefore, Lu was actually very good at first, which was related to the fact that Duke Zhou and he were both gentlemen, who could employ people, tolerate people, promote people and exercise people.

Let me talk about Confucius again. His disciple Ceng Zi once said, "Confucius sees the good in people and forgets all the bad things. It's easy for a master.

It is Confucius who sees a little advantage of others and easily forgets a hundred shortcomings of others. So Confucius is easy to serve and get along with. Why?

If a person has obvious advantages, he can take advantage of them. Isn't that valuable? Just use it well. Therefore, we generally say that we should use the strengths of people, avoid their weaknesses, and use their strengths.

Don't worry about the rest. Let him give full play to his strengths and he will be very happy. Everyone will be happy to help improve and get things done. Why not?

That little leader is different. Why?

Because first of all, he has no idea in his heart, which is empty and empty to his subordinates. He doesn't know what characteristics and abilities his subordinates have.

Besides squeezing everyone desperately, let's see where we can squeeze something out.

He was very happy when you buttered him up. You give him something, invite him to dinner, invite him to drink, and he is very kind to you.

But when you work, he will still kill you. If something goes wrong, it's all your problem. Why not do it well? If another big leader blames you, let you carry it, let you carry it and blame you.

Think about it, are you afraid of such a leader? And the villain is the leader. He is not meritocratic, but cronyism. I will hire anyone who flatters me and is kind to my personal relationship.

Tell me another story. According to historical records, there was a A Qiu named Yang Zhen in the Eastern Han Dynasty. He is honest and meritocratic.

Once Yang Zhen passed by Changyi, and Changyi, who was promoted by him, asked Wang Mi to prepare 10 Jin of gold in return for his promotion, and delivered it to Yang Zhen's residence in the dead of night.

Yang Zhen not only refused to accept it, but also seriously criticized him. Wang Mi said: It is already late at night, and no one knows the gold I sent. Please accept it. This is an expression of your gratitude, not a bribe.

Yang Zhen said: Heaven knows the earth, you know me. How can you say that no one knows?

After being condemned, Wang Mi was deeply moved by the teacher's demeanor and retired in shame.

The story of Yang Zhen's "Twilight" has a far-reaching influence, so later people call Yang Zhen Mr. Si Zhi. Heaven knows the earth, you know me. Don't think that no one knows. Later generations therefore called Yang Zhen "Mr. Si".

From Yang Zhen, can we really appreciate Confucius' gentlemanly demeanor of "easy things are hard to say"? The wind of a gentleman lies in getting along well. Just do your own thing and give play to your talents. You don't have to please me, please me with gifts and bribes.

Then let's talk about the example of the villain.

Little leader, be kind to him, and he will be very happy. He doesn't care even if the way to please him is immoral. On the surface, everyone is happy, but in fact, such people are not easy.

For example, a favorite of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty was Yang, who was Yang Guifei's brother and became prime minister through Yang Guifei's relationship. After he came to power, he acted arbitrarily and degenerated.

Chen Xilie, the left prime minister, didn't like his character and behavior, so Yang Guozhong simply kicked him out.

In order to please him, subordinate officials often give him all kinds of treasures, servile.

In selecting and employing people, Yang abandoned the talents in the world and used them, taking his own likes and dislikes as the standard. He ignored the national laws and regulations, invited the small officials in charge of selecting officials to his home, prepared the list in advance, and monopolized the power of employing people.

Then the country was in chaos.

Yang is a standard villain because he is "difficult to deal with, easy to please and prepared".

People say that a gentleman can't please him? It is not impossible.

Pleasure should have its own way, that is, it is not difficult to make a gentleman happy. What should I do? Do what you should do, do your job and give full play to your talents.

You are proactive, responsible for the leader, want to think what the leader thinks, and how to do it in this matter, so that he can rest assured. When he is relieved, he will give you more things to do.

Then when there is a position suitable for you, he will promote and reuse you because you have the ability to play this role, not because you have a good relationship with me, you gave me a mobile phone and what you gave me. This is a gentleman leader.

It is easy for a gentleman to lead the whole unit, so that everyone can be positive and put their minds in the right place. As a result, this unit, company or country will prosper.

When a villain wants to be a leader, he will lead a company or a department in the direction of no enthusiasm, serious nepotism and lack of vitality.

Because everyone is focusing on how to please and how not to make mistakes, and mistakes are to be blamed, so how to play?

Either stay here, or fly away, can't stay, that's not a harmonious growth environment and soil!

For us, if we are subordinates, how can we do it? How to get along with good leaders?

If we are leaders, how can we become such leaders? How to choose people, choose people and know people?

This is a science.

We remember this passage of Confucius: it's easier said than done by a gentleman, but it's not right, and it's not right. It also allows people, this device.

With this standard, you will know what a gentleman leader is.

On the contrary: it is difficult for a villain, but easier said than done. It is difficult for you to have sex with him, because he blames you for everything, but you are easy to please him. Give him a present.

But you should also pay attention that if something goes wrong, you should bear the responsibility, and he will also put the responsibility on you.

If you are a leader, be a gentleman leader. It's easier said than done.

Ok, today's time is up, so let's stop here.

At 6: 30 tomorrow morning, we will continue to learn the next chapter.

Confucius said, "A gentleman is Thai but not arrogant, and a villain is arrogant but not Thai."

Then the next chapter is about the difference between a gentleman and a villain. They are opposites, arrogant but not Thai, Thai but not arrogant. So what is arrogance and what is Thai?

Let's meet here at 6: 30 tomorrow to study and discuss together.